the art of wooing

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violakat

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thimsrebma said:
u speak for me too, sister.
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Ditto

Men, have confidence in yourself. Believe it or not, nothing is more attractive than confidence. Just don't confuse it with arrogance.
 
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Some people are just dense and require a subpoena to appear on dates.

Part of the whole appeal of a woman her ability to understand what my intentions are. I'm not going to chase her like an African Lion pouncing on a WaterBuffalo.

I believe that there is a natural progression to a relationship. One where a couple didn't go from strangers/coworkers to BOOM! dating. I would prefer toe be someone's best friend first. Which means not being overt or writing yes or no on a piece of paper.

Otherwise a cold pick up on someone makes me feel like I am looking for something else or that I don't really care about them enough to want to be friends first.
 
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Yeah, I think the consensus on here has become too simplistic. This idea that a "REAL man" would just take charge and grab the bull by the horns breaks down for yet another reason. Thing is, the only times I personally would do that is if the girl is an absolute drop dead gorgeous 10.5 on a scale of 10. You can say that a guy is talking your ears off and why doesn't he get to the point, but what I don't think women necessarily understand is that it might not just be a case of trying to work over our own shyness but rather also justify to ourselves that this particular girl is even worth bothering with. Funny how women like to complain about superficialness and then set things up so looks are going to be THE dominant (and maybe only) factor in the chase.
 
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What happened to the caveman day's when you just needed a club. One whack over the head and they were your's to drag off!! :)
 
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violakat

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phil36 said:
What happened to the caveman day's when you just needed a club. One whack over the head and they were your's to drag off!! :)
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Just as long as you don't kill when you do it.
 
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persecuted

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I was thinking after I posted last night that this thread has become self serving. Women CAN say that men are supposed to be more manly, men CAN say that women should be more proactive which is all fine BUT let us talk about reality now.... if all of us are single, and this is all part of it, then I guess we are going to all have to adjust ourselves accordingly both male and female because otherwise this is just another wish list rather than talking reality of what its gonna take to end your singleness.

So ladies, if you can't find men that are gonna woo you, I guess you're gonna have to step up to the plate and take steps that will get one to go for you. And I guess we men who cry about being single will have to adjust accordingly too. This is all very clear to me now because I go to events sometimes where I meet lots of women and feel bad that I screwed up with the hot one and feel a little guilty that I walked away on a bunch of other girls who weren't exactly ugly, but they just weren't #1. Gotta say, if one of the other ones had said something to encourage me, maybe I would have... but like I say, end of the day, only #1 is gonna be on my mind with any regrets.
 
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thimsrebma

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persecuted said:
I was thinking after I posted last night that this thread has become self serving. Women CAN say that men are supposed to be more manly, men CAN say that women should be more proactive which is all fine BUT let us talk about reality now.... if all of us are single, and this is all part of it, then I guess we are going to all have to adjust ourselves accordingly both male and female because otherwise this is just another wish list rather than talking reality of what its gonna take to end your singleness.

So ladies, if you can't find men that are gonna woo you, I guess you're gonna have to step up to the plate and take steps that will get one to go for you. And I guess we men who cry about being single will have to adjust accordingly too. This is all very clear to me now because I go to events sometimes where I meet lots of women and feel bad that I screwed up with the hot one and feel a little guilty that I walked away on a bunch of other girls who weren't exactly ugly, but they just weren't #1. Gotta say, if one of the other ones had said something to encourage me, maybe I would have... but like I say, end of the day, only #1 is gonna be on my mind with any regrets.
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I don't really get what you mean by "step up to the plate and take steps that will get them to go for you" What do you suggest we should do to get their attention. We are not talking about guys whop are not interested, but guys who seem to be but just don't have enuf courage to say so.

And how would the guys "adjust accordingly"?
 
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See_KING_Truth

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girlnextdoor said:
okay so the main consensus I'm getting here is that men are too afraid to step up and actually ask women out anymore. Because women have been rude or hurtful to them in the past. Got it. I know I speak only for myself, but I want a man to make his intentions known. I don't have enough time or energy to sit around and analyze every syllable a man utters, not to mention if he's leaaaaaaaning you know leeeeeaaaaaning? like in while you where sleeping.
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Some men are afraid, that does not apply to all men. A lot of guys are also hesitant because they don't want to come on too soon and creep the woman out I guess.
 
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violakat

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See_KING_Truth said:
Some men are afraid, that does not apply to all men. A lot of guys are also hesitant because they don't want to come on too soon and creep the woman out I guess.
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I admit, if a guy wanted me to go meet his parents the minute he met me, I would be creeped out. But if he asked me out, more than likely I would be flattered, not creeped.
 
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Jullianna

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phil36 said:
lol stalkeresque.
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Ha ha :) I didn’t mean that I suddenly begin bombarding the object of my affection with stuff or anything like that. ;) Only that I think it’s important to let your guy know from time to time in special ways that you were thinking of him.

Is this something most guys appreciate (the men in my life have loved it and said no on had ever done those things for them before, but…) or do they think it’s silly? Just curious...
 
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See_KING_Truth

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Could you have gotten the images any larger?! lol I prefer to do the wooing with actions and words, not with money and material things. That would just be a bonus. And no, I am not a tightwad btw lol.

Her satisfaction from money only lasts until your bank account has been depleted.

The thrill of driving a new mustang only last until the next car payment is due.

Wooing by thoughtful gestures and sincere words....PRICELESS
 
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Jullianna

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persecuted said:
I was thinking after I posted last night that this thread has become self serving. Women CAN say that men are supposed to be more manly, men CAN say that women should be more proactive which is all fine BUT let us talk about reality now.... if all of us are single, and this is all part of it, then I guess we are going to all have to adjust ourselves accordingly both male and female because otherwise this is just another wish list rather than talking reality of what its gonna take to end your singleness.

So ladies, if you can't find men that are gonna woo you, I guess you're gonna have to step up to the plate and take steps that will get one to go for you. And I guess we men who cry about being single will have to adjust accordingly too. This is all very clear to me now because I go to events sometimes where I meet lots of women and feel bad that I screwed up with the hot one and feel a little guilty that I walked away on a bunch of other girls who weren't exactly ugly, but they just weren't #1. Gotta say, if one of the other ones had said something to encourage me, maybe I would have... but like I say, end of the day, only #1 is gonna be on my mind with any regrets.
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I'm so glad you posted this because after I read that you would only approach the 10+ ladies and followed with a comment about "superficialness", I was laughing and thinking...pot...kettle...black.

This one is much better. :)
 
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Jullianna

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See_KING_Truth said:
Could you have gotten the images any larger?! lol I prefer to do the wooing with actions and words, not with money and material things. That would just be a bonus. And no, I am not a tightwad btw lol.

Her satisfaction from money only lasts until your bank account has been depleted.

The thrill of driving a new mustang only last until the next car payment is due.

Wooing by thoughtful gestures and sincere words....PRICELESS
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Umm..huh? *hiding my Mustang*
 
phil36

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Jullianna said:
Ha ha :) I didn’t mean that I suddenly begin bombarding the object of my affection with stuff or anything like that. ;) Only that I think it’s important to let your guy know from time to time in special ways that you were thinking of him.

Is this something most guys appreciate (the men in my life have loved it and said no on had ever done those things for them before, but…) or do they think it’s silly? Just curious...
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lol Nope, contrary to popular belief men like it :)
 
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Jullianna

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I’m just teasing you, McCharming. I agree. It’s not about stuff. It’s about the heart. I can buy my OWN stuff. J
 
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See_KING_Truth

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Jullianna said:
I’m just teasing you, McCharming. I agree. It’s not about stuff. It’s about the heart. I can buy my OWN stuff. J
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:p That is not to say that I wouldn't buy a woman gifts and pay the tab on a date, but I don't think that gifts and money can buy love. :)
 
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Jullianna

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No, they absolutely cannot. You're right. And I do think it's the little things we do for one another everyday that show how we feel. That's kind of the point I was trying to make..too hurriedly.

From the looks of that avatar, my previous post really scared ya, huh? haha
 
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See_KING_Truth

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Jullianna said:
From the looks of that avatar, my previous post really scared ya, huh? haha
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lol that is an example of what happens when you spend too much time in front of a computer...:eek:
 
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allforfun

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See_KING_Truth said:
:p That is not to say that I wouldn't buy a woman gifts and pay the tab on a date, but I don't think that gifts and money can buy love. :)
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No truer words have been spoken. I make my own money, but I can't write my own love notes to myself. Well, I could, but it might confuse the voices and I try at all costs to do that.
 
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