Does an ex-husband have to pay alimony if his ex-wife has a full time job?

[MyrtleTrees]

To our great grief, our daughter divorced her good, Christian husband this year. Soon, in a few weeks, there will be a court session on the subject of child custody, and also on the matter of alimony. I would like to know if he will be forced to pay her alimony, although she works full time, and has enough to live on. Have you had any experience with this? I am profoundly disgusted with what I find online on the subject - every questions, etc. I could find was only eagerly concerned about whether the husband must pay child support, regardless of whether they knew whether their children were provided for or not. They certainly sound like they have a one-track mind, with no concern for their children! But if both parents work, and are able to provide sufficiently well for their children, then I see it as being biblically wrong to require an ex-husband to pay child support if both he and his ex-wife work full time and have enough to live on.

 

[Niki7]

Hey ~ sorry to read this is happening in your family. If I am not mistaken, I think different states have different laws concerning your questions?

Perhaps you might begin a search there? For example, I live in FL and did a simple search and right away I got 'Fl child support'

I used this search criteria: what are the laws concerning alimony and child support if both parents work and have good jobs

Hope this helps

 

[MsMediator]

To our great grief, our daughter divorced her good, Christian husband this year. Soon, in a few weeks, there will be a court session on the subject of child custody, and also on the matter of alimony. I would like to know if he will be forced to pay her alimony, although she works full time, and has enough to live on. Have you had any experience with this? I am profoundly disgusted with what I find online on the subject - every questions, etc. I could find was only eagerly concerned about whether the husband must pay child support, regardless of whether they knew whether their children were provided for or not. They certainly sound like they have a one-track mind, with no concern for their children! But if both parents work, and are able to provide sufficiently well for their children, then I see it as being biblically wrong to require an ex-husband to pay child support if both he and his ex-wife work full time and have enough to live on.

Child support is different from alimony, which is ex-spousal support. Unless the child splits time 50/50 with the parents, the husband will have to pay some child support if the child spends most/all time with the mother. If your daughter works and is able to pay bills on her own, probably she won't qualify for alimony. But, best to research more into this.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

To our great grief, our daughter divorced her good, Christian husband this year. Soon, in a few weeks, there will be a court session on the subject of child custody, and also on the matter of alimony. I would like to know if he will be forced to pay her alimony, although she works full time, and has enough to live on. Have you had any experience with this? I am profoundly disgusted with what I find online on the subject - every questions, etc. I could find was only eagerly concerned about whether the husband must pay child support, regardless of whether they knew whether their children were provided for or not. They certainly sound like they have a one-track mind, with no concern for their children! But if both parents work, and are able to provide sufficiently well for their children, then I see it as being biblically wrong to require an ex-husband to pay child support if both he and his ex-wife work full time and have enough to live on.

God's will is reconciliation for them both.
The children will be better off with their full-time real Dad and Mom. Anything less is going to be detrimental to the children IMHO. I will pray that they both will fire their wicked lawyers and reconcile with God and each other.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Sorry to hear about your daughter's divorce.
The verse that came to mind is from 1 Corinthians.

"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife."

Is your daughter saved?

 

[ButterflyJones]

To our great grief, our daughter divorced her good, Christian husband this year. Soon, in a few weeks, there will be a court session on the subject of child custody, and also on the matter of alimony. I would like to know if he will be forced to pay her alimony, although she works full time, and has enough to live on. Have you had any experience with this? I am profoundly disgusted with what I find online on the subject - every questions, etc. I could find was only eagerly concerned about whether the husband must pay child support, regardless of whether they knew whether their children were provided for or not. They certainly sound like they have a one-track mind, with no concern for their children! But if both parents work, and are able to provide sufficiently well for their children, then I see it as being biblically wrong to require an ex-husband to pay child support if both he and his ex-wife work full time and have enough to live on.

Every state is different. Doubtful there are divorce attorneys here.
You could Google for your state and see what you find.

Example: Michigan alimony laws wife full time job.
I used the above example on Google and one resource was Nolo.
https://www.divorcenet.com/resources/divorce/spousal-support/understanding-and-calculating-alimony-m-3#:~:text=Michigan permits spouses to request,during or after a divorce.

If you open that link you might substitute your daughter's state in the browser url bar and see what Nolo comes up with.


I wish your family all the best.

 

[JohnDB]

Child support is a must dependent upon who has primary custody of the children.

Alimony is for when one of the two spouses was a full time parent and did not have an income during the marriage.

A job after the marriage was over is not relevant.

And these days where women still get some preferential treatment by the courts it's no longer an absolute. She has to prove that she is better at being the primary custodial parent of the children. She has firmly entrenched childcare, play groups, medical care, and psychological support for the children....or else he can become the primary custodian and she gets the crummy visitation schedule and paying him child support while he also gets the shiny new girlfriend and she gets the debt ridden loser from the local watering hole while she struggles to pay child support and eat at the same time.

Because the child support nazis are very good at making your life miserable and infinitely more difficult when you do not pay child support.
That's the way it works.

 

[shittim]

I know of many who have stayed single for a long time after seeing the anti male bias in the law and courts in these times.

 

[JohnDB]

Hunter Biden will have to face baby mama Lunden Roberts in court https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/ar...tml?ito=native_share_article-nativemenubutton

Here's how child support works if you are famous....but even Hunter is going to do everything possible to not face that judge in court.

 

[MyrtleTrees]

Every state is different. Doubtful there are divorce attorneys here.
You could Google for your state and see what you find.

Example: Michigan alimony laws wife full time job.
I used the above example on Google and one resource was Nolo.
https://www.divorcenet.com/resources/divorce/spousal-support/understanding-and-calculating-alimony-m-3#:~:text=Michigan permits spouses to request,during or after a divorce.

If you open that link you might substitute your daughter's state in the browser url bar and see what Nolo comes up with.


I wish your family all the best.

Thanks so much for your helpful reply!

 

[MyrtleTrees]

Hey ~ sorry to read this is happening in your family. If I am not mistaken, I think different states have different laws concerning your questions?

Perhaps you might begin a search there? For example, I live in FL and did a simple search and right away I got 'Fl child support'

I used this search criteria: what are the laws concerning alimony and child support if both parents work and have good jobs

Hope this helps

 

[MyrtleTrees]

Thanks for your helpful reply! I tried it, and I did find some good information on the subject.

 

[Magenta]

Welcome back!

 

[MyrtleTrees]

Child support is a must dependent upon who has primary custody of the children.

I know of many who have stayed single for a long time after seeing the anti male bias in the law and courts in these times.

 

[MyrtleTrees]

Sorry to hear about your daughter's divorce.
The verse that came to mind is from 1 Corinthians.

"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife."

Is your daughter saved?

Hi! We had thought she was saved, as she had claimed be saved. But now, I believe she has turned away from God and is no longer a Christian. But I'm praying for her to repent and to get saved again. Christians sincerely understand this subject differently. Some claim it isn't possible to fall away. But I know the scriptures well, and I believe it is possible to fall away, as it looks to me like it says so. Thanks for your reply!

 

[MyrtleTrees]

Hi! Thanks for your advice! I did so. It helped.

 

[MyrtleTrees]

Hi! Yes, the laws are certainly against men nowadays! The Bible says judgment should be just. But sadly, they aren't as just as they were in the earlier times of our country - the USA.

 

[MyrtleTrees]

Welcome back!

Hi, Magenta! Yes, I think I'll come to this site more than I had for a while. ONe advantage, is that people are more likely to reply here than in Facebook, I've noticed.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Hi! We had thought she was saved, as she had claimed be saved. But now, I believe she has turned away from God and is no longer a Christian. But I'm praying for her to repent and to get saved again. Christians sincerely understand this subject differently. Some claim it isn't possible to fall away. But I know the scriptures well, and I believe it is possible to fall away, as it looks to me like it says so. Thanks for your reply!

I will pray for her and the situation. It's sad to see the children affected by the conflict no doubt. May the Lord touch her heart and draw her close . It would be a blessing for everyone.

 

[JohnDB]

Hi! Yes, the laws are certainly against men nowadays! The Bible says judgment should be just. But sadly, they aren't as just as they were in the earlier times of our country - the USA.

Well if her soon to be ex husband can "shock the court" with her behavior proven to be something other than a fit mother he has a good chance at getting primary custody.

This can be anything from untreated (and unwilling to treat) mental health issues to illegal or illicit behaviors. (Serial dating, recreational drug use, excessive alcohol abuse, no permanent residence that accommodates children and etc.)

Also "custody is 9-10ths of the law"...if she left the household without taking the children with her....she probably won't get primary custody. Or if she is denying the children access to their father by any sort of means like leaving the state or county and telephone call or text messages....again she might not get primary custody.

And at some point when the children are old enough and have a good reason the courts will revisit who the primary custodian of the children is but this time giving weight to the input of the children.
Marriage lasts until death or divorce....
But ex spouses last for all eternity.