Admiring beauty is not a sin. Liking a girl, being attracted to a girl is not sin. Lust is sexually craving a person so much so that you don't even see them as a person but an object. You don't care about their wants, you don't care about right and wrong, you don't care about marriage, you just want and crave that person for your own desires. So that is a huge difference between seeing a woman as beautiful and lust. So you can leave your eyes in tact.
Trust me, you'll be able to enjoy it. God sets limits on sex for a reason. It's ok to do those things in a marriage because it is a commitment to God and each other. It is sacred. So many people have a hard time in relationships because they have slept with so many people. And each time you do that you give a piece of your heart to that person. And when they walk away and give themselves to another person you suffer because you have given away a piece of yourself. That is why God has limited sex to one partner. Because it's best for our spiritual, mental and sexual health. God is not trying to harm us.
Yeah there was a period there, based on a book, that people started saying don't date before marriage. I thought it was stupid, frankly. How do you get to know a person if you don't spend time with them? I kissed my husband before I was married, no issue there. Each person is different. If you have issues with going to far, or feeling that you might just stay in groups and go to public places. Hubby and I know every park around our house for 50 miles. I married a lot later in life but still we were either with family or in public places.
Well again, certain rules are in place for a reason, for our benefit. But it seems you have a rather strict upbringing. I have a nephew that is 18 and has a girlfriend I haven't met yet but I fully expect that they kiss. My sister watches over them and they are going to church and family activities. This is his first gf. When you're younger though it's best to surround yourself with friends and family, usually you don't marry the first person you date. And unless you want the responsibility of children you'll be even more careful.
Trust me, you'll be able to enjoy it. God sets limits on sex for a reason. It's ok to do those things in a marriage because it is a commitment to God and each other. It is sacred. So many people have a hard time in relationships because they have slept with so many people. And each time you do that you give a piece of your heart to that person. And when they walk away and give themselves to another person you suffer because you have given away a piece of yourself. That is why God has limited sex to one partner. Because it's best for our spiritual, mental and sexual health. God is not trying to harm us.
Yeah there was a period there, based on a book, that people started saying don't date before marriage. I thought it was stupid, frankly. How do you get to know a person if you don't spend time with them? I kissed my husband before I was married, no issue there. Each person is different. If you have issues with going to far, or feeling that you might just stay in groups and go to public places. Hubby and I know every park around our house for 50 miles. I married a lot later in life but still we were either with family or in public places.
Well again, certain rules are in place for a reason, for our benefit. But it seems you have a rather strict upbringing. I have a nephew that is 18 and has a girlfriend I haven't met yet but I fully expect that they kiss. My sister watches over them and they are going to church and family activities. This is his first gf. When you're younger though it's best to surround yourself with friends and family, usually you don't marry the first person you date. And unless you want the responsibility of children you'll be even more careful.
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