Know Your Value:

[TheWriter]

I’m relationships it is a vital importance to know your own value.

what is it that you can bring to the table, what is it that you want out of your partner. What exactly can you provide them that no other can.

the importance of knowing your value is to avoid being toyed with by the wrong person.

I am sure many here have been in and out of relationships that were not meant to be. However the pain you have felt was meant to mold you into something better.

My own love is of the place where I grew up at. Hiking those mountains, fishing, riding horses and enjoying the fresh smell of cut grass.

my home town is of one where people know no stranger. Always polite, loving, and everyone is family.

Attached is a photo of a place around my hometown.
True love is in those mountains even at the sunset. Nothing is better than riding horse back under the sunset, under the stars.

had made me feel at home even when I needed to be alone with God.

 

[TheWriter]

Secrets:

we all have them, things we tell no one about. In order to know someone it is always good to let that guard down. Express a truth about yourself.

My truth: I love movies that make me feel to where an emotion is always there, always present. Movie example: The Shack, I Can Only Imagine, Radio.

Movies like that make me tear up. Jesus cried too, true stories and music are my thing. I use them to help me write. When I write fast typos happen even on a phone that’s how fast the words come to me.

I ran a online radio station years ago. I love music and the importance of the sings. I sing along to them, at times my voice Cracks but other times I keep the pitch.

poetry is a second love of mine. Writing had always been a passion. I love God and the gifts He had given me.

What is your truth?

 

[TheWriter]

Know where you stand.

it is easy to fall in the trap of being used. Recently, it happened to me and I had allowed it to happen again.

when you fail to see your own value, how can someone else see it?

An interest of another can blind side you. The other person is either fake, or just wanting to drain you.

my value is of importance to me, when someone sees my heart they want to try to take advantage and it is up to me to see it a mile away and stop it.

so, at times it is best to just walk away from people who do not value the value that you see in yourself.

the situation is really crazy lol my roomate‘s sister that is all I am saying. However she kind of switched up when I told her I’m not wanting sex so soon.

Then it went from talking sex to talking money. Being the type of person that I am, I can’t stand to see someone down and out.

so I blindly allowed her to take my kindness for weakness.

leason learned 😒

 

[Lanolin]

well when people talk about value they start thinking 'net worth' in terms of dollar value. Or they talk about their personal interests. Or their talents and gifts.

Christians generally dont think that way. Jesus says you can tell a man by his fruit...(not his gifts) The Holy spirit lists 9 in scripture. If fruits are displaying in your life thats what you have to bring to the table as your offering.

What about women. The Bible says dont look for outward appearance of fine clothes and braided hair and jewellery like gold and pearls. Look for a gentle and quiet spirit and someone who does good deeds. That is of much worth in God's eyes.

 

[TheWriter]

well when people talk about value they start thinking 'net worth' in terms of dollar value. Or they talk about their personal interests. Or their talents and gifts.

Christians generally dont think that way. Jesus says you can tell a man by his fruit...(not his gifts) The Holy spirit lists 9 in scripture. If fruits are displaying in your life thats what you have to bring to the table as your offering.

What about women. The Bible says dont look for outward appearance of fine clothes and braided hair and jewellery like gold and pearls. Look for a gentle and quiet spirit and someone who does good deeds. That is of much worth in God's eyes.

Sister I don’t hate myself and it’s not always about money lol. But anyway I am closing my account here I got to do me for awhile.

 

[TheWriter]

well when people talk about value they start thinking 'net worth' in terms of dollar value. Or they talk about their personal interests. Or their talents and gifts.

Christians generally dont think that way. Jesus says you can tell a man by his fruit...(not his gifts) The Holy spirit lists 9 in scripture. If fruits are displaying in your life thats what you have to bring to the table as your offering.

What about women. The Bible says dont look for outward appearance of fine clothes and braided hair and jewellery like gold and pearls. Look for a gentle and quiet spirit and someone who does good deeds. That is of much worth in God's eyes.

Value in yourself is not about money. It is how much you respect yourself.

 

[TheWriter]

well when people talk about value they start thinking 'net worth' in terms of dollar value. Or they talk about their personal interests. Or their talents and gifts.

Christians generally dont think that way. Jesus says you can tell a man by his fruit...(not his gifts) The Holy spirit lists 9 in scripture. If fruits are displaying in your life thats what you have to bring to the table as your offering.

What about women. The Bible says dont look for outward appearance of fine clothes and braided hair and jewellery like gold and pearls. Look for a gentle and quiet spirit and someone who does good deeds. That is of much worth in God's eyes.

Plus you honesty seem to care a whole lot what the world has to say. I don’t have time for that

 

[Karlon]

I’m relationships it is a vital importance to know your own value.

what is it that you can bring to the table, what is it that you want out of your partner. What exactly can you provide them that no other can.

the importance of knowing your value is to avoid being toyed with by the wrong person.

I am sure many here have been in and out of relationships that were not meant to be. However the pain you have felt was meant to mold you into something better.

My own love is of the place where I grew up at. Hiking those mountains, fishing, riding horses and enjoying the fresh smell of cut grass.

my home town is of one where people know no stranger. Always polite, loving, and everyone is family.

Attached is a photo of a place around my hometown.
True love is in those mountains even at the sunset. Nothing is better than riding horse back under the sunset, under the stars.

had made me feel at home even when I needed to be alone with God.

in the past, i brought lots of Christian values to relationships & it didn't work out. what happened is the women i was with saw my christian characteristics, they abused it, wanted more & used me. in other words, its like they said, "here's a good guy, i can use him & manipulate him"! that's the truth & that's what happened!!!

 

[TheWriter]

in the past, i brought lots of Christian values to relationships & it didn't work out. what happened is the women i was with saw my christian characteristics, they abused it, wanted more & used me. in other words, its like they said, "here's a good guy, i can use him & manipulate him"! that's the truth & that's what happened!!!

That does happen a lot to me to. That is why it is critical to be on guard against satan and his schemes.

 

[George0115]

in the past, i brought lots of Christian values to relationships & it didn't work out. what happened is the women i was with saw my christian characteristics, they abused it, wanted more & used me. in other words, its like they said, "here's a good guy, i can use him & manipulate him"! that's the truth & that's what happened!!!

I agree with you on that. Nice guys get kicked in the face by a lot of women. I try not to be too nice, because some women will take advantage of that. Keep walking sister its not happening here lol.

 

[Lanolin]

Plus you honesty seem to care a whole lot what the world has to say. I don’t have time for that

huh? Not really - if you read carefully Im pointing out the difference between what the world says and what Christians believe with what the Bible says
But ok up to you, we can all choose where and with whom to spend our time.

Perhaps be a bit more discerning next time when you make friends with others, though it can be said sometimes even christians can find it hard to get along with each other. Rather than talk about what you value, (we all have our own values, and they are most likely not all the same) think about what God values.

If I were to do an evaluation on someone, I could be lazy and say that person is tall, dresses well, earns xx amount a year, has a good job blah blah blah which is what many people do to try and describe a person (or man) in a nutshell maybe to a matchmaker. Its surface evaluation. Or for many men trying to describe a woman it would be oh that woman is blonde (or whatver hair colour) with xx size boobs and thin or curvy or whatver size she is, pretty, young and a virgin. Does ths tell us anything about WHO she is? Nope just her appearance. It tells us also that you ONLY value someone for their looks.

But if you were being really discerning and christian about it you'd be thinking more along this person has a kind heart, is gentle yet brave and courageous, joyful with a sense of humour, treat others well, is warm, generous, a good friend, loyal etc. Or this person shows they love God by looking after those who are vulnerable or cant help themselves

But only other people can evaluate you, you can't ever evaluate yourself. Jesus never said well I know who I am and then went round declaring he was King. He let others reveal who he was...his friends knew his true worth and he didnt go round with a big ego.

Just saying that looking at yourself can be just yet another hall of mirrors and its not really seeing how God can see you (inside) and He will often see things INSIDE of you that you cannot see for yourself...cos we all have blind spots.

 

[Lanolin]

God has no respect of persons.. if talking about self-respect, or pride, prestige or mana this is really going down another road...the cult of self-esteem

I just want to add that in many things God tells us to guard our hearts, dont give it away or let others steal it or break it. Love God with all your heart and He'll always keep it safe. Because He is the one that gives us new hearts.

 

[Lynx]

I’m relationships it is a vital importance to know your own value.

what is it that you can bring to the table, what is it that you want out of your partner. What exactly can you provide them that no other can.

the importance of knowing your value is to avoid being toyed with by the wrong person.

I am sure many here have been in and out of relationships that were not meant to be. However the pain you have felt was meant to mold you into something better.

My own love is of the place where I grew up at. Hiking those mountains, fishing, riding horses and enjoying the fresh smell of cut grass.

my home town is of one where people know no stranger. Always polite, loving, and everyone is family.

Attached is a photo of a place around my hometown.
True love is in those mountains even at the sunset. Nothing is better than riding horse back under the sunset, under the stars.

had made me feel at home even when I needed to be alone with God.

On the flip side there are many people know their own worth all too well. That's why they sit around waiting for unicorns. Nobody is good enough to be worthy of their attention.

 

[Lynx]

in the past, i brought lots of Christian values to relationships & it didn't work out. what happened is the women i was with saw my christian characteristics, they abused it, wanted more & used me. in other words, its like they said, "here's a good guy, i can use him & manipulate him"! that's the truth & that's what happened!!!

That does happen a lot to me to. That is why it is critical to be on guard against satan and his schemes.

I agree with you on that. Nice guys get kicked in the face by a lot of women. I try not to be too nice, because some women will take advantage of that. Keep walking sister its not happening here lol.

Of course I can't speak for you guys in particular, as I don't even know you. But this is what I have observed about humans in general.

When someone says people use him all the time, it is usually someone who is so desperate for love that he will cling to any vestige of romance. Women don't have to lie to him - he takes care of lying to himself, to make himself believe he has finally found true love. It's like he has a big "USE ME" sign on his back.

The same is of course true for women. I know a lot of women who are desperate for a relationship, and complain a lot about men using them... even as they dive headlong into their next relationships.

 

[George0115]

Of course I can't speak for you guys in particular, as I don't even know you. But this is what I have observed about humans in general.

When someone says people use him all the time, it is usually someone who is so desperate for love that he will cling to any vestige of romance. Women don't have to lie to him - he takes care of lying to himself, to make himself believe he has finally found true love. It's like he has a big "USE ME" sign on his back.

The same is of course true for women. I know a lot of women who are desperate for a relationship, and complain a lot about men using them... even as they dive headlong into their next relationships.

I've never been used by a woman, I'm just very careful about who I let get close to me. I'm not very trustworthy. I know there are a lot of of people out there looking to take advantage of someone.

 

[George0115]

I've never been used by a woman, I'm just very careful about who I let get close to me. I'm not very trustworthy. I know there are a lot of of people out there looking to take advantage of someone.

I've never been used by a woman, I'm just very careful about who I let get close to me. I'm not very trustworthy. I know there are a lot of of people out there looking to take advantage of someone.

I meant to say I'm not very trusting of others lol.

 

[TheWriter]

I meant to say I'm not very trusting of others lol.

Lol this day and age games never work out which is why trust is always hard to come by. The internet and all allows more chances of cheating.

however if a person truly loved you there would be no reason to cheat anyway.

meaning they don’t know your value

 

[Lanolin]

Far above rubies?

I guess its why women who marry show off their diamond rings to those who arent....While men dont tend to have rings with diamonds on them...I never really got the ring thing but ok that is the tradition for husbands to shower their wives with jewellery upon engagement and marrying. Though you'll find these days the woman is buying her own jewellery!

In the olden days women would literally be sold into marriage (hence 'bride price) to the man that could afford her. That was just the way marriage worked for centuries and everyone knew that was how it was cos women really had no way of earning money or being independent. They were often barred from working by their husbands anyway. The point was so she could concentrate on bearing children to a man rich enough to provide for ALL of them.

Reality is that many men arent able to afford so many children, otherwise I dont really know why men leave their wives. They pretend to do so at the beginning but then find it all too hard thats my observation. The. theres the thing where a rich man thinks he can have more than one wife...or a 'better looking' younger wife. Like a new model of car. What is the first wife to do...well she could always sell her ring that was really the only 'insurance' wives had.

I am saying this is reality for women before men all accuse them of 'gold-digging' consider WHY many women are that way...is it because they are unable to make a decent living on their own? They dont have land...most of it is still owned by men only.
. Ruth was reduced to gleaning the fields cos she was so poor!

 

[TheWriter]

On the flip side there are many people know their own worth all too well. That's why they sit around waiting for unicorns. Nobody is good enough to be worthy of their attention.

when they eat skittles, do they fart rainbows? lol jp Jeff Dunham is the MAN!

 

[Lanolin]

hmm joke is lost on me...

I was reading a devotional on how God values you. Because you are special (as in unique, not weird or 'retarded') and doesnt matter how rich or poor you are ....or whther you male, female, black, white or grey. God rates you. He has no favourites.