The vast majority of Christians do not mean to be hateful but are trying to hate the sin while loving the sinner, in how they understand the standard set by the word of God. Sometimes it sounds angry and nasty, but I sincerely do not believe they actually mean it that way. Considering this I believe there are a couple of well-known concepts at play on this subject.
The idiom sometimes phrased “walk a mile in my shoes” is generally considered to mean instead of quick judgment, you’re asked to consider what it would feel like to live with another person’s problems, pressures, and history.
There is another term in psychology, “projection” in a sense meaning that we use our own inner experience to guess what others feel (“I know how I look when I’m sad, so I infer you’re sad”).
The typical man has at times experienced erotic or sexual thoughts about another male. If he is Christian, he will view it as a temptation which he quickly refuses to consider. I suppose that to this man it is legitimately considered a temptation. He then views anyone with any degree of homosexual orientation as in his own experience, he projects onto others what he experiences and to the vast majority of Christian men, this projection is fairly accurate. But for one man’s constitution that is exclusively desire for another man, it is not a temptation to be denied and it cannot be denied or changed. Yet it will still be viewed as a choice by most Christian men.
The BibleHub has a presentation of a type of projection in scripture:
https://biblehub.com/topical/p/projection.htm
There is a theological viewpoint on the topic under discussion and I quote it:
From The Ethics of Sex, Copyright 1964, by Helmut Thielicke (1908-1986) German Protestant theologian and rector of the University of Hamburg from 1960 to 1978 -
"One cannot expect to find in the theological ethics of German-speaking Protestantism a clear, consistent attitude toward homosexuality simply because hitherto the writers on ethics have taken little or no notice of the mere fact itself and therefore a body of opinion -- to say nothing of the unanimity of judgement -- is almost non-existent... Doctrinaire prejudices, which at the same time distort the theological problem presented by homosexuality, manifest themselves also in the fact that the value-judgment "homosexuality is sinful" is not isolated from an objective assessment of the phenomenon but is rather projected into it, and the result is that one arrives at an a priori defamation of those who are afflicted with this anomaly." page 269, 270
The ethics of sex : Thielicke, Helmut, 1908-1986 : Free Download, Borrow, and Streaming : Internet Archive
I’ll not continue on this subject as I have fully expressed my biblical and psychological understanding of this complicated issue.
The idiom sometimes phrased “walk a mile in my shoes” is generally considered to mean instead of quick judgment, you’re asked to consider what it would feel like to live with another person’s problems, pressures, and history.
There is another term in psychology, “projection” in a sense meaning that we use our own inner experience to guess what others feel (“I know how I look when I’m sad, so I infer you’re sad”).
The typical man has at times experienced erotic or sexual thoughts about another male. If he is Christian, he will view it as a temptation which he quickly refuses to consider. I suppose that to this man it is legitimately considered a temptation. He then views anyone with any degree of homosexual orientation as in his own experience, he projects onto others what he experiences and to the vast majority of Christian men, this projection is fairly accurate. But for one man’s constitution that is exclusively desire for another man, it is not a temptation to be denied and it cannot be denied or changed. Yet it will still be viewed as a choice by most Christian men.
The BibleHub has a presentation of a type of projection in scripture:
https://biblehub.com/topical/p/projection.htm
There is a theological viewpoint on the topic under discussion and I quote it:
From The Ethics of Sex, Copyright 1964, by Helmut Thielicke (1908-1986) German Protestant theologian and rector of the University of Hamburg from 1960 to 1978 -
"One cannot expect to find in the theological ethics of German-speaking Protestantism a clear, consistent attitude toward homosexuality simply because hitherto the writers on ethics have taken little or no notice of the mere fact itself and therefore a body of opinion -- to say nothing of the unanimity of judgement -- is almost non-existent... Doctrinaire prejudices, which at the same time distort the theological problem presented by homosexuality, manifest themselves also in the fact that the value-judgment "homosexuality is sinful" is not isolated from an objective assessment of the phenomenon but is rather projected into it, and the result is that one arrives at an a priori defamation of those who are afflicted with this anomaly." page 269, 270
The ethics of sex : Thielicke, Helmut, 1908-1986 : Free Download, Borrow, and Streaming : Internet Archive
I’ll not continue on this subject as I have fully expressed my biblical and psychological understanding of this complicated issue.