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If I was married there would be no way on earth I would allow my husbond to bring another wife into the marrage. And being single there is no way I would take a man who already has a wife and shack up with them.I dont get what these women see in this arrangment. I see what a man would get out of it, like plenty of sex.
I was watching an interview with another polygamous family, and the husband was saying something like "at first, I didn't want to pick up more wives, but God told me that I must. I didn't want to disobey God, so I married two other women." Then he goes on to say how he anticipates that God will want him to marry more women in the future.
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Here are my thought's on this matter.
One God.
One Baptism.
One Wife (or Husband if your'e a Lady).
This is a very basic Christian concept. The Old testament had different circumstances and rules for living.
I am the product of the New Testament Church as spoken of from the Gospel of Mathew to the book of Revelation, so my views are a reflection
these Christian lifestyle teachings.
I realize that people will have different views because we all do not walk the same path......Nalu, your'e friendly neighborhood Truth Seeker.
One God.
One Baptism.
One Wife (or Husband if your'e a Lady).
This is a very basic Christian concept. The Old testament had different circumstances and rules for living.
I am the product of the New Testament Church as spoken of from the Gospel of Mathew to the book of Revelation, so my views are a reflection
these Christian lifestyle teachings.
I realize that people will have different views because we all do not walk the same path......Nalu, your'e friendly neighborhood Truth Seeker.
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I am glad that I joined this site because it has opened my eyes so that I may see what is going on in the world I live in. Until today I never new about polygamous people or family. I disagree with it. Mark 10:7-9 "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." The two shall become one flesh, not three. No man separate what God has put together. I believe in what the Bible says.
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You shouldn't have to join a Christian chat site to learn what is going on in the world... There is this great tool called the internet, you should give it a try 
Btw, to this thread, there are a lot of polygamous homes in Africa, even if the wives want it or not.. Sad..
The only time you really see polygamy advocated by God in the Bible is in the case of levirate marriage where a woman's husband dies and leaves her with no children. The brother of the woman's husband is commanded to take the woman as a wife and give her a child that is closest to the woman's previous husband's bloodline. It's my personal belief this was a practical measure, because the widow will receive help from her new husband and quite possibly from her new child later in life. The regulation takes care of them.
There is a similar regulation where if a man and woman have sexual intercourse the man must take the woman as his wife. There is a story in the Bible where Amnon raped his sister Tamar, and Tamar afterwards begged Amnon not to send her away but to take her as his wife. It seems weird to us today, but that was another time and another culture. Today the case of having sex with a woman and sending her away is rampant, and even some women don't care about it.
There is a similar regulation where if a man and woman have sexual intercourse the man must take the woman as his wife. There is a story in the Bible where Amnon raped his sister Tamar, and Tamar afterwards begged Amnon not to send her away but to take her as his wife. It seems weird to us today, but that was another time and another culture. Today the case of having sex with a woman and sending her away is rampant, and even some women don't care about it.
Well fine, if anything I thought the comparison might be making the former seem worse than it was since it was even being put up against the latter. I don't find anything wrong with polygamous whether it be polyandry, polygyny, or group marriage. As long as all members are informed and consenting I have no problem with it.
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It seems the only people that are saying they don't have a problem with Polygamy are the very young adults, which means 18 to mid 20's.
What I find a problem with this is that my generation has no respect for themselves or others in relationships. They have one-night stands nonstop, sleep around, date just for sex, cheat on their partners nonstop, and nobody finds any problem with it. The real issue is our culture here in the USA. Promiscious activity is applauded, while remaining celebate til marriage is looked down upon as if something is wrong with you. Every popular artist and song out there is about sex, or some form of it anyway. Lady Gaga is the perfect example. Do you really think 'Poker Face" was about Poker? Brittney Spears girl-pop types, any rap artist, any R&B artist, etc, they all sing about sex, cheating, and adultery. That's our culture now, and nobody seems to think there is anything wrong with it.
Ever wonder why divorce rate is so high? You have less than a coin's flip chance of making it in a marriage now. There are far more single moms out there than there are single girls without kids. Now, we see TV shows about Polygamy, and it's becoming mainstream here. Nothing is taboo anymore.
FrankensteinGirl and TheKrinkledOne... So really, you don't find anything wrong with polygamy? I guess that means that you wouldn't find it wrong if you got married, and your husband/wife went to go sleep with other men/women every single day too? Unless you like to join in on the sin with a 3-some? What exactly don't you find wrong with it? It's straight up adultery. You don't think that won't cause emotional problems? You DON'T know anyone that is COMPLETELY okay with "open" relationships, unless of course, they don't care about each other whatsoever. They definitely don't love each other in those relationships, beyond the love of sex, or they wouldn't do it, plain and simple.
I've seen that TV show where the guy has all those other wives. The fattest wife gets the least amount of attention, and she basically gets the least amount of money from the husband too. The husband DOESN'T take care of ANY of his kids. They barely talk to him. The kids actually hate their own father, because he's scum. The guy is a straight up dbag. Some of the wives simply married him for money and security, while others were just stupid apparently. Their kids will all grow up with severe behavioral problems, which are already apparent in the TV show, and the "old" wives, the ones that aren't getting any attention anymore after a new one joins the "family" all have emotional issues as well. You can't see the damage this causes? You clearly aren't very perceptive then. Even if someone understands the consequences of the decision when they enter into the relationship, they have no idea what it actually does to them mentally and emotionally afterword. You can tell that all those women are screwed up in some way, the husband is a complete moron, and all of the kids are screwed up themselves. I am almost positive that some of their kids will grow up to be severely disturbed individuals.
And people say they have no problem with it... yeah... because your parents aren't polygamists, and you aren't the "old" wife that is stuck married to a guy that is basically cheating on you everyday, out in the open, while your neighbors are basically laughing at you for being so stupid and needy that you agreed to such an idiotic philosophy. Welcome to 2012, or is it 2012 BC?
What I find a problem with this is that my generation has no respect for themselves or others in relationships. They have one-night stands nonstop, sleep around, date just for sex, cheat on their partners nonstop, and nobody finds any problem with it. The real issue is our culture here in the USA. Promiscious activity is applauded, while remaining celebate til marriage is looked down upon as if something is wrong with you. Every popular artist and song out there is about sex, or some form of it anyway. Lady Gaga is the perfect example. Do you really think 'Poker Face" was about Poker? Brittney Spears girl-pop types, any rap artist, any R&B artist, etc, they all sing about sex, cheating, and adultery. That's our culture now, and nobody seems to think there is anything wrong with it.
Ever wonder why divorce rate is so high? You have less than a coin's flip chance of making it in a marriage now. There are far more single moms out there than there are single girls without kids. Now, we see TV shows about Polygamy, and it's becoming mainstream here. Nothing is taboo anymore.
FrankensteinGirl and TheKrinkledOne... So really, you don't find anything wrong with polygamy? I guess that means that you wouldn't find it wrong if you got married, and your husband/wife went to go sleep with other men/women every single day too? Unless you like to join in on the sin with a 3-some? What exactly don't you find wrong with it? It's straight up adultery. You don't think that won't cause emotional problems? You DON'T know anyone that is COMPLETELY okay with "open" relationships, unless of course, they don't care about each other whatsoever. They definitely don't love each other in those relationships, beyond the love of sex, or they wouldn't do it, plain and simple.
I've seen that TV show where the guy has all those other wives. The fattest wife gets the least amount of attention, and she basically gets the least amount of money from the husband too. The husband DOESN'T take care of ANY of his kids. They barely talk to him. The kids actually hate their own father, because he's scum. The guy is a straight up dbag. Some of the wives simply married him for money and security, while others were just stupid apparently. Their kids will all grow up with severe behavioral problems, which are already apparent in the TV show, and the "old" wives, the ones that aren't getting any attention anymore after a new one joins the "family" all have emotional issues as well. You can't see the damage this causes? You clearly aren't very perceptive then. Even if someone understands the consequences of the decision when they enter into the relationship, they have no idea what it actually does to them mentally and emotionally afterword. You can tell that all those women are screwed up in some way, the husband is a complete moron, and all of the kids are screwed up themselves. I am almost positive that some of their kids will grow up to be severely disturbed individuals.
And people say they have no problem with it... yeah... because your parents aren't polygamists, and you aren't the "old" wife that is stuck married to a guy that is basically cheating on you everyday, out in the open, while your neighbors are basically laughing at you for being so stupid and needy that you agreed to such an idiotic philosophy. Welcome to 2012, or is it 2012 BC?
Just because I don't find anything wrong with people being in polygamous relationships doesn't mean I want to be in one.
It isn't adultery if they are all married and agree to the sex between them. I don't find anything wrong with it because all members are happy and informed.
Depends on the person. I am not saying its right for everyone or that everyone should enter that kind of relationship.
I find this rude to all of the people I know all of the people I know who have been in long term open relationships. You are going to tell me that these people don't care about each other? It is clear that they do. Just because they don't have the same emotional responses over certain issues as you does not mean that they don't care about their partner or partners.
Yes, some polygomous relationships are bad. However, so are a lot of monogamous relationships.Husbands can be abusive to a wife that they are sexually loyal to. People in monogamous relationships can still neglect their children in the same way. Some people get into monogamous relationship for money and security and the marriage can be horrible.
Same goes for a monogamous relationship.
It may be the case here, I haven't checked. However that doesn't mean it applies to all monogamous relationships.
How do you know that mine aren't?
It isn't adultery if they are all married and agree to the sex between them. I don't find anything wrong with it because all members are happy and informed.
Depends on the person. I am not saying its right for everyone or that everyone should enter that kind of relationship.
I find this rude to all of the people I know all of the people I know who have been in long term open relationships. You are going to tell me that these people don't care about each other? It is clear that they do. Just because they don't have the same emotional responses over certain issues as you does not mean that they don't care about their partner or partners.
Yes, some polygomous relationships are bad. However, so are a lot of monogamous relationships.Husbands can be abusive to a wife that they are sexually loyal to. People in monogamous relationships can still neglect their children in the same way. Some people get into monogamous relationship for money and security and the marriage can be horrible.
Same goes for a monogamous relationship.
It may be the case here, I haven't checked. However that doesn't mean it applies to all monogamous relationships.
How do you know that mine aren't?
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Since you clearly are offended, I'll let you continue to think it over some more Krinkled. You can be offended all you want to, and I don't really care if I offend people in open relationships either, at least not on a Christianity Forum, where it is a sin. If you think sin is okay, and you are offended by me calling it wrong, be my guest, but you can't justify it. I'm sorry, but you're wrong.
You can call it whatever you want, and you can claim whatever you want about how much your friends "love" each other in their open relationship, but let's just call it what it is, shall we? You're friends have sex with other people, cheating on each other nonstop, while still claiming to be in a relationship full of love. What a joke. Also, are you seriously trying to justify a sin on a Christianity forum, and then saying that I'm rude for calling it a sin? You're friends are disrespecting themselves and their partners. What happens if the girl gets pregnant from one of the many guys she sleeps around with, and the guy gets an STD from one of the many women he sleeps with? Does he still stay with her, and her with him? I bet you they don't. Oh, but open relationships are good.... because relationships are about sex and not about future marriage... right??????..............................
Anyway, God created Adam and then Eve. He didn't create Adam, Eve, and Steve. He didn't create Adam, Eve, and Lilith, nor did He create Adam, Eve, Lilith, Jessica, Jennifer, Jenn, Joanna, Jacinda, and a future wife to be named later.
If you don't like the Bible or what it says, that's fine, but don't argue it being a "right" thing to do on a CHRISTIANITY forum, when the bible clearly states it is wrong. Since I highly doubt that most polygamists simply marry their brother's widow, and since times are different now to where women can support themselves independantly, I don't think you have much to stand on here.
You can call it whatever you want, and you can claim whatever you want about how much your friends "love" each other in their open relationship, but let's just call it what it is, shall we? You're friends have sex with other people, cheating on each other nonstop, while still claiming to be in a relationship full of love. What a joke. Also, are you seriously trying to justify a sin on a Christianity forum, and then saying that I'm rude for calling it a sin? You're friends are disrespecting themselves and their partners. What happens if the girl gets pregnant from one of the many guys she sleeps around with, and the guy gets an STD from one of the many women he sleeps with? Does he still stay with her, and her with him? I bet you they don't. Oh, but open relationships are good.... because relationships are about sex and not about future marriage... right??????..............................
Anyway, God created Adam and then Eve. He didn't create Adam, Eve, and Steve. He didn't create Adam, Eve, and Lilith, nor did He create Adam, Eve, Lilith, Jessica, Jennifer, Jenn, Joanna, Jacinda, and a future wife to be named later.
If you don't like the Bible or what it says, that's fine, but don't argue it being a "right" thing to do on a CHRISTIANITY forum, when the bible clearly states it is wrong. Since I highly doubt that most polygamists simply marry their brother's widow, and since times are different now to where women can support themselves independantly, I don't think you have much to stand on here.
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Oh yeah, and if you're argument is simply that monogomous relationships have problems just like polygamist relationships, then please go troll somewhere else. You aren't mentally capable of debating a topic. I have a feeling you are just a young kid who hasn't grown up yet. That's about the bottom line to it. Gain some life experience and come back, and then see if you really think polygamy or open relationships are good for anyone. Go find yourself a girlfriend, and then ask her if she will be in an open relationship with you or better yet, a polygamist relationship, where you have 10 girlfriends, if you could get that many.
or better yet, a polygamist relationship, where you have 10 girlfriends, if you could get that many.