how do you have fun being single?

[simplymeganne]

alright, i know i'm only 17- NO COMMENTS ABOUT MY AGE.
trust me, i'm far more worldly than a lot of you. but, i'm not getting into my past.

I've pretty much been in relationships since my freshman year of highschool. I've really never been single. I've always been "talking" to someone, or in a serious relationship since I was probably 14.
I'm not used to being single. All of my relationships have ended and I've started a new one within a 6-week time frame. I don't even know how to have fun without someone of the opposite sex telling me how flawless I am all the time.
I've realized that I still haven't recovered from the first relationship I was ever in. I have all these scars and walls built up, and I'm not gonna be ready for anything for a really long time.
If you want to pray for me, that's cool. But don't tell me I need to pray- I am.
Also, I am already immersing myself in church, and christ. No need to tell me to do that, either.

What are some fun things I can do as a single?

 

[Sarawr]

My last relationship was for a year and before that it was four and a half years. There was little break in between these relationships so when I became single last year I also freaked out a little.

I decided to spend some time getting to know myself better. Such as watching movies/tv shows you've wanted to watch in a while and haven't got round to. Pursue hobbies, travel, make friends, get closer to God!

I enjoy the simple things such as coming home after a hard days work to my own house, watching what I like on TV and enjoying a peaceful candlelit bath without having to worry about what meal to cook for my partner. Life is great!

I've also put in a lot of time and effort in my job and really focused which has paid off because I got an internal interview today for a better position in my company! There are PLENTY of things to do girl!

One of my friends told me she sat herself down at the end of her breakup and formed a huge list of lots of things she wanted to achieve and she went out there and ticked everything on that list. It included things such as learning to play guitar etc but was empowering. Go and make a list

 

[zeroturbulence]

I go watch movies, go shopping, drive to the beach, do outdoor photography, go to the gym, go sightseeing, check out museums, art galleries, zoos, and sometimes see concerts.

 

[keep_on_smiling]

Do things that you didn't have time for before Enjoy it. Read a book, start something new such as learning a new language, learn how cook or sew or even play a new sport. There are so many things you can do, but one of the biggest thing for you to do is DON'T focus on the fact that you are single in a negative way.

Recently, I have decided to truly try to enjoy the people I have in my life whether that's family, friends, or colleagues. It's been interesting. If you enjoy working with kids you could get involved in activities with them, maybe your church has a program that you could help out with. I often learn so much about myself from children.

My biggest advice to you would be to remain single for awhile. Get to know yourself and work through your past. You mentioned not being over your first relationship, I think that shows that you need rest and "you" time. Treat yourself to something. As you said, get closer with God Have fun and God bless!

 

[simplymeganne]

Thank you, everyone. You're all wonderful.

 

[CC_Bride]

alright, i know i'm only 17- NO COMMENTS ABOUT MY AGE.
trust me, i'm far more worldly than a lot of you. but, i'm not getting into my past.

I've pretty much been in relationships since my freshman year of highschool. I've really never been single. I've always been "talking" to someone, or in a serious relationship since I was probably 14.
I'm not used to being single. All of my relationships have ended and I've started a new one within a 6-week time frame. I don't even know how to have fun without someone of the opposite sex telling me how flawless I am all the time.
I've realized that I still haven't recovered from the first relationship I was ever in. I have all these scars and walls built up, and I'm not gonna be ready for anything for a really long time.
If you want to pray for me, that's cool. But don't tell me I need to pray- I am.
Also, I am already immersing myself in church, and christ. No need to tell me to do that, either.

What are some fun things I can do as a single?

Haha welcome to CC! Hate to say it but you're not unique by having "worldly" experiences. Join the club for sinners!

Quite frankly, you'll never have fun, til you have figured out your own worth in Jesus Christ without having some teenage boy (who knows nothing about anything) stroke your pride and ego and give you ingenuine attention.

Have you heard of something called platonic relationships? The bible commands men to treat women as their sisters, and I think it would be a double standard if we as women shouldn't do the same to men.

So,

- develop brother/sister relationships within your church beginning with absolutely zero expectation for a relationship.

- Figure out if you have Daddy issues. I suspect you do if you have had boyfriends as often as you change socks and consider yourself "worldly." Again join the club! But the reason why I ask this is because I rechon the quality of the relationship you have/had with your father (or lack thereof) dictates how you enter and treat your dating relationships with your male peers. Read your bible a plenty and look for ways where you may have picked up on anti biblical messages from your father and seek to correct them through your heavenly father. Also deal with any unforgiveness/bitterness issues you have towards any men in your life.

- Next thing, find a godly OLDER woman at your church and seek mentoring from her. Don't just seek relationships with stupid girls your age who know absolutely nothing about anything useful just like the boys. We all need an example to follow. And being mentored by an older woman will keep your head on the right direction and can hold you accountable to a higher standard of behaviour should you meet a mature man to be courted by.

- Get a hobby that only one person participation. Like a one person sport or craft (NOTHING technology related). Something useful that teaches you how to enjoy your own company and helps you appreciate to think your thoughts and contemplate about stuff in silence. Its the best kind of therapy for yourself. I don't mean use this hobby as your only enjoyment because you obviously do want to socialise, but try out a few and just spend a few hours a week doing it. As much as it sound Nana like I really love cross stitch. Dead simple to pick up and figure out and I love it because it forces me to sit down (which I find hard to do cos Im a naturally busy person) and focus putting colour onto a piece of cloth and eventually produce a picture which takes me days or weeks to achieve depending on the size.

 

[GreenNnice]

Haha welcome to CC! Hate to say it but you're not unique by having "worldly" experiences. Join the club for sinners!

Quite frankly, you'll never have fun, til you have figured out your own worth in Jesus Christ without having some teenage boy (who knows nothing about anything) stroke your pride and ego and give you ingenuine (green: fake, deceptive, disingenuous) attention.

Have you heard of something called platonic relationships? The bible commands men to treat women as their sisters, and I think it would be a double standard if we as women shouldn't do the same to men.

So,

- develop brother/sister relationships within your church beginning with absolutely zero expectation for a relationship. green: Yes, learn from God HOW to be attracted to guys who are FIRST attracted to Christ. I, personally, speaking here, me, green, would say: Really focus on just going to church and studying the word and NOT going out on any dates with ONE guy at church, just go where the GROUP goes after a high school youth pastor speaks on a Sunday or weeknight.

- Figure out if you have Daddy issues. I suspect you do if you have had boyfriends as often as you change socks and consider yourself "worldly." Again join the club! But the reason why I ask this is because I rechon the quality of the relationship you have/had with your father (or lack thereof) dictates how you enter and treat your dating relationships with your male peers. Read your bible a plenty and look for ways where you may have picked up on anti biblical messages from your father and seek to correct them through your heavenly father. Also deal with any unforgiveness/bitterness issues you have towards any men in your life. Green: Forgive everyone, and, ask for forgiveness to anyone you may have harmed. Doing this will show new character in you, and, please God too

- Next thing, find a godly OLDER woman at your church and seek mentoring from her. Don't just seek relationships with stupid girls your age who know absolutely nothing about anything useful just like the boys. We all need an example to follow. And being mentored by an older woman will keep your head on the right direction and can hold you accountable to a higher standard of behaviour should you meet a mature man to be courted by.

- Get a hobby that only one person participation. Like a one person sport or craft (NOTHING technology related). Something useful that teaches you how to enjoy your own company and helps you appreciate to think your thoughts and contemplate about stuff in silence. Its the best kind of therapy for yourself. I don't mean use this hobby as your only enjoyment because you obviously do want to socialise, but try out a few and just spend a few hours a week doing it. As much as it sound Nana like I really love cross stitch. Dead simple to pick up and figure out and I love it because it forces me to sit down (which I find hard to do cos Im a naturally busy person) and focus putting colour onto a piece of cloth and eventually produce a picture which takes me days or weeks to achieve depending on the size.

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Well said by c.c. (red parts were highlighted, green was me adding thoughts) for you, meg, all of it above, but the part about 'Get a hobby' really makes sense. Whether it be crochet or cricket (scrapbooking machine), do something to learn that is HEALTHY for you. NO painting Goth art pictures UNLESS it is something the Lord leads you to do .

Do you have a grandma, Meg? Can you do chores and earn enough to get a Cricket for hobby summer fun, or, get a stenciling or calligraphy kit from JoAnn Fabrics or Michaels? Grandma (Grandpa, if have no grandma, or a trusted aunt) can help you, too, grandma will most likely be FOR YOU SUCEEDING, along with aunt, grandpa, you can do a lot of cool things for fun on your own, the Lord leads . Just ask

Pray for this change in you to be true, too, for this new brand of 'fun' to be understood and enjoyed. God wants you to enjoy your life ! Just in a 'good' way from Him so you can bring glory to Him through what you do. And, becoming changed from one lifestyle to another is a fantabulous way to change others too, bring them to Christ by just watching your change

And, this change in you others will see....Family, for sure, and, your friends too

Friend: Hey, megs, you wanna go clubbing tonight (Saturday night) .
Meg: No thanks, I am going to go to my grandma's and crochet, I am trying to change my life right now, sorry, I just don't feel good about what's been done in my past for fun. I am giving 'God' a try .

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It is amazing what you can do to change your world, Meggy, IF you just change it, just remember, let the Lord lead, He will never leave you, it is up to you to never leave Him. 'Course, we ALL do (by sinning) but the blood of Christ covers aLL your sin-past, present, future. IF you live in Christ (look into 'The Holy Spirit' in Acts 1:8 and Acts 8 15:17. The Holy Spirit is naturally going to bless you IF you receive Him, who is God in spirit form

OK, I've talked advice, some spiritual, some practical.

Now, time to talk 'reflection.'

Give yourself a self-check, milady, examine who you are now, who you were when a kid, who you want to be in the future.

Do you want to live your life for Him ?

Why do you want to live your life for Him ?

Am I happy?

Am I going to reach people the way you want God if I do this, or, I do that ?

Am I really that bad off now?

I am only 17, sure, I have met a few boys that loved me for my body than my brain, but that happens to a lot of girls doesn't it? (yes, it does).

And, wasn't that all just teaching me to be tougher, so, I can understand situations that I otherwise wouldn't understand?
))))))(((((((

These situations I've been through will help girls younger than I to learn from things that hurt them.

Maybe I could even be assisting or even teaching a little kids Sunday school class, telling 4 year olds bible stories. Hey, I can do that !

What can you do, Meggy for your Lord. Don't say 'What can you do for me, Lord?' Remember, when Satan tested Jesus up on the top of the building (this is the time the Spirit of God, or, 'Holy Spirit' drove Jesus into the wilderness right after Jesus was baptized by John The Baptist and The Holy Spirit lit on Jesus).

 

[Ritter]

Enjoy the fact you have options and possibilities.

By pointing out your relatively young age, I suspect many people are only trying to help by giving you a good frame of reference or themselves a starting point. Age doesn't matter AS much as people think it does, but it is still a factor. Cut the world some slack.

 

[Jullianna]

Dance studios, hiking, books, movies, photography and playing music mostly. Learning something new is always fun.

What interests do you have? Other than being flawless, of course

 

[Livi94]

fun as a single person? Ive never had a boyfriend (and im waiting until i graduate ^_^ ) but i love being single... i never have to check with anyone bout what im doing and i have time for everyone and everything else in my life. Although, im a pretty independent kind of person :/
You should just spend more time with your friends and family

 

[CC_Bride]

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Well said by c.c. (red parts were highlighted, green was me adding thoughts) for you, meg, all of it above, but the part about 'Get a hobby' really makes sense. Whether it be crochet or cricket (scrapbooking machine), do something to learn that is HEALTHY for you. NO painting Goth art pictures UNLESS it is something the Lord leads you to do .

Do you have a grandma, Meg? Can you do chores and earn enough to get a Cricket for hobby summer fun, or, get a stenciling or calligraphy kit from JoAnn Fabrics or Michaels? Grandma (Grandpa, if have no grandma, or a trusted aunt) can help you, too, grandma will most likely be FOR YOU SUCEEDING, along with aunt, grandpa, you can do a lot of cool things for fun on your own, the Lord leads . Just ask

Pray for this change in you to be true, too, for this new brand of 'fun' to be understood and enjoyed. God wants you to enjoy your life ! Just in a 'good' way from Him so you can bring glory to Him through what you do. And, becoming changed from one lifestyle to another is a fantabulous way to change others too, bring them to Christ by just watching your change

And, this change in you others will see....Family, for sure, and, your friends too

Friend: Hey, megs, you wanna go clubbing tonight (Saturday night) .
Meg: No thanks, I am going to go to my grandma's and crochet, I am trying to change my life right now, sorry, I just don't feel good about what's been done in my past for fun. I am giving 'God' a try .

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It is amazing what you can do to change your world, Meggy, IF you just change it, just remember, let the Lord lead, He will never leave you, it is up to you to never leave Him. 'Course, we ALL do (by sinning) but the blood of Christ covers aLL your sin-past, present, future. IF you live in Christ (look into 'The Holy Spirit' in Acts 1:8 and Acts 8 15:17. The Holy Spirit is naturally going to bless you IF you receive Him, who is God in spirit form

OK, I've talked advice, some spiritual, some practical.

Now, time to talk 'reflection.'

Give yourself a self-check, milady, examine who you are now, who you were when a kid, who you want to be in the future.

Do you want to live your life for Him ?

Why do you want to live your life for Him ?

Am I happy?

Am I going to reach people the way you want God if I do this, or, I do that ?

Am I really that bad off now?

I am only 17, sure, I have met a few boys that loved me for my body than my brain, but that happens to a lot of girls doesn't it? (yes, it does).

And, wasn't that all just teaching me to be tougher, so, I can understand situations that I otherwise wouldn't understand?
))))))(((((((

These situations I've been through will help girls younger than I to learn from things that hurt them.

Maybe I could even be assisting or even teaching a little kids Sunday school class, telling 4 year olds bible stories. Hey, I can do that !

What can you do, Meggy for your Lord. Don't say 'What can you do for me, Lord?' Remember, when Satan tested Jesus up on the top of the building (this is the time the Spirit of God, or, 'Holy Spirit' drove Jesus into the wilderness right after Jesus was baptized by John The Baptist and The Holy Spirit lit on Jesus).

Lol err thanks? hehehe.

 

[GreenNnice]

Lol err thanks? hehehe.

Just trying to help, c.c., the Lord leads, and, that is a great idea fior Meg to get a hobby, or, go do a sport too, I would say something like join a church and then play on their summer co-ed That softball team too, if a possibility. That would be good christian fellowship too.

Z______Z
Bazinga, this is Sheldon from Ork, signing off, na-nu, na-nu, milady

 

[BlueAngel]

alright, i know i'm only 17- NO COMMENTS ABOUT MY AGE.
trust me, i'm far more worldly than a lot of you. but, i'm not getting into my past.

I've pretty much been in relationships since my freshman year of highschool. I've really never been single. I've always been "talking" to someone, or in a serious relationship since I was probably 14.
I'm not used to being single. All of my relationships have ended and I've started a new one within a 6-week time frame. I don't even know how to have fun without someone of the opposite sex telling me how flawless I am all the time.
I've realized that I still haven't recovered from the first relationship I was ever in. I have all these scars and walls built up, and I'm not gonna be ready for anything for a really long time.
If you want to pray for me, that's cool. But don't tell me I need to pray- I am.
Also, I am already immersing myself in church, and christ. No need to tell me to do that, either.

What are some fun things I can do as a single?

Wow, sounds like me
But really, I just got out of a relationship in October, and didn't get over it until this month... But I realized that there are things I haven't done in years, that I actually, really like doing. I just grass stained my pants this month, which I haven't been rough enough to do in years... And I just realized, I like lots of rough games. When I was in a relationship, I cared too much what the guy thought of me, so I wouldn't do them.
Since I got over the dude, I've been going out with my other friends, and having a blast all by myself.
I've learned a lot too... Like how to love myself (I've gone 16, almost 17 years without loving myself, and finally got it). You can't love someone with a love you don't have.
You don't need a guy to complete you.
You're complete with just you and God...
Sorry, I'm gonna start rambling if I continue. lol... Anyway, hope this helped...

 

[Pheonix]

Until I found myself unemployed I played EVE online. I also enjoy canoeing, though I don't get to do that very often, and I haven't found anyone interested in playing sports for years. I'm not a sit around and chat kind of guy the way most of the christians of my acquaintance are. I hate talking for the sake of talking. So I'm pretty much stuck with staring at the ceiling and reading the same books over and over again.

 

[Timofree]

The same way as when your in a relationship, enjoy God. In His presence is fulness of joy........nothing else out there can compete!
Why wait til Jesus comes back or you die, experience heaven on earth now, it's God's will afterall, wooohooo!

 

[GreenNnice]

The same way as when your in a relationship, enjoy God. In His presence is fulness of joy........nothing else out there can compete!
Why wait til Jesus comes back or you die, experience heaven on earth now, it's God's will afterall, wooohooo!

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Amen, timothyfree^
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Truly, you only need to say one word.

God

 

[genipher_elizabeth]

I keep busy so I don't get lonely. My time off of work consists of various things. LOTS of friend and family time though. I play cribbage, hang out with my housemates, travel out of town to see old friends I've been meaning to see, play softball, play tennis, go horseback riding, watch movies, have bbq's and bonfires, hike/reflect a lot, practice photography, get engulfed in history (because I enjoy it), go floating, and write. I've made myself get out and meet new people and between my various groups of friends I always have something going on! I've really learned to enjoy/embrace being single and I'm just living life!

 

[LightningClap0002]

I keep busy so I don't get lonely. My time off of work consists of various things. LOTS of friend and family time though. I play cribbage, hang out with my housemates, travel out of town to see old friends I've been meaning to see, play softball, play tennis, go horseback riding, watch movies, have bbq's and bonfires, hike/reflect a lot, practice photography, get engulfed in history (because I enjoy it), go floating, and write. I've made myself get out and meet new people and between my various groups of friends I always have something going on! I've really learned to enjoy/embrace being single and I'm just living life!

Sounds fun! Sign me up