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Admittedly, I came across a few minutes of a reality show on the Style Network last night. It was about Adriana, who used to date Rob Kardashian. Her grandmother set her up on a date with "a nice Christian young man".
Following the date, her and her grandmother met back up. Adriana called him "Dougie Downer". Doug had gone as far to get way too serious about life and his morals on the date. Doug even admitted he is against pre-marital sex.
While having views and boundaries is fine.. you don't really need to go around telling your date.. every single value you have on date #1. She ultimately told her grandmother she would not be giving him date #2.
This reminds of my ex-good friend, who after 16 months of marriage was left by his wife. While he was mature and too serious about life.. she lived an idealized life (life is supposed to be this fictional way) and lacked real life maturity. The problem stemmed from his seriousness.. the dude could never chill. If you went for a walk or hung out with him.. every little detail was dissected for absolute debate. The guy condemned, lifelong believers like myself as not living up to a higher standard. I was like dude, be thankful I am saved and not some club bouncing worlding. He would always offer me advice but never accept my own. Ultimately, the rift between him and his wife was never going to be effectively communicated to repair.
In the end, I say.. be serious about your morals, beliefts.. but enjoy dates, relationships and marriage. Don't be tense and take things more seriously then they ought to be. Don't feel the need to impose your beliefs and if people do not readily accept them.. don't shun them for it. Seriously
Following the date, her and her grandmother met back up. Adriana called him "Dougie Downer". Doug had gone as far to get way too serious about life and his morals on the date. Doug even admitted he is against pre-marital sex.
While having views and boundaries is fine.. you don't really need to go around telling your date.. every single value you have on date #1. She ultimately told her grandmother she would not be giving him date #2.
This reminds of my ex-good friend, who after 16 months of marriage was left by his wife. While he was mature and too serious about life.. she lived an idealized life (life is supposed to be this fictional way) and lacked real life maturity. The problem stemmed from his seriousness.. the dude could never chill. If you went for a walk or hung out with him.. every little detail was dissected for absolute debate. The guy condemned, lifelong believers like myself as not living up to a higher standard. I was like dude, be thankful I am saved and not some club bouncing worlding. He would always offer me advice but never accept my own. Ultimately, the rift between him and his wife was never going to be effectively communicated to repair.
In the end, I say.. be serious about your morals, beliefts.. but enjoy dates, relationships and marriage. Don't be tense and take things more seriously then they ought to be. Don't feel the need to impose your beliefs and if people do not readily accept them.. don't shun them for it. Seriously