A PM is not eternal damnation
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Can't speak for everyone of course, but for me I prefer to keep it main chat because it seems less stressful. I don't like small talk, I don't wanna be pressured into talking about my career. I hate discussing careers. It's so boring. Or people who are complete strangers may ask me about my relationship with God. To me that is very personal and I don't even talk to all of my family about that stuff.
It's just easier in the main chat. If not being a social butterfly offends some people, then I'll just have to live with that. Cause I'm not that social of a person, in real life or online.
It's the internet. You never know who is out there. No chat room is troll proof. I've had the occasional rude experiences with nasty/annoying people in there. And I don't always wanna deal with that risk.
Also...I have a boyfriend already. Most of the people who ever messaged me in there were single males... so I am left to awkwardly wonder about their motives of starting up a conversation with me.
For now it's just easier to politely state my preference not to PM strangers.
It's just easier in the main chat. If not being a social butterfly offends some people, then I'll just have to live with that. Cause I'm not that social of a person, in real life or online.
It's the internet. You never know who is out there. No chat room is troll proof. I've had the occasional rude experiences with nasty/annoying people in there. And I don't always wanna deal with that risk.
Also...I have a boyfriend already. Most of the people who ever messaged me in there were single males... so I am left to awkwardly wonder about their motives of starting up a conversation with me.
For now it's just easier to politely state my preference not to PM strangers.
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One main reason you see auto PM box messages telling people they dont PM, is that women especially, receive PM's from men that we do not know. Im a grandmother and I am PM'd by men I do not know despite my message stating I dont PM with men and that I am a grandmother. However, my auto PM message that states I dont PM with men has cut down the number of those types of messages in general.
God Bless,
NewEagle
God Bless,
NewEagle
Oh i'm sry men can be very stupid and perverted, I am a man ------edited-------- i repect women and even though to so many ppl in world think i am not a real man because i don't barely ever have sexual thoughts ---------edited----------. No i am not gay but i think god made me to where i respect women way to much to even have thought's like that. But then again i did grow up with a family of girls. I am sry also for posting this disturbing message
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Yeah, i prefer PM's. I am not very social and so therefore don't care to be in a roomful of people fighting to speak over each other. Besides, most of what i see in the main chats isn't worth involving myself in anyways. Its largely cliquiesh and immature. I'd rather PM so i can be more discerning over who i talk to. Also i prefer to get to know a person well, rather than small talk and baseless chit chat with someone i will barely ever get to know.
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Although this is 'christian' chat, I'm sure you can agree that not everything people discuss in the chat rooms is a christian topic. Same goes for PM's. Personally when people PM me, it's not to ask how my walk with God is going or how long I've been a Christian, but "hey what's up." Also, everyone seems to think this is a dating site, so if someone's PM message asks you not to talk to them, it's not because they hate you, or are anti-social, or want to set a bad example as a Christian, but it's because they don't want to talk to random people about their lives.
I primarily don't like private messages because they become another thing I have to divide my attention upon. Usually, it's easier for me to talk with someone in the main chat, where I can also participate in the group conversation. It's a hassle when this is meant to be a place where I can relax. Not everyone likes chat to mean holding several conversations at once. I'm not into it. I prefer to have one - at most two - conversations at once.
Plus, most of the PMs seem to come from absolutely random people, usually from a distant country. And if I engage the conversation, it's usually just small talk. I'm not really a small talk kind of person. If you wanna chat with me say hi, but get to the point of the conversation.
Plus, most of the PMs seem to come from absolutely random people, usually from a distant country. And if I engage the conversation, it's usually just small talk. I'm not really a small talk kind of person. If you wanna chat with me say hi, but get to the point of the conversation.
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Hi I regularly chat in PMs to other people and have met some lovely people. It has really been an eye opener as to what other peoples lives are like in different parts of the world and what they may be facing as christian.
But I would say that at least 1/3 of the PMs I get are from men wanting email, skype, phone numbers and within a few lines of a seemingly innocent conversation, they start asking for these. I politely decline and end the conversation. Some just start talking about their sex lives! From both married and single men
I think you can appreciate, therefore why some people and women especially, may feel the need to post messages saying go away etc.
I feel confident enough be able to deal with these requests and so do not put messages up saying no PMS etc. But a lot of women may not and you have to respect that.
I think there is also a cultural issue at times. Some cultures are very open and hospitable and will greet and speak to anyone warmly and ask personal questions etc. While other cultures are very reserved and would think it rude if a stranger started asking personal questions.
We still have a lot to learn about each other !
But I would say that at least 1/3 of the PMs I get are from men wanting email, skype, phone numbers and within a few lines of a seemingly innocent conversation, they start asking for these. I politely decline and end the conversation. Some just start talking about their sex lives! From both married and single men
I think you can appreciate, therefore why some people and women especially, may feel the need to post messages saying go away etc.
I feel confident enough be able to deal with these requests and so do not put messages up saying no PMS etc. But a lot of women may not and you have to respect that.
I think there is also a cultural issue at times. Some cultures are very open and hospitable and will greet and speak to anyone warmly and ask personal questions etc. While other cultures are very reserved and would think it rude if a stranger started asking personal questions.
We still have a lot to learn about each other !
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Of course some of them are!
I've met many good friends from this site from back in my chattier days. I used to private message chat all the time in there, in fact I preferred it back then. But same as with everything, chat has its ups and downs. And the time eventually came where I felt I needed a break. The desire to meet strangers through a chat room faded, and my needs changed. Nothing wrong with that.
Just cause I can completely understand why some don't like to PM doesn't mean I can't understand why some do.
Please respect the introverts.
None of us called it an eternal damnation, lol.
I've met many good friends from this site from back in my chattier days. I used to private message chat all the time in there, in fact I preferred it back then. But same as with everything, chat has its ups and downs. And the time eventually came where I felt I needed a break. The desire to meet strangers through a chat room faded, and my needs changed. Nothing wrong with that.
Just cause I can completely understand why some don't like to PM doesn't mean I can't understand why some do.
Please respect the introverts.
None of us called it an eternal damnation, lol.
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About 85% of the PMs I get in the chatroom are from strange men. I've had some that PM me with no introduction, just some weird political statement. Then there are the ones that think this is a secular dating site, they've asked to see my photo, they've asked if I'm single, one guy asked me if I like to cuddle!...
So that's why the women put up notices.
So that's why the women put up notices.