Recent content by OllieYakob

I'm sorry to say this, but I believe whoever you're describing ran away from you because you were not willing to love her as the Bible instructs you to. I pray you heal from whatever caused you to not be able to open up to someone else. To answer your question, look up avoidant attachment style.

I wish I can give you two hearts. But all the things you listed about the woman you met are the exact same things my friend reports concerning this guy. She is very vocal and tells him how much she is hurting, but he hasn't changed a thing. He does the bare minimum to keep her around. I told her...

Check out avoidant attachment style. It's the clinical term for it.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation? Have you sought the help of a therapist? If not, seek out a Christian therapist who specializes in attachment styles.

I totally agree with you and suggested therapy. I sent her an article and she shared it with him. He recognized himself in that article and acknowledged that he needs help. I told her to stay out it and let him seek the help on his own. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I hope she has...

I believe she is still in it because he's a decent guy and she is somewhat desperate.

Hi Dear, Yes, he does have a great connection with his friends and family, but puts a wall up when it comes to romantic relationships. He hasn't been in relationships that lasted more than eight to ten months, as all the girls get fed up and leave. He's not using it as a crutch, as he has no...

I beg to differ. I'm an introvert, but very expressive when it comes to opening up and making emotional connections. I also know several introverts and empath who are able to open up to others emotionally. Read on avoidant attachment style. Perhaps this is what your accusers were referring to...

Thank you for your reply dear. He is not stating that he doesn't want to commit. He's not asking her to sleep with him. He's not seeing anyone else. In fact, he wants to be married and have children. However, he has not made any concrete plans. He has an avoidant attachment style and has zero...

Great ideas! I will make sure she reads your answer. He seems interested, wants to be married and have a family. However, due to his avoidant attachment style, he is unable to get there. Neither she nor he knows about attachment style. But I've spoken to her at length about it and suggested...

I wouldn't call it a fad. It's clinically termed "avoidant attachment style." I love your last statement ;)

Gamble is the right word. I'm praying and believing the Lord will change him. I would like to see my friend in a healthy relationship.

100% right! I will share this post with her. I think she needs to hear it from someone other than me.

I concur. I'm so glad you gave your life to Christ. Blessings!

I agree with you that we don't have the right to ask someone to change. However, we have the right to teach others how to treat us. She has kindly helped him to understand what it feels like being with him, but there's just no desire to do things differently on his part. I do agree that being a...