EQ?

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mar09

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Emotional Intelligence (EQ or EI) is a term created by two researchers – Peter Salavoy and John Mayer – and popularized by Dan Goleman in his 1996 book of the same name.

We define EI as the ability to:
In practical terms, this means being aware that emotions can drive our behavior and impact people (positively and negatively), and learning how to manage those emotions – both our own and others – especially when we are under pressure.
from https://www.ihhp.com/meaning-of-emotional-intelligence

Have you tried any EQ tests? (I havent.. they're said to be expensive.) I understand EQ is now considered an "intelligence" which has helped many overcome life hurdles and achieve "success." (Once someone said, Then we should be emotional!)

Emotions are not always easy to deal with or talked about. Not sure either if there are threads on this now, but after reading an article (https://www.biblestudytools.com/blogs/mark-altrogge/what-do-i-do-with-these-powerful-feelings.html), i thought to start this thread where we can share abt emotions verbally. Photos are also welcome, if you feel that expresses what you mean better.
 
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@mar09
Perhaps clarify a but more what.youre wanting shared. I'm not entirely sure what you're asking for.
 

mar09

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Thanks for the question... and sorry i cannot return sooner. Basically i was reading the blog and thinking people do not always find it easy to express emotions (hence we need the smilies, etc.), but we were given emotions and do need to know how to understand, use, and express them "appropriately." I just included the definition of EQ so it is simpler if anyone asks.

Here's part of the blog, from where we can get some insight.

All of us can experience many feelings in a single day.
We can feel depressed or sad or angry or lonely. We can feel happy and hopeful. We can be cheerful one moment then suddenly annoyed at that old guy driving way too slow in front of us. We can feel like we love someone one moment, then frustrated at them a moment later. We can feel optimistic or hopeless.

Some of us wear our feelings on our sleeve. Some of us, like me, don’t want others to know when we’re feeling down or discouraged. Sometimes our feelings seem uncontrollable – “I couldn’t help getting angry with that idiot!”

Most of us would like to be able to better control our feelings.

One of my favorite movies is “What About Bob?” (I know, I know, I’m an old guy. In case you don’t know that movie it was a comedy from the early 90’s. Yikes – close to 30 years ago! Man, I’m getting old. That makes me depressed. Ooops – I revealed a feeling.)

Anyway, the main character in the movie, Bob Wiley, wakes up every morning, rubs his temples, and says, “I feel good, I feel great, I feel wonderful” over and over in an effort to control his feelings. I try that sometimes. I say, “I love dogs, I love dogs, I love dogs.” Doesn’t seem to help too much.

So, we all have feelings. But are these feelings always true or truthful? Should we express our feelings or repress them? How can we deal with negative feelings? Should our feelings direct our lives? Should we “follow our hearts” as so many say? Should we do something if we’re “just not feeling it”?

This is a complex topic, but I’ll share a few thoughts for you to chew on – if you feel like it.

First, our feelings are true, but not necessarily the truth.

What do I mean by this? First of all they are true, in the sense that they are real. We really do feel things. For example you may feel like a total failure. But are you a TOTAL failure. You may have genuinely believed in Jesus Christ and called on him to save you but you don’t FEEL saved. You may feel like you are a total loser. Or that your marriage has nothing good about it. These feelings are true feelings, but are they necessarily the truth.

“I feel like I’m going crazy in this house.” True feeling. But not necessarily the truth.

Our feelings are not necessarily right or wrong....
 

Lynx

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Well nuts. I saw "EQ" and thought this was going to be a music thread about how to apply equalizer distortion to audio tracks. =^.^=
 

mar09

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I am sorry... thought the title was easy enough to get w/o being misleading. Maybe better if i spelled out EQ. I dont think emotions are always an easy thing to talk about, even among women.

There's an ejournal which a teacher, actually a classmate, posted which i'd like to share parts of here:

Smart Emotions
KC Ongoco Uncategorized July 17, 2018 2 Minutes
Reading through the second module was another refresher for me (I took this course back in college) as I get to recall the different theories about intelligence, as well as how it is measured...

Among the theories presented from In the module, I am mostly in favor towards Howard Gardner’s Theory of Multiple Intelligence. According to this theory, intelligence is not just a general ability but is composed of different talents and abilities. In this case, there are eight (although I think, recently, another component was added which makes it 9).

What I like about this theory is that it does not limit people into thinking that an intelligent person is ONLY the one whose cognitive ability is high. In the education set-up, it allows teachers to see their students as heterogenous; meaning, each individual has his/ her own talents and abilities...

As important as intelligence (IQ) is the Emotional Intelligence (EQ). For me, there should be a balance between cognitive ability and the ability to feel your emotions and relate to other’s emotions. I wanted to say that emotions make us human beings, but researches already proved that animals also have emotions so my statement would be invalid (LOL). Well, compared to hardworking inanimate objects like computers, emotions make us human beings!
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The practice of these theories has come a long way and I believe that we, this current generation, are lucky enough that our teachers saw us as individuals with different talents and abilities rather than a homogeneous group of people learning together. With this kind of perspective towards learning, students are given the chance to showcase where they are good at and to excel in it. Teachers, on the other hand, are given the opportunity to know their students more and to explore unconventional methods of teaching which could be considered as professional growth.
https://apennyfortwo.wordpress.com/2018/07/17/smart-emotions/