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Hi MRSRMR welcome to CC and nice to meet you. Obviously the wise thing to do is stay away from your ex. He has a problematic marriage that's not your position to fix. That's going off the rails, saying you'd go to hell if you don't go to his church and certainly unscriptural. Keeping in contact with him will bring temptation, Also, take this to another of the forums for more responses. You're not lost, you are found. God bless.

Hello guys I am looking for some guidance. As we all are lol. Here is my deal my ex boyfriend is now a pastor he reached out to me on Facebook, and started to minister to me over the phone. We are now both married. I started to attend his church and even started to give my 10%. However his wife started posting on Facebook really weird things like she’s tired of people not seeing her worth. And no one loves her. I’ve spoken to her before and I thought we were friends. I spoke to her about it and asked her if she felt ok with me being there she said yes, but felt like her husband was acting different with her when he would talk to me.
I have decided that for the sake of their peace and mine I shouldn’t be there anymore and have started attending a different church which I feel so much better and so much love. My dilema is that the pastor (my ex) told me that God has a goal with me and that if I am not being prepared at his church I’ll go to hell. It’s basically what he said in different words, he said I am being disobedient to God. I need help determining this??? I feel lost.

Hello guys I am looking for some guidance. As we all are lol. Here is my deal my ex boyfriend is now a pastor he reached out to me on Facebook, and started to minister to me over the phone. We are now both married. I started to attend his church and even started to give my 10%. However his wife started posting on Facebook really weird things like she’s tired of people not seeing her worth. And no one loves her. I’ve spoken to her before and I thought we were friends. I spoke to her about it and asked her if she felt ok with me being there she said yes, but felt like her husband was acting different with her when he would talk to me.
I have decided that for the sake of their peace and mine I shouldn’t be there anymore and have started attending a different church which I feel so much better and so much love. My dilema is that the pastor (my ex) told me that God has a goal with me and that if I am not being prepared at his church I’ll go to hell. It’s basically what he said in different words, he said I am being disobedient to God. I need help determining this??? I feel lost.

Amen, thank you all! I feel so much better. I feel liberated!!! I guess I am still guilty a little for breaking his heart in the past.

I guess I am still guilty a little for breaking his heart in the past.

Hi Mrs. I am new here too!
I work in the healh area and do alot of relationship counselling. This ex of yours is trying to manipulate you, and is obviously not in a happy marriage. The fact that he is your ex means he knows how to manipulate / use you, make you feel guilty for no reason & is probably trying to groom you into doing something in the future you will regret. That is why he doesn't want you to leave his church. It also shows that he is uncertain re his marriage, and is deflecting his frustration / confusion onto you - which is a common tactic of abusers and deceitful, manipulative people. He wants a 'partner in crime' to side with him. My advice is walk away (or run!) from him and his unhappy situation for good. You are better than to be used like that! He is using God's name to make you feel guilty and nobody should ever do that.
Hope this helps. Cheers