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Oct 2, 2019
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I’m not sure if I’m posting this in the correct category or not-if not, I apologize. I am posting this asking for any and all advice I can get. It would greatly help. In short-there is a neighborhood teenager that will not stop bullying me and my family. It has gotten to where he bullies us everyday when he walks past our house. He throws walnuts and rocks at my windows, pulls the boundary flags out of my yard and throws them in a different area of my yard, he makes rude gestures at my security cameras, tries looking into my house. I have no idea what to do anymore, as I have tried talking to his parent and she says he isn’t doing anything wrong. She says that if he says he isn’t doing anything, then he isn’t doing anything. I have absolutely no idea what to do about this. My family and I are so scared everyday about what he is going to do next. We don’t go outside in our front yard anymore because of it. It is so stressful. Thank you for all advice-I appreciate it!
 

Roughsoul1991

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I’m not sure if I’m posting this in the correct category or not-if not, I apologize. I am posting this asking for any and all advice I can get. It would greatly help. In short-there is a neighborhood teenager that will not stop bullying me and my family. It has gotten to where he bullies us everyday when he walks past our house. He throws walnuts and rocks at my windows, pulls the boundary flags out of my yard and throws them in a different area of my yard, he makes rude gestures at my security cameras, tries looking into my house. I have no idea what to do anymore, as I have tried talking to his parent and she says he isn’t doing anything wrong. She says that if he says he isn’t doing anything, then he isn’t doing anything. I have absolutely no idea what to do about this. My family and I are so scared everyday about what he is going to do next. We don’t go outside in our front yard anymore because of it. It is so stressful. Thank you for all advice-I appreciate it!
If you have witnesses, your security cameras and your own eye witness testimony then next time call the police and let them handle his parents.
 
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tasha66

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Call the police & show them the security footage. Even better, if you can download the security footage onto a mobile or ipad/laptop, then take that to the police station, even better. He will be prosecuted if the footage is clear, as this is incontrovertible evidence.
A very similar thing happened to me. I had somebody stalking/bothering me (won't go into details). I got scared and every time this person bothered me, I called the police. The person annoying me was eventually locked up as the police got sick of me calling them numerous times at all hours. If you constantly annoy the police, they WILL do something about this person - especially if you are calling in the wee hours!
It's not just that he's a nuisance either - he may have a mental health issue, and his 'pranks' could turn into violence as they often do. Trust me, he needs to be put away. I work in this type of area & know what I am talking about.
Let us know how you get on!
 
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Thank you both very much for your advice. I called the police on the day he threw rocks and walnuts at the windows, and a cop came out, seen they weren’t home, then left. Another day I called them and they told me that if he is on the easement they can’t do anything about it. Not unless he is past the easement. It happens when he goes to and from his bus stop.. lives across the street from me. I won’t even explain the gestures he does to my cameras. They said it’s extremely difficult to deal with cases involving juveniles. So I feel completely stuck.
 
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OK I am not surprised to hear that. I had another incident where someone was stalking me (who I knew well), & unless I had DIRECT and INCONTROVERTIBLE evidence that he was bothering me (ie: photo of him and/or his vehicle registration), there was nothing I could do. And this person stalked me at night so he knew that if I ran outside with my phone/camera, it would be hard for me to get a clear pic of him & his car - he was very devious this man. I had to move because I got so concerned he would break into my unit and hurt/murder me.
The police where I live have juvenile sections you can contact. I'd call the main police office in your capital city & ask to speak to a senior officer and/or detective - don't talk to reception as they will fob you off. Tell them you want to press charges for damage to property & you are concerned for you and your family's safety. Cry on the phone if you have to, & get your hubby/partner to speak to them as well. This bully's behaviour will escalate. He/she knows you are living in fear & is playing off of that fear. You should not have to hide in your own house, or be afraid to go out into your front yard.
Otherwise I'd be contacting legal aid or a lawyer, & telling them your concerns. I'd then contact the parents & tell them that you are escalating your complaint. I know they live near you, but you might have to do this to get them to take any notice.
I hope you get some sort of resolution soon!
 

p_rehbein

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Document any and all actions he takes. Fully document. Best way is audio/video evidence. Date/Time recorded. Get as many incidents as you can, then take your Documentation to the Police Department. File a formal complaint for Domestic Harassment. Request a Restraining Order be served on him/his parents. That he/they can not come within 100 feet of you/your family/your property. That 100 foot requirement starts at the beginning of your Property, not your front door.

Take your Documentation to the Mayor's Office and make them aware of the situation. Then take it to the City Council and alert them as well.

IF, after all this, nothing is done, take your Documentation to the local TV Station/Newspaper/Facebook, and or YouTube...….. Basically, make him and his family "famous." A lot of City/County/States have Laws against Domestic Terrorism. The age of the offender is not relevant, other than the fact that the Officials are too lazy or unconcerned with enforcing the Law.

If this becomes a reality, then make them "famous" also. Be sure to Document all your interactions with the Police/Mayor's Office/City Council persons. Document everything! Leave no room for doubt or question.

As well, if he causes any "real property damage," you can file Criminal Charges against him, and Civil Suit against his parents.

Now, all of this is the proper way to do things.

However, if it were me, I would confront the little fart, and then have a special word with his father, and while I may have to be bailed out by someone, I assure you both he and his parents would fully understand my feelings.

Now and again, a little butt kicking is the only thing that works.

Or, you could just move!

Anyhoo.....… bullies are cowards, and if you stand up to them/confront them, they usually fold rather quickly. If this is happening at School to your kids, be sure to Document that, and then speak with the School Administrators, and if they fail to resolve the issue, you can sue them for failing to protect your child/children.

Every ounce of old Soldier in me screams kick the little twerps butt!

You do as you feel led to do.