God, please let me let go.....

Hello Brothers and Sisters in Christ. Currently I am in the process of going through a divorce. My heart is broken because this was brought about but my own sin. I can’t remember when I have had so much pain and angst. Every night I cry and ask the Lord for his mercy and grace.

God striped me of my comfort because I had fallen away so far. Because of my iniquities, God needed to show me that I was on a path to spiritual death. Now that I have fully submitted to HIS will and I know I will face more trials and tribulations.

What’s been most difficult is that she moved and out and I stayed behind in the environment of memories. 18 years worth. The Lord has instructed me to be a servant to her as we have 4 children. Do want she asks says the Sprit. This not as much for her benefit as it is God testing me, seeing if am being obedient to His will no matter how painful it is.

What I am finding to heart-aching is she becoming more worldly while I am willing to forgo such. She is more infatuated with winning the praise of people and “Doing Her own thing.” I know only God can speak to a persons heart and I want her to wake up and see that this path will only lead to desolation.

How do I let go of her? How do I put my feelings aside and let the Lord have control? By submission to His will. That’s how. It’s very hard to do, but I know I’m clinging to a dead past. Oh Lord, hear my cries and let me be embraced by your grace for I’m a very sad man. God bless you all!

God Bless you sir for your ruthless honesty. I feel you are full of the Spirit. I am confident your suffering will be rewarded some day. take care and see you round these parts...

I am sorry...though i am not married yet In my heart I feel like going through a divorce is heartbreaking and the recovery will come with time... 18 years is a long time...and letting go of someone is painful...

I wish I can tell you...to continue to wait for her...to continue to pray for reconciliation...because I know waiting is also painful... But God knows what's best for both of you and He knows exactly what's best for your marriage...all I can tell you is there is always hope for those who put their trust in the Lord 🙏🏼

Bro, I prayed for your marriage I asked God to heal your heart and her. I also prayed for guidance and comfort for both of u.

God bless you brother ❤

psalm 34
God comforts the broken hearted
see @DustyRhodes thread

It's not the Holy Spirit telling you to serve her. It's your own will to try and show her that you have changed. You are in fox hole mode. You're in a bad place and want God to bail you out. Which he may well do, but he may let you suffer the consequences of your sin. I hope the former.
You can only do one thing, and that is to with out excusing your behaved with out pointing to her failings, confess all your sin, short comings and errors to her. Just go to her and say I am and have...and I realize that I blew it, I'm sorry. I would like it if you give me a chance to prove I am changed.
Then commit to counseling and what ever kind of help she will accept.
Then go ahead and get the counseling
And live the changed life, even if she says to go get stuffed, because she may well do it. She may be done with you, and she may well be very angry and just trying to hurt you.

Thank you for your post. Believe me, I know the things I have done. I just want God to give me the strength to know that and follow Him, which He has begun to do. No Man knows his future.

Thank you! God has exposed my soul and He is cleansing it. For I know the plans the Lord has for me! God bless my Friend

I feel that God has a plan for everyone. Sometimes the things we go through don't make sense at that moment, but there is a reason for everything.
No matter what, things have a way of working out the way they are meant to.
That's a work of God. He knows how to guide us through life.
Good and bad things both have a purpose. Best wishes to you and God bless!

Thank you for your words of encouragement. I know God has always been seeking me since I was a child. He gave me a servants heart, but by my nature I was opposed to God. The spiritual warfare I have endured most of my life is for a reason. This was just not in my mind, but I have physically been attacked. Years I have battled. Why I have always asked? Our Father has something for me to do and the unclean demonic forces know this. Unfortunately this last time I almost give in and declared myself lost. Jesus said “No” you belong to me. I can’t explain in human terms, but this walk with God is different than in the past. I have seen miracles and wonders, but now I actually feel the Holy Sprit dwell in me. God is cleansing me and preparing me for whatever it is He has called me to do. My sight is becoming more and more about eternity. I am losing my life to gain it. Letting go of the worldly amenities I become accustomed to and dependent on is very difficult. Praise be to Jesus who sends to us the Great Counselor who is rearranging my soul! May the Lord of Hosts always be with you!

psalm 34
God comforts the broken hearted
see @DustyRhodes thread

seems as though you have convinced yourself that you are 'clinging', but to what??? this un-holy problem has been brought
about by yourself, as you have confessed...
and, this is no longer about HER, but about the results of what you have done to her and yours'!!!

seek God's Will, and if your heart is in the right place, then He will intervene and up-hold you in your efforts to make
right the wrongs that you have done...

I hear your pain. I hear you taking responsibility for what you have done but I also hear you judging her and being critical of her. If you have a hope of a future with her, and even if you don't, you have to drop that. You have to drop that bitterness at the foot of the cross. You can't say you love her and throw her under the bus at the same time. There are consequences for your actions and your best route to winning her back is honest humility. I am not saying this to be unkind. Maybe if you re-read what you wrote you will see that your portrayal of her is not very understanding of the pain she has experienced. Criticizing how she chooses to heal will not help you, nor yourself. You are in a tough place but it can't be twisted to being her fault. Please, for both your sakes, let that go and i wish you both all the best.

Greetings Brother and welcome... I think you will like it here in the cc... Lots of amazingly honest, and gracious, sometimes outspoken and opinionated - but always loving, caring and giving of advice for those who are seeking prayer, friendship, support or just a break from their daily routine...

I can certainly empathize with your situation - as I was married for 26 years and I dragged out the separation for 2 1/2 years hoping and praying for our Lord to show me the way...
While everyone's situation is unique and everyone requires their own path and timeline - it took me all of that 2 1/2 years for personal reflection and literally giving it all to HIM... So, the answer to your quest is to focus upon your path (with HIM) and in practice that means you ultimately need to seek to complete yourself with our Lord's guiding hand along YOUR personal journey...
Your pain is a natural part of the process given the duration of time, energy and commitment that you were in a relationship with another person... Your challenge and struggle will be to find the means, strength and activities by which to complete yourself...
It is only then that you will arrive at the balance (personally and spiritually) to find the peace within your heart, mind and soul to stand along (with HIM)...
This is the path to ensure that you refrain from the common mistake and temptation to seek another person to fill your void and complete you.
By giving it all to HIM - you are essentially posturing yourself (with renewed patience and strength) for both the options that your heart currently desires as well as the other possibilities that can only be graced and bestowed thru HIS blessings...

God Bless

Time heals all wounds which doesn't do much good now I know .. Now is the time to expect the devil to torment you so start rebuking the evil spirits as many times a day as it takes, you will also be conforming your mind to Christ if you look for comfort in the Word .. I suggest heavy in the Psalms and Proverbs , and a whole lotta Jesus .. And Job later, that man went through it too ..
God hates divorce and this is probably why .. I tell everybody that's why you only give your whole heart to Jesus .. I'm so sorry for your pain bro and you are not alone, divorce is rampant .. I pray the Holy Spirit in Jesus name will give you a fresh new love for the Word of God and you fill yourself with it until that's all that comes out of you , that your mourning turn to joy in the Lord to live the abundant Life .. That God provide you with your suitable helpmate in due time .. You may carry a scar but you'll get over it so be blessed and learn from the hard times, let Jesus lead you out .. Remember the devil will ride you as long as you let him ..
God Bless .. Get yourself in shape , learn some lively praise music and new friends if need be ..

The Lord has already begun to work His grace through me. 16 years ago I was supposedly “Born again”. For a few years I thought I was walking the walk, but in actuality I was the seed that fell on the path.

You are right. My intention was not to be critical, but I do see how that can come across. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I do take it heart and I appreciate hearing it! I have much maturing to do, and only Jesus can water and feed me so I can grow. My God continue to use your words for encouragement and conviction.

Great attitude Aerials1978, you have blessed me .. I'm 66 and went through a time so dark when I was in my 30's my mind was so tormented that I didn't know what to do , I decided to get back in church every time the doors were open, fought demons that constantly flew at my mind like birds of prey, even demon spirits suggested U NO WAT a time or two, those damned liars , then 4-5 months later I realized things were looking pretty good again and I had disciplined my mind with spiritual warfare and Jesus and He walked us right on out of that valley .... I had probably been a Christian ''but slack'' about 10 yrs .. That Jesus of Nazareth is quite a fellow ..

The Lord disciplines those He loves...

I know it may be hard but it will all have been so worth it when we are in eternity.

I can totally understand her behaving like she is😔

Bless the Lord that you are repentant and listening to Him and obeying... He knows how to lead you through....and the path that you should take. At least if you are there for them all, you can minimise any further damage... they all need love and care, lay your life down for them, no matter what she is doing. His grace will be enough for whatever the future holds.

I really appreciate your honesty and openness... to be honest, your post is heart-breaking... it made me cry... but that's because when my ex-husband walked out on my 5 children and I,
9 years ago, and committed adultery, after me being devoted to him and the kids for 15 years....he never once was repentant, he never once tried to help us, and has done so much damage because of this.
It blessed my heart to hear how God has led you to keep being there for them, this is exactly what they need; I wish I could explain how important this is.