Do you believe it's God's will that you just lead and disregard if your family doesn't follow?

For instance, my wife and helping around the house, or the money she spends. But I fall short in this myself. It seems like if I just go the extra mile, and do in my own life everything I'm complaining inside about with regard to my wife (without worrying about whether or not she is doing the same), the Lord will intervene and guide her in the same direction.
Same thing with my daughter. She doesn't keep her room tidy. I don't keep my own house tidy! But it seems like if I go above and beyond, and put the effort into doing it myself, the Lord will honor that.
I think if you're a husband or dad and you want to execute that authority, then you can't really expect the Lord's help if you're being hypocritical. But if you know that you're putting your all into it, and then you go to your wife and your daughter, and say "This is how it needs to be done", then the Lord will actually help you out.
It would help silence a lot of complaining within if I could work this out. I do pray about it often but I think there's some action that needs to be involved on my part.

For instance, my wife and helping around the house, or the money she spends. But I fall short in this myself. It seems like if I just go the extra mile, and do in my own life everything I'm complaining inside about with regard to my wife (without worrying about whether or not she is doing the same), the Lord will intervene and guide her in the same direction.
Same thing with my daughter. She doesn't keep her room tidy. I don't keep my own house tidy! But it seems like if I go above and beyond, and put the effort into doing it myself, the Lord will honor that.
I think if you're a husband or dad and you want to execute that authority, then you can't really expect the Lord's help if you're being hypocritical. But if you know that you're putting your all into it, and then you go to your wife and your daughter, and say "This is how it needs to be done", then the Lord will actually help you out.
It would help silence a lot of complaining within if I could work this out. I do pray about it often but I think there's some action that needs to be involved on my part.

For instance, my wife and helping around the house, or the money she spends. But I fall short in this myself. It seems like if I just go the extra mile, and do in my own life everything I'm complaining inside about with regard to my wife (without worrying about whether or not she is doing the same), the Lord will intervene and guide her in the same direction.
Same thing with my daughter. She doesn't keep her room tidy. I don't keep my own house tidy! But it seems like if I go above and beyond, and put the effort into doing it myself, the Lord will honor that.
I think if you're a husband or dad and you want to execute that authority, then you can't really expect the Lord's help if you're being hypocritical. But if you know that you're putting your all into it, and then you go to your wife and your daughter, and say "This is how it needs to be done", then the Lord will actually help you out.
It would help silence a lot of complaining within if I could work this out. I do pray about it often but I think there's some action that needs to be involved on my part.

I can tell you 100% for sure that is not 100% the case. I’ve done all the above and beyond my significant other still does nothing. God is not going to force peoples will.

Leading by example isnt going to force anyone to follow. But it sure will set the example for what you expect.

I can tell you 100% for sure that is not 100% the case. I’ve done all the above and beyond my significant other still does nothing. God is not going to force peoples will.

Hi gdax... You sound just like my hubby. Not that his significant other is doing nothing. Many times I say just because we are different, and do some things differently, means that the other is wrong. He (and you) may have certain expectations abt certain things, but try as I would, I could not seem to achieve some things he's been expecting for years! I happened to have read Disciplines of a Godly Wife before, and the writer said its been 37 yrs, but her hubby was still praying for her to be disciplined and organized (wc she learned he was praying for early on in their marriage=). But i'm sure she had many other good, Godly traits she was sharing in her book.

While I am quite at home outside the house, climbing a tree or roof when possible to chop off branches, for example, our sons never seemed to catch on or be interested in doing the same. When my husband asked one to clean the pavement and grass that grew anywhere, son did before. But after hubby stopped asking to do those things, our son stopped as well. Perhaps he got tired while doing good (just as I do when I fold clothing and sort/pile them asking the guys to get theirs. Then they pull any wc way and I really am tired to either tell them or do the job again!). The mess remains a few days until someone (normally me) fixes them up again=).

To cyph, perhaps showing how u want things done once in a while will help. I heard (on Christian radio or read somewhere?) that God expects us to be Godly parents, but making our children (and spouse) Godly is His job. Hope this helps.