Confused on the statement letting go and let God. Help please

Confused on the statement letting go and let God. So, I've been praying for a certain situation to change in my marriage for years. I've been depressed and constantly thinking negative bc nothing has changed. So, when we're told to let go and let God. Does that mean we should stop praying about the situation? Or do we continue to pray but ask God to help us not to worry about the situation? I'm really confused. I'm lost. I'm to the point where I'm just discouraged. I'm not sure if I'm praying correctly. Maybe I'm too inconsistent or maybe it's bc I continue to worry and stress about the situation daily and truly not letting go

Confused on the statement letting go and let God. So, I've been praying for a certain situation to change in my marriage for years. I've been depressed and constantly thinking negative bc nothing has changed. So, when we're told to let go and let God. Does that mean we should stop praying about the situation? Or do we continue to pray but ask God to help us not to worry about the situation? I'm really confused. I'm lost. I'm to the point where I'm just discouraged. I'm not sure if I'm praying correctly. Maybe I'm too inconsistent or maybe it's bc I continue to worry and stress about the situation daily and truly not letting go

Confused on the statement letting go and let God. So, I've been praying for a certain situation to change in my marriage for years. I've been depressed and constantly thinking negative bc nothing has changed. So, when we're told to let go and let God. Does that mean we should stop praying about the situation? Or do we continue to pray but ask God to help us not to worry about the situation? I'm really confused. I'm lost. I'm to the point where I'm just discouraged. I'm not sure if I'm praying correctly. Maybe I'm too inconsistent or maybe it's bc I continue to worry and stress about the situation daily and truly not letting go

My husband has struggled with alcohol. And some horrible situations has happened due to him being drunk. Once he is sober I explain to him what happened the night before and he'll tell me he won't drink that much again or he is done. He will stop for a while but slowly goes back to the bad habit. Well a couple months ago it was really bad. He could have lost his life and it really scared him. He said he's done with the drinking. But a few weeks later he was drinking wine. He says that wine isn't as bad as hard liquor that he typically drinks but it's all the same to me. No, he didn't get drunk but I'm afraid it'll slowly progress into something bigger. Since he has a couple days where he had too much wine. He doesn't drink everyday (but multiple times a week) but when he does it's too much. And when he does it's like someone else is in control of his body. It's not him. It's just not the man that I married and honestly I'm scared. He says I don't believe that he is a better a him and he'll never go back to that person. But, everytime I see him with a glass I get scared of what could happen. He has actually thrown it in my face that I'm a Christian but yet continue to be negative. But I'm not trying to be but at this point I don't know how to believe him when it always end back with him drinking. And sometimes I don't know if it is God telling me that he isn't going to change and I should leave or if it's him telling me that I'm just not trusting him. I'm sorry this is alot and kind of all over the place. So, do I just pray one simple prayer for him and let go? Do I continue to pray about this situation daily? Or do I simply just pray for myself to let go of the situation? Bc when I say years it has been 5+years of praying for the drinking to stop.

My husband has struggled with alcohol. And some horrible situations has happened due to him being drunk. Once he is sober I explain to him what happened the night before and he'll tell me he won't drink that much again or he is done. He will stop for a while but slowly goes back to the bad habit. Well a couple months ago it was really bad. He could have lost his life and it really scared him. He said he's done with the drinking. But a few weeks later he was drinking wine. He says that wine isn't as bad as hard liquor that he typically drinks but it's all the same to me. No, he didn't get drunk but I'm afraid it'll slowly progress into something bigger. Since he has a couple days where he had too much wine. He doesn't drink everyday (but multiple times a week) but when he does it's too much. And when he does it's like someone else is in control of his body. It's not him. It's just not the man that I married and honestly I'm scared. He says I don't believe that he is a better a him and he'll never go back to that person. But, everytime I see him with a glass I get scared of what could happen. He has actually thrown it in my face that I'm a Christian but yet continue to be negative. But I'm not trying to be but at this point I don't know how to believe him when it always end back with him drinking. And sometimes I don't know if it is God telling me that he isn't going to change and I should leave or if it's him telling me that I'm just not trusting him. I'm sorry this is alot and kind of all over the place. So, do I just pray one simple prayer for him and let go? Do I continue to pray about this situation daily? Or do I simply just pray for myself to let go of the situation? Bc when I say years it has been 5+years of praying for the drinking to stop.

Hi, Lovelyjay.

Thanks for giving us some additional insight.

I would like to suggest to you that alcohol isn't your husband's real problem. Instead, it seems to be something that he turns to because something else is truly bothering him.

In other words, I'm suggesting to you that his drinking is more of a branch, figuratively speaking, and that there is a root problem that his drinking is stemming from.

To your knowledge, is there anything that is troubling your husband that works sort of like a trigger to push him to drink?

Before I became a Christian, I did drugs every day for 11 years straight, and I also drank like a fish.

In my particular case, neither drugs nor alcohol were my real problems. Instead, I turned to the same to try to gain some sort of relief from the real issues which were plaguing me. Once those issues were dealt with, the drugs and alcohol had no appeal to me whatsoever.

Yes, self-medicating with substance abuse, despite the destructive effects, is often like a crutch , but the root cause is some kind of underlying pain.

There are a lot of things people use to escape their world when it gets too stressful. Rather than facing my problems I've resorted to lashing out by doing risky things, sleeping excessively, eating excessively, or getting drunk.

I think her husband needs someone outside of their marriage to step in with love and concern and help. We need an intervention. The question is, does he want help?

That was good advice from Blackpowder duelist. It seems to me that your husband wants to quit but can't. I confess that at one time in my youth I was addicted to something that was so horrific that I'm ashamed to divulge what it was. I am sure that I was possessed by demons. I knew that my mom, whom I love dearly , was not saved. I prayed to God for Him to help me with my addiction and for Him to help my mom get saved. Then I made the decision to offer a sacrifice to God so that He would help my mother get saved. My sacrifice was to stop my addiction. So, for the love of my mom, I stopped my addiction. That was around 30 years ago. Jesus said that if we ask the Father anything in His name, it will be given. I'm sure He was not talking about worldly things but spiritual. I place all my confidence in His words.
My advice is to continue praying for your husband not only for him to stop drinking, but also for him to accept Jesus as Lord and Savior.
Let your husband know how much you love him and how his drinking is affecting you. Let his love for you stop his addiction. Tell him to think of you and the love you share as soon as he starts getting the urge to drink. Shower him with your love so that he will stop the urge as soon as it starts.
Again, I am not an expert. I just shared how I stopped my addiction. Love was the key.

I'm not sure if I'm praying correctly.

I agree with you except for the part about someone outside of their marriage stepping in with love, concern, and help.

Actually, I was going to suggest that she, as his wife, do the same.

In other words, possibly say something like:

Honey, is everything okay?

Is there something that's troubling you?

Something that we could discuss and/or pray about together?

I just want you to know that I'm here for you...

Something along those lines.

Now I feel like Lucy from Peanuts.

Better still, make that Snoopy...

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That's also something that we don't do alot of and that's pray together. He prays, reads the Bible, devotionals, books on being a good husband, etc. And same for me. However, we have never sat down and actually prayed together. Honestly, I have always been very nervous about praying in front of others, including my husband.

Bc when I say years it has been 5+years of praying for the drinking to stop.

Yes, self-medicating with substance abuse, despite the destructive effects, is often like a crutch , but the root cause is some kind of underlying pain.

There are a lot of things people use to escape their world when it gets too stressful. Rather than facing my problems I've resorted to lashing out by doing risky things, sleeping excessively, eating excessively, or getting drunk.

I think her husband needs someone outside of their marriage to step in with love and concern and help. We need an intervention. The question is, does he want help?

And yes, he has ALOT of issues from his childhood and teen/ young adult life and he still hasn't let go of issues