Just want others to know what I've gone through since college, I guess you could call it a rant (G-rated, I promise :) )

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I've tried to make a forum post saying "I fixed an issue with X on game Y by doing Z" on a forum specifically for that game, but no replies. I've also asked for help with a game before, and gotten no replies.

In terms of hardware, I've posted about PC hardware on PCMasterrace on Reddit, but I don't get replies to advice given in post format, me asking for advice, or just ranting about a bad experience. Ditto for a local group that is named "computer enthusiasts" but there's no software anyone in either group talks about either.
r/rant and r/depression have also been equally barren in terms of replies.

Before COVID, I tried finding people to play a sport with. For some reason, I thought people who weren't on the internet as much, might be more interested in physical activity. Except there was no gym that had a (insert sport here) club that people could just join to meet others who played the same sport. Nothing at the community center(s), the churches, and asking people at work who were either my age themselves, or had a son, daughter, or family member my age, or a church pastor, all lead me to dead ends and no one even knew where to start looking for sporting groups.

I've tried volunteering at places where their mission was compassionate in some way, but there were never people my age (I'm 28 now) doing any of those things. Homeless shelter, animal shelter, thrift store, you only met children with their parents or elderly folks. Not that they were unwelcoming or not kind, but I went to a college that had no clubs and the writing/math/science/electronics labs never had people who wanted a conversation about anything.

I've lost in-person friends by asking, what was the best thing that happened in the past few weeks. I wanted to get an idea of something positive to talk about by their reply. Like if their favorite TV show started a new season, I'd ask them questions about that show, and, then when they were finished, either share episodes of that show that I liked or, maybe there's a similar show I've seen that I'd want to talk about, I'd mention that show.
Instead, the person decided to end their friendship with me. Once I asked them that question, they never spoke to me again.
 

2ndTimothyGroup

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It's a pretty backwards world for the Remnant of Christ. It is the Remnant who will experience these kinds of insane issues, while we watch evil men and women live amazing lives of freedom, and even a sense of total, earthly happiness that seems so rewarding and exciting. But that is how life is for those who God loves. Our Powerful God has created a Plan, that where those who suffer . . . these are the ones that He grants His Grace, Mercy, and Compassion to.

My friend . . . it seems that the circumstances of your situation seem to indicate that you are a True Child of the Lord. Be thankful that you have been selected to suffer! :D

Philippians 1:29 NKJV - "For to you it has been granted on behalf of Christ, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for His sake,"

Suffering is the way that the Lord grants His Holy Reward to those whom He Loves. Therefore, you may find that these sets of wild circumstances will not cease. Do not be surprised if your level of suffering continues throughout a lifetime. Your job is to Endure! Endure what? A dozen doughnuts? No . . . we must endure many forms of hardship, for hardship is the Holy Discipline of God that helps to confirm who you/we are.

Believe in yourself! I do. :)
 
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I've tried to make a forum post saying "I fixed an issue with X on game Y by doing Z" on a forum specifically for that game, but no replies. I've also asked for help with a game before, and gotten no replies.

In terms of hardware, I've posted about PC hardware on PCMasterrace on Reddit, but I don't get replies to advice given in post format, me asking for advice, or just ranting about a bad experience. Ditto for a local group that is named "computer enthusiasts" but there's no software anyone in either group talks about either.
r/rant and r/depression have also been equally barren in terms of replies.

Before COVID, I tried finding people to play a sport with. For some reason, I thought people who weren't on the internet as much, might be more interested in physical activity. Except there was no gym that had a (insert sport here) club that people could just join to meet others who played the same sport. Nothing at the community center(s), the churches, and asking people at work who were either my age themselves, or had a son, daughter, or family member my age, or a church pastor, all lead me to dead ends and no one even knew where to start looking for sporting groups.

I've tried volunteering at places where their mission was compassionate in some way, but there were never people my age (I'm 28 now) doing any of those things. Homeless shelter, animal shelter, thrift store, you only met children with their parents or elderly folks. Not that they were unwelcoming or not kind, but I went to a college that had no clubs and the writing/math/science/electronics labs never had people who wanted a conversation about anything.

I've lost in-person friends by asking, what was the best thing that happened in the past few weeks. I wanted to get an idea of something positive to talk about by their reply. Like if their favorite TV show started a new season, I'd ask them questions about that show, and, then when they were finished, either share episodes of that show that I liked or, maybe there's a similar show I've seen that I'd want to talk about, I'd mention that show.
Instead, the person decided to end their friendship with me. Once I asked them that question, they never spoke to me again.

Benjamin - I know the feeling. But you know, outside of church, I think the friendships that we crave with our fellow human beings are often based on griping - isn't it something?!? A common gripe brings people together like nothing else. A common problem brings people together - I lost my best friend fairly recently after his son came out gay - we used to have the best times together, but after that, wow, he grew distant. We're not NOT friends now, but he's so changed, even I, who has never thrown away a friend (except once in 8th grade - and I'll regret that to my dying day!) have no motivation to seek him out for lunch, dinner, a couple of beers, etc.

Your question may have thrown him for a loop. In spite of presenting our best selves through Facebook, Twitter, and whatnot, most people outside of the Christian community are pretty miserable. (And some of those in the CC are as well). When you're living with the joy of the Lord in a fulfilled life, blessed by God and happy, miserable people will want to stay away from such a person. It's possible his life's not going well at all and he doesn't want any hap-hap-happy people around while he's wallowing in that state.

Human relations - heck, what do I know - almost nothing. But I do know this. There's only one friend you can count on your entire life. Friends come and go all the time, but Jesus is there with you every step along the way.

This is trite, but I'll say it: don't worry about it. If you focus on God and being happy while living your life, others will be attracted to you and want to spend time with you. Definitely. Live your life. Do the things you enjoy!
 

Lanolin

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what no clubs
that's stink were there not even christian fellowships?

Im sure you will find something keep looking. Ask God to help you. I have joined and left so many things over the years. Now Im in this garden club and Im like the youngest person there. Its full of oldies.

But I seem to like doing nana type things the best.

I have kind of given up the 'find people my own age' thing. Not even sure why its important.

I hang round children and old people. The only time I get with people my own age is here on this forum, the christians singles forum, cos a lot of churches dont bother organising anything once people graduate and get jobs. They only do things for youth or retired folks.