poll Who can openly admit to being mean sometimes

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poll Who can openly admit to being mean sometimes

  • i can but

    Votes: 2 25.0%

  • i cant

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • i wouldnt want to be this way

    Votes: 3 37.5%

  • i could be this way in the future

    Votes: 2 25.0%

  • if it happens it happens.

    Votes: 1 12.5%

  • i can and im sorry,

    Votes: 6 75.0%

  • i can and i dont know what came over me.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • i would rather forget about my past faults.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • all of the above

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • i dont like to be reminded it annoys me.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Total voters
    8
de-emerald

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1ofthem said:
Yeah everyone has off days and we all get moody now and then. So yeah, I have friends who I try to overlook if they have a bad attitude at times. I don't consider them to be mean or anything. I have off days too and they overlook me too in those times.

Then again, there are folks that are sincerely mean-hearted. Some people enjoy drama and causing trouble, chaos, and hurting others. Some folks like to put other people down to make themselves feel better. There are some people that seem to really enjoy hurting others. That is the type of person I consider to be mean. I can forgive these people and wish them no ill will, but I won't hang out with or be around that type of person for very long, though.
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i think all of what you said is true of how people can be, i really struggle to understand how a person of a human being nature can enjoy hurting others,, thats got to be spiritual possession for me that one. i wish i didnt have to keep mentioning it spiriutal possesion or opression,, but people really have theeses dwarfed ideas of spiritualy possessed people being zombies, when actualy its hard to spot until you study someone, or you know the signs.
 
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Icedaisey said:
A grammar rule here in the first option: i can but ,
Using "but" after an apology cancels out the sincerity of the apology with the excuse or criticism implied in the use of "but".
As in, I can be mean but...certain people can trigger my emotions.
A sincere apology stays on point and accepts responsibility without excuses.
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yes it can cancel it out,, but i wonder is a person always in a recieving mood for accepting an apology when he hears im sorry but and then says your not sorry. i know some people when you say your sorry they still hate you and react badly to your apology.. meaning you havent let the situation calm down befor you apolagized etc,
 
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ResidentAlien said:
I can and I'm sorry. But I think of being mean as intentionally inflicting harm on someone. I'm very rarely intentionally mean. More often I'm probably hurtful, but unintentionally so.

I think it also depends on where you live and who you're around. I live in a place where people are very vocal. If you don't express yourself people think you can't be trusted. People give you more respect if you say what's on your mind, good or bad. I didn't grow up this way and it took me a while to get used to, so I can understand how some people might get their feelings hurt more easily than others.

But as a rule we should all strive to treat others as we would like to be treated. No one likes a bully, which is how I define a "mean" person.
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God Will have mercy on those who will have mercy for others yes i dont think its a good idea to always express your mind straight away at least as i think the enemy would love that if you where that way out..as we all have different characters at times and moods etc. we all cant be in the same mood
 
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Pilgrimshope said:
“We have probably all done this at some point in our life time, and it can be forgiven, and a person can one day overcome the seed of bitterness.”

amen that’s what repentance is all about When we can look at our own actions , see and acknowledge we still have some work to do whether it’s acting and creating and participating in bitterness and arguing . Or many other things we all sometimes find ourselves participating in.

repentance is the key and you are right if we are willing to acknowledge our sins before God and let him be our judge by his word , and turn away from whatever we found ourselves doing , it already is forgiven as soon as we do that acknowledge confess and repent .

and then get back to walking in the light , which will lead to us beginning to see other areas we need to work out in the same way through acknowledging our own sins and flaws and turning away .

his mercy is new every morning to those who are pursuing him in truth encouraging post thanks for taking the time to write it
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good post thanks for sharing :)
 
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Going_Nowhere said:
I try to be kind, but I'm sure there are times when I can be mean....inconsiderate....rude, etc. After all, we all have our moments, right? :)
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yar i know what you mean.. maybe its because sometimes where not to kind to our selfs.
ive been beeting my self up for weeks when i should have given my self encourgment
 
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de-emerald said:
yes it can cancel it out,, but i wonder is a person always in a recieving mood for accepting an apology when he hears im sorry but and then says your not sorry. i know some people when you say your sorry they still hate you and react badly to your apology.. meaning you havent let the situation calm down befor you apolagized etc,
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I think people will always be people first. Regardless of the personal philosophy they hold, etc...
 
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Icedaisey said:
I think people will always be people first. Regardless of the personal philosophy they hold, etc...
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that depends on whether you see philosophy as a bad thing.
 
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de-emerald said:
i think all of what you said is true of how people can be, i really struggle to understand how a person of a human being nature can enjoy hurting others,, thats got to be spiritual possession for me that one. i wish i didnt have to keep mentioning it spiriutal possesion or opression,, but people really have theeses dwarfed ideas of spiritualy possessed people being zombies, when actualy its hard to spot until you study someone, or you know the signs.
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Yeah, I know what you mean. It is hard to understand how some people can be like that.

Sometimes I can spot those people quickly and easily. Sometimes the eyes give those people away. It kind of looks like they have an empty dull look or what I call "dead eyes".

And sometimes like you said it takes a while to identify folks like that. They can be pretty manipulative and even try to make you feel like you are the one with the problem. Even though, chaos seems to follow them around like a plague. Any time there is trouble or drama, they are in the midst of it. They like to start trouble and chaos, and then when everyone else is upset...they just sit back and enjoy it.
 
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1ofthem said:
Yeah, I know what you mean. It is hard to understand how some people can be like that.

Sometimes I can spot those people quickly and easily. Sometimes the eyes give those people away. It kind of looks like they have an empty dull look or what I call "dead eyes".

And sometimes like you said it takes a while to identify folks like that. They can be pretty manipulative and even try to make you feel like you are the one with the problem. Even though, chaos seems to follow them around like a plague. Any time there is trouble or drama, they are in the midst of it. They like to start trouble and chaos, and then when everyone else is upset...they just sit back and enjoy it.
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Thats definitely sounds like the enemy at work and the nature of the beast,,,i have had many many temptations over the years and that's the thing that the devil our adversary likes to do which is to tempt people with all sorts of things all day as well,, as in the bible it says that the devil has come to accuse Gods children day and night... so in my book of working the devil out the only way he can accuse you day and night is to get you to fall for one of his billions of tricks of temptations then put you down for it, and they even do this whilst possessing a person and even after getting you drunk on beer before hand... he loves persecution of your own conscience,,



It is our conscience that is so fragile.... many times i have fell for temptations only to then be persecuted by devils demons after i have slipped up,, The devil is also good at appealing to your conscience to say your going good one minute only to say your doing bad the next.. Or vice versa appeal to your conscience to say someone is bad when you know what's Good etc... every time you can bet your bottom dollar the devil has made that bad thing happen. Then he sits there and enjoys the division between people,, my guess is the sadistic nature of devils are they want to make you mess up only to then condemn you,, because of their own pride..they want to torture people for all eternity their hatred is that bad. They even want to torture you for doing good. The hatred of devils towards human beings is that they want to torture you for all eternity before you have even done anything wrong by playing God and have a plan to do so..

Greater is the light that lives in you providing we keep our house in order tho. As a house can not stand on sand, it has to be a solid foundation. Otherwise, we fall. And then when where down we get kicked by this enemy of ours, so we must be prepared,,
 
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From what I've read around this site and other forums, a lot of people can type things that seem mean, and that is not their intent but that is how it comes across to the person reading.
 
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Pureness said:
Well...... People are human, not perfect.
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People are fragile is a more important matter that is over looked.

Fragile like i can become searioulsy un well if i exceed 100 grams of carbohydrates a day for to many days.

Fragile in the sence billions of people will not know they have a carbohydrate tolerance they should not exceed, until probably late on in life, because of miss guided infomation on diet

Fragile in the sence if take an overdose of any drugs you may die.

Fragile in the sence if The devil keeps reminging you of upset you may get upset.

Fragile in the sence if the devil keeps saying have get drunk on alcohol after he has upset you all day, you mat just get drunk on alcohol.

Fragile in the sence it does not take long for a human mind to become un-sober.

Fragile in the sence after inhaling just one cigerette your 5 sences will not work well for days,

Fragile in the sence a person can be mean when there provoked.
 
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Its clear im being trolled again..

all i can say is next troll please and god bless you
 
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God bless the hounding trolls
 
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