All I can do is ask for Help. (My Prayer)

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Dear Heavenly Father,

I ask that you will help me to find balance in my life. I have sexual desires that won't go away, and yet I don't have a woman, and probably never will. I don't feel close enough to you, and I often feel like I'm going to hell. Lately I've been shaking, and trying to get a hold of myself. I can't seem to motivate myself to get things done. Recently I had to quit a website because it was taking over my time. I joined because I've been having trouble connecting with people. I'm not sure what I need to do, or not do. All I can do is ask for Help. In Jesus Name. Amen
 
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joecoten

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I think you could benefit from a good Christian retreat. I went to one and it was a turning point for me. It didn't solve all my problems, but it fixed my foundation and freed me to where I had a choice. I went from being a believer to being a disciple. The ministry I went to used The Divine Plumbline seminar. I lived with them for a week. With other attendees. It really helped.
 

Live4Him3

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I'm not sure what I need to do, or not do. All I can do is ask for Help. In Jesus Name. Amen
Amen.

"For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need." (Heb. 4:15-16)
 
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I will pray for you, but I think you should know that the male is not meant to expel prostate fluid only through emissions.
Our bodies are actually designed to expel some amount of prostate fluid through the defecation process, as most mammals, perhaps to mark territory.
MEDICAL STUFF INVOLVING MALE BODIES, DO NOT READ IF EASILY UPSET IN SIN OR STOMACH
Get yourself a squatty potty, this will help with what follows. Do not squat on a porcelain toilet, they can break without warning, and are glass sharp. You can bleed out in minutes, so do not squat on a toilet unless it's designed for this. You can substitute a bathtub if you lay out toilet paper strategically, but this is a stop-gap till you get a squatting toilet. You can also use a chamber pot.

This theory is evidencable first, in when we defecate, we almost always urinate during the first few seconds, and then again after our colon has relaxed and closed. The second urine spirt is designed to flush any thicker prostate fluid you haven't fully pushed out.

What will happen is, while defecating, you'll get some blood flow into the genitals, giving what is colloquially known as a "chub,' or a partial erection. This, when the musculature of the anuses are positioned as God designed us, in a squat, will allow the Urethral Valves to be pinched shut, so that seminal fluid can be expelled during the muscle contractions of the colon. Let me explain the order.

The body first releases a large volume of urine and fecal matter, often rather quickly. Then, there is a general feeling that the colon is still carrying something, so the body will start to naturally express a contraction of muscles, pushing/pinching of the torso and colon tract and the anus itself, to force this last bit out of the colon. As this is happening, because this feeling is created, in part, by the colon pushing against the prostate, the excess prostate fluids (territory marking fluids) will be pushed out the urethra, along with any white blood cells from infection. Finally, when the prostate and/or other glands have been sufficiently emptied to return the system to a comfort, the last bit of fecal matter in the colon, often rather differently aromatic and more fluid than the earlier expulsion, will empty, along with the closing trickle of urine to flush the urethra, and the colon and anus will retract, leaving you feeling empty and relaxed. This does reduce much of the bodily pressure toward mating, at least for those males who have made it out of their teens.

This will not keep you from choosing to lust, it will not solve any problems you have with having paired yourself to a computer screen and your mouse, and it is not an answer to God's calling to be fruitful and multiply. But it is a tactical response to what is a biological function that has been misunderstood, or ignored, or both, by "the west."

I understand this is rather different than what most people would teach, but the "sitting toilet" is only a few hundred years old, and God did not design us with those.
 

EternalFire

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Dear Heavenly Father,

I ask that you will help me to find balance in my life. I have sexual desires that won't go away, and yet I don't have a woman, and probably never will. I don't feel close enough to you, and I often feel like I'm going to hell. Lately I've been shaking, and trying to get a hold of myself. I can't seem to motivate myself to get things done. Recently I had to quit a website because it was taking over my time. I joined because I've been having trouble connecting with people. I'm not sure what I need to do, or not do. All I can do is ask for Help. In Jesus Name. Amen
Sexual desires don’t need to go away. They need to be mastered.

You are a slave to whatever controls you (2 Peter 2:19).

As Jesus taught us, no one can serve two masters (Matthew 6:24).

You are either a slave to sin or a slave to righteousness (Romans 6:16-18).
 
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Seeking-Christ

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I'm touchy when it comes to this subject because I have been wrestling with it my whole life. There are different Christian thought on it as well. For people who don't want to just pray for me, as I would prefer them to do, I might haft to just start ignoring you. It doesn't do me any good if, your words just add salt to my wounds. I have never been able to be completely holy in this area of my life. I'm not saying that I sin 100% of the time, but I probably sin at least 80% of the time.
 
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Seeking-Christ

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Since your probably wondering, where I get 80% of the time?
Obviously I'm not looking at nudity, bikinis or lingerie 80% of the time. But whenever I think about a woman that I find attractive, sex goes through my brain. Of course I don't act out on it. 100% of the time, I couldn't act it out, even if I was willing too. Cause there is no physical opportunity to do so. What I'm trying to say is, because the sexual feelings are in me, I sin no matter what! Look! There are days when I'm not feeling well. When I'm really not feeling well, sex is not on the forefront of my mind because I'm too preoccupied with feeling sick. I think God probably looks at me and says, dude your just dirty no matter what. And I'd reply, Yeah I know, i asked you to help me deal with this, and you seem to just want me to deal with it myself. So if it's true that i fall into the same category as those that will not inherit the kingdom of heaven, then i guess I'll just end up in Hell. As I think about such things, I start to wonder if maybe Satan's rebellion against God may have some sort of justification to it... I'm not sure that I want to write a blog about that or not.. But even C.S. Lewis, in his book "A Grief Observed", thought about the idea that maybe God's goodness isn't what we thought it was. The reason why Lewis found himself going down this path was because He spent all of his life as a bachelor... Then when a woman came into his life, she got cancer right away. Then it seemed like God took the cancer away for about 3 years, and then it came back and killed her. Then He thought about how God allowed cancer to take his Mom and then His dad as well. Finally at the end of the book He got out of this funk, and his faith turned right side up again.

The point I'm trying to make is, there is something about sex and my life that just doesn't seem fair. Especially if it's a deciding factor if I'm going to go to heaven or hell.
 

Hazelelponi

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Dear Heavenly Father,

I ask that you will help me to find balance in my life. I have sexual desires that won't go away, and yet I don't have a woman, and probably never will. I don't feel close enough to you, and I often feel like I'm going to hell. Lately I've been shaking, and trying to get a hold of myself. I can't seem to motivate myself to get things done. Recently I had to quit a website because it was taking over my time. I joined because I've been having trouble connecting with people. I'm not sure what I need to do, or not do. All I can do is ask for Help. In Jesus Name. Amen
Amen and amen
 

EternalFire

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I'm touchy when it comes to this subject because I have been wrestling with it my whole life. There are different Christian thought on it as well. For people who don't want to just pray for me, as I would prefer them to do, I might haft to just start ignoring you. It doesn't do me any good if, your words just add salt to my wounds. I have never been able to be completely holy in this area of my life. I'm not saying that I sin 100% of the time, but I probably sin at least 80% of the time.
I know what it’s like to experience the things you are describing. I’ve been there, and the struggle is excruciating.

Like you, I asked God for help over and over and over again. The hard reality is that the answer to my prayer was already provided by Him through Jesus.

“Everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell” (Matthew 5:28-30).

Asking for help is not all that you can do. You must go beyond words and take decisive action with unrelenting commitment that does whatever is necessary to eliminate the sexual sin in your life from here on out.

Proverbs 28:13: Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.

I pray that you implement a plan to support your fight against sexual sin. You may find the material at the link below helpful on your journey.

https://www.mastermyhabits.com/
 

Flowergirl19

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Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.
Psalm 51:12