Unrealistic Expectations
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is this a gender divide question again cos I can think of unrealistic expectations that some guys have had of me but I dont think its cos I am a lady its just unrealistic full stop
Like maybe I would just show up at their door when I have actually no way of getting there? Or they didnt tell me where they lived or when they will be home lol
Like maybe I would just show up at their door when I have actually no way of getting there? Or they didnt tell me where they lived or when they will be home lol
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@TabinRivCA I sent you a PM of some picture examples of what I'm talking about.
"I'm not sure, I don't know women good enough to know what expectations they have on me. I wonder if work counts. The women seem to think I can pick up anything and throw it away."
"I'm not sure, I don't know women good enough to know what expectations they have on me. I wonder if work counts. The women seem to think I can pick up anything and throw it away."
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@Seeking-Christ wow
that's like tons of stuff. My first thought would be to take fairly good things to the poor or have a giant yard sale, lol. A good thing to remember is to do all things as unto the Lord, it's admirable you taking this 'duty/work' on.
The OP of this question was Julliana about 10 yrs ago btw.
that's like tons of stuff. My first thought would be to take fairly good things to the poor or have a giant yard sale, lol. A good thing to remember is to do all things as unto the Lord, it's admirable you taking this 'duty/work' on. The OP of this question was Julliana about 10 yrs ago btw.
I briefly dated a Christian woman back in early 2011 who wanted to stop dating me after three dates. Her reasons? I wasn't tall enough or wealthy enough (earning >$100,000/year). I was taller than her, but that wasn't enough.
She was pretty, but far from perfect, certainly not being capable of offering a man the things that she was expecting.
She was pretty, but far from perfect, certainly not being capable of offering a man the things that she was expecting.
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w... wow...
I remember a guy on the bus one night (going back to the 80s) who was talking loudly enough for everyone around him to hear... He was rapping to this lady and told her that he only dates really good-looking girls. She seemed quite unimpressed, and I did not blame her. He was arrogant, maybe a tad creepy, and hardly Bond-esque -- James being the kind of man who could be so demanding.
I remember a guy on the bus one night (going back to the 80s) who was talking loudly enough for everyone around him to hear... He was rapping to this lady and told her that he only dates really good-looking girls. She seemed quite unimpressed, and I did not blame her. He was arrogant, maybe a tad creepy, and hardly Bond-esque -- James being the kind of man who could be so demanding.
The only honest answer that I can give here is that I really only focus upon what God's expectations are of me as a man, and I truly try to fulfill the same by his grace.
How has that carried over towards women?
In all honesty, I'd have to say that at least 90 something percent of the women I've personally met (I obviously cannot speak for other men or their experiences) haven't liked me because of my godly character which includes such things as faithfulness, selflessness, and definitely thoughtfulness. I know that that sounds crazy, especially since so many women claim to be looking for such qualities/attributes in a man, but that's truly been my own experience. I've mentioned this before on this forum, but the day that I proposed to my now ex-wife, she told me "I just want you to know that I'd never want to marry a man like you", and then she explained why. She literally told me that she'd never want to marry a man like me because she knew that I'd always want to do that which is right.
Think about that for a minute.
She then went on to accept my marriage proposal, and the rest?
Well, I've given detailed descriptions of the same enough times here in the past.
My own observations have shown me that many women aren't really after what they claim to be after.
That's about all that I've got to contribute here.
How has that carried over towards women?
In all honesty, I'd have to say that at least 90 something percent of the women I've personally met (I obviously cannot speak for other men or their experiences) haven't liked me because of my godly character which includes such things as faithfulness, selflessness, and definitely thoughtfulness. I know that that sounds crazy, especially since so many women claim to be looking for such qualities/attributes in a man, but that's truly been my own experience. I've mentioned this before on this forum, but the day that I proposed to my now ex-wife, she told me "I just want you to know that I'd never want to marry a man like you", and then she explained why. She literally told me that she'd never want to marry a man like me because she knew that I'd always want to do that which is right.
Think about that for a minute.
She then went on to accept my marriage proposal, and the rest?
Well, I've given detailed descriptions of the same enough times here in the past.
My own observations have shown me that many women aren't really after what they claim to be after.
That's about all that I've got to contribute here.
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