What age range was 1 Corinthians 7:9 intended for?

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Dirtman

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How I met my wife.
I was at a friend's house, his wife was giving me a hair cut in the front yard. My future wife at the time was their neighbor and was walking home from work (she worked at the church camp that was about 1/2 a mile away). As I saw her walking by I said hey there, you should come here and visit for a minute. She knew the family there, and walked on up into the yard. Introductions were made and she went into the house with the daughters of my friend. After the hair I cut I walked in to see in a mirror and talk to my future wife. She told me she wasnt playing any games that if I wanted "goodness" (thats how she was describing all the things that she would bring to my life. She literally said "goodness" ) I had to be serious. I told her that I am serious and that I dont play games. (I was a very serious even austere young man) We talked the rest of the evening while I helped the neighbor work on his wife's car. When it got dark I walked her home. I met her mom and stepdad. We dated for about a year from that moment and got married. She was 19 I was 22. Its been 27 year 26 of which we have been married.
 
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Sure, I'll accept criticism from someone who thinks the Mormon loving heretic Dallas Jenkins' show The Chosen has any kind of redeeming value. Yeah, bring on some more criticism.
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Thanks for staying true to your accuser of the brethren form!:cool::love:
 
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Did you just exchange disclosures on your first date, go home and read them, meet to plan the wedding, and get married within the much? Was there a bit of courtship to get to know each other at all?

I'd gotten a word from someone that I wasn't supposed to date until met my wife, and I was following that. It was difficult, because how to do you date without knowing the person well yet. I didn't tell my wife that when I met her. I told her 'Let's just be friends.' But that quickly turned into taking my 'friend' out for dinner every night, going to church together, and all kinds of other activities. At some point early on, I believed the Lord was speaking to me in my prayers that she was to be my wife, and I even got some rather detailed information about her that she told me about on our next phone call, which was a confirmation to me that I was hearing right. She told me fairly early on that she didn't want to date until she'd met her future husband, also. So it was 'just friends' for a while, till I felt almost like I was lying by introducing her as a friend, since she was my de facto girlfriend. if I'd realized that people in her country, where we were, would say they were 'friends' then hang around together and eventually announce an engagement, I might not have been concerned with the girlfriend thing.

We figured out after our first conversation that we'd met about a year before. But from that first conversation to the time I proposed was about 5 months minus 5 days. Then maybe a month later month, I went to discuss marriage with her with her parents (which required a long journey) and we married about 10 months after our first conversation.

How long did it take you to propose and marry with the 'disclosure statements' approach?

Btw, I think it does make sense for those looking to marry to be somewhat up front about it. You might want to see how the other party reacts leading up to that in the conversation. But within a few dates, communicating that you are looking for a marriage partner, not just someone to hang out with, and if she realizes you aren't that, to let her know early, and you'll let her know if you don't think you are a good match and try not to lead her on. It could save time, and even money, doing it that way. It's good to meet her dad and ask if he doesn't mine your getting to know her, too. It's sort of old-fashioned, but it shows respect and may make a potential engagement easier later.

There are probably a lot of women who would appreciate this approach, especially after they hit 30. A young woman who wants to marry may not take it that seriously if she feels like she has all the time in the world (a typical deception of youth for both ages.) But if a man lays it out like that, then she may either start thinking seriously about marriage if she is interested in the man, or else if she isn't serious, then she can go off and play elsewhere.
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I would like to say that this is a very romantic and loving story. I think its very cool. Everyone needs a we were together from day one (know it or not) story.
I make mine sound all pragmatic but its not. Its actually very romantic. I have a picture that I took of her on the night we met. I also had a different picture of her taped to the dash of my truck and she took my dash mascot which was a rubber turtle that I kept on my dashboard. I was way into my truck. It was an old 76 Chevy all primer black and sanded smooth to get that flat black look. It had that big bench seat that stretched from door to door and she would slide all the way up against me while I drove. I would let her control the radio. I never let anyone touch my radio. We would walk around that little country town all night. Just talking we were young and could walk a million miles. We were dirt poor country kids, so swimming in the creek or fishing was a date. She didnt fish she would just chat me up. I didnt much talk at all. Also when I would work on a car or a truck ( which I did all the time) she would sit there on the fender with her feet in the engine bay. It was so cute. She would just chat me up and keep some good tunes on the radio. She would also bring me iced tea, and a sandwich . It was some fun. I remember when she got sick and was in the hospital. I walked from work to the hospital to visit her. It was miles across town.
 
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Dirtman said:
I would like to say that this is a very romantic and loving story. I think its very cool. Everyone needs a we were together from day one (know it or not) story.
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The kind of story I wish I had... :(

I am happy for other folks like you who do/did however... :cool:
 
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