Waiting on the one.

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Magenta

Magenta

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Willow said:
God will give you the desires of your heart.
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God giving us the desires of our hearts translates to new desires. Why? Because:

The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?
 
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Saf23

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Willow said:
I have had God warning me,not to go out with someone. I didn't listen learned the hard way. But I have not been dating for long. I am divorced and atm do not feel the need to push. I used to think that was all I needed to make me content and feel loved. When in fact God was there to give me what I needed. Now is more of companionship or just the want to get out and enjoy life. Can do on a date or with family or a friend. I prayed awhile back to have God send me some friends to do things with. He has not disappointed me. But I know I had to reach out more myself. That was my comfort zone to sit home and complain noone wanted to do anything. But I myself had to reach out also. I will keep you in prayer that you may find some companionship and get out more and find someone special in your life,
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thank you for your prayer. I feel like I do exactly what you just said. I go to work hangout with my son and sit at home. I really don’t do bars or clubs either but maybe I should put myself out there more
thank you for replying 😊
 
Krumbeard

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Ruby123 said:
Don't lose hope. The lady who used to live down the road from me when I was a kid retired as a nun. Got married for the first time in her nearly seventies. She moved into society, bought a house and married her next door neighbour who was a widow in his seventies. You just never know what surprises life will bring.
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Oh! Good! Then in thirtyish years I might find a wife! Haha!
 
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Gojira

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Saf23 said:
Thanks for the reply. Not sure what to do. Do dating sites? Go out to clubs? Join a gym? I’d be willing to do what it takes. Just don’t understand what that is. People say let god tell you. But I haven’t heard anything.
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I love these answers from the Christian community. Everything's so... simple. But, it isn't.

I have no answers for you in terms of becoming un-single. I have been widowed for more than 13-1/2 years, and my last bonafide date was Feb of 2011. So, for me, it ain't happening.

We keep being told how short our lives are in the Bible. Well, if time is short, then it's precious, and I'd rather not lose what little I have.

So, I hear you 100%. I'm pickin' up whatcher puttin' down. I just wish I had like a three-step, sure-fire solution to the problem. I got nothin', and I've been asking God to bring me a good wife or remove the desire entirely. Please. After more than 13 years, enough's enough.
 
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Gojira

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Saf23 said:
thank you for your prayer. I feel like I do exactly what you just said. I go to work hangout with my son and sit at home. I really don’t do bars or clubs either but maybe I should put myself out there more
thank you for replying 😊
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You're unlikely to find a Christ-centered woman in a bar. I mean, I wouldn't say 'never', but I just have to think it's unlikely.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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By now she's probably found someone, if she's been looking that hard.
 
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Ruby123

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Krumbeard said:
Oh! Good! Then in thirtyish years I might find a wife! Haha!
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This lady was not even interested or looking it just happened for her. I am happy for her that she got to experience it as her whole life was quite sad.
 
Lanolin

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I was reading about this couple called The Modern Singhs who met at the Warehouse (they were both working there). They were in their 20s but the thing is the husband is Punjabi and they have arranged marriages. however he met his wife who is Scottish in nz and most Europeans do not have arranged marriages. They can marry whoever they like.

The husband came up against a lot of opposition with his parents who did not want him to marry outside his culture. Though eventually his wife won them over.

Im just mentioning this because I am not sure if back in your twenties your parents had arranged a match for you would you have been happy with who they chose? Also would they have chosen someone from your same culture?
 
Lynx

Lynx

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I've been holding this back since May. The thread keeps showing up and I can't stand it any more...




I will be the one
I will be the one, two, three, four, one...
 
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Gojira

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Lynx said:
I've been holding this back since May. The thread keeps showing up and I can't stand it any more...




I will be the one
I will be the one, two, three, four, one...
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So IGNORE it. No one makes you come to this or any thread.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Gojira said:
So IGNORE it. No one makes you come to this or any thread.
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There's nothing wrong with this thread. It was the urge to be a smart aleck and post that song video, that's what I was holding back.
 
JohnDB

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Lynx said:
There's nothing wrong with this thread. It was the urge to be a smart aleck and post that song video, that's what I was holding back.
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I say let your "freak flag fly".

Don't hold out....inquiring minds want to know.
 
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Gojira

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Lynx said:
There's nothing wrong with this thread. It was the urge to be a smart aleck and post that song video, that's what I was holding back.
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Excellent.

That's the first "excellent' I've ever given one of your posts. These really must be the last days :D
 
HalleluYAH

HalleluYAH

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Willow said:
I used to think that was all I needed to make me content and feel loved. When in fact God was there to give me what I needed. Now is more of companionship or just the want to get out and enjoy life. Can do on a date or with family or a friend. I prayed awhile back to have God send me some friends to do things with. He has not disappointed me. But I know I had to reach out more myself. That was my comfort zone to sit home and complain noone wanted to do anything. But I myself had to reach out also.
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This is the ultimate truth when it comes to relationships. We need to be centered in our oneness with God in Christ, and only then are we equipped or "whole enough" to love and be loved. God desires for us to see that HE is our provider, lover and friend that is 'closer than a brother'. Once we are grounded in the truth the HE is more than enough, we are ready to love and be loved.

And yes, you have to put yourself out there too. Let people know you are single and looking. Word spreads. There are millions of lonely people out there. But finding your center in Christ will make you a better partner when that special someone comes along.
 
Akinonli

Akinonli

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Lynx said:
Are you kidding?!


You can see what happens when I finally do...
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Have faith and ask God to guide your steps in leading you to your future partner ☺️
 
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