I met someone....struggling with triggers

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Sculpt

Sculpt

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JesusFreak1992 said:
Hey guys and girls! So I met someone at work and he treats me amazingly. Well after awhile I started falling in love with him (had butterflies, anxiety, sick to my stomach, could feel my heart beating out of my chest) I self sabotaged the relationship and wrote him all of these things thru text; which should have been told to him thru the phone or in person. He got hurt by my words and was also confused.

You see I just got finished with a divorce in 2020 and it was abusive. I also had fallen in love with my best friend of 14 years and had realized it too late and he rejected me. I got sick with a mental illness and lost touch with reality for a year because of PTSD and drug use. I was made to feel worthless by my ex husband and he changed how I thought about myself. Now I'm insecure and ruining things with this new man. He said he respects me and that he forgives me but things are different. I know it will take time....but I'm afraid of getting hurt again.

How do I not feel like I must be perfect? I've been praying alot and I know that only Jesus is perfect. But it's hard to unlearn all of these things that were embedded in my mind for years.
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I really hope all things are going well for you now. Sorry, I didn't notice your post before. I been traveling. Parts of your story I can definitely relate to. I've written and received messages like that before. And I had a girlfriend with anxiety attacks.

I was a little confused with the first paragraph. You wrote you fell for him and then texted him, and then he got hurt and confused. I just assumed you texted him about how well he treats you, and how wonderful he makes you feel. I don't understand how that would hurt him. I'd be happy to try to offer some helpful perspectives if you can help understand the hurt and confused part.
 
Magenta

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@JesusFreak1992 . . . . . . . Thinking of you...

I wonder if you make a habit of listening to reputable expositors and teachers :unsure:

Sometimes when I am listening to such, you come to mind :)
 
Dude653

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What was it exactly you said to him that made him feel uncomfortable? You were kind of vague on that part
 
Lanolin

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And exactly who is a reputable expositor and teacher?

I would think Jesus Freak would only want to listen to the true Shepherd, Jesus. surely the sheep know His voice.

Drug use and mental illness is confusing for anyone. This needs deliverance and healing.
 
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