Red flags that shouldn’t be ignored.

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Lanolin

Lanolin

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snob/racist - especially towards your own race!! lol
or calls you a 'babe' instead of your actual name.

why do men do that.

Women arent babies.
and besides, I might be older than you think. I dont take infantilising me to be a compliment
 
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oh I don't think my future hubby calling me babe is a bad thing, actually I'd like it. I mean around Europe it's used a lot in a good and loving way so maybe its a culrural thing...
 
Lanolin

Lanolin

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Forever_Saved said:
oh I don't think my future hubby calling me babe is a bad thing, actually I'd like it. I mean around Europe it's used a lot in a good and loving way so maybe its a culrural thing...
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well, Im not european
 
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Of course, if we're not yet married then there should be a level of intimacy for him to call me babe :D
 
Lanolin

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hold on..your future hubby?

everyone will still call you a babe not just your future hubby
 
Lanolin

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and wouldnt you actual husband call the BABY you have together a babe ? he should call you his wife if he marries you lol
 
Lanolin

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ok english now makes no sense to me at all

I will just pretend I never speak it and dont understand what the --- you on about
 
Lanolin

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eg teen mormons called elders.

what is with that. You only a teenager. But compared with a baby kid mormon, I suppose you are elder than them....
 
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Idk, here calling a spouse babe doesnt mean infantilising that person, just another loving nick name to call someone you love.

God bless your heart Lanolin!
 
Lanolin

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Forever_Saved said:
Idk, here calling a spouse babe doesnt mean infantilising that person, just another loving nick name to call someone you love.

God bless your heart Lanolin!
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He always does

God calls me Lanolin
 
Lanolin

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I guess lots of men love me then
But my school children call me Whaea, which means aunty

so now am confused. Should they be calling me babe as well?
 
Lanolin

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My neighbour used to call me silly sausage. I only found out later after he died that he called everyone silly sausage. I just thought he was making fun of my name.
 
Lanolin

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I would tell MY aunty not to call me baby - I would get angry, and spell out my real name

My mum laughed at this. I also REALLY didnt like when she called me a baby as well.

My older sister never had that problem, She just got called 'girl' lol
 
Lanolin

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ha! must be my trigger.
just dont call me baby ok?
 
CraigAllen

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cinder said:
1) Enslaved to an addiction and think it's not a problem
2) Don't take responsibility for what they should
3) Never admit (or believe) they're wrong
4) Driven by wildly variable emotions
5) Dishonesty / avoiding things that need to be talked about
6) After a certain point (like you're talking about getting engaged not like after the first date), holding on to an escape plan in case the relationship doesn't work out. If they have another option in reserve they aren't all in.
7) Lack of follow through / not dependable
8) In a hurry to get to physical intimacy without building a personal or emotional connection first.
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Well said
 
CraigAllen

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Maybe we could both put down our red flags and accept Jesus into our lives
 
Lynx

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Lanolin said:
Cinders post sounds like someone on marijuana or booze pretty much
moral of story - dont go out with someone whos drunk or stoned
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Wait... Are you saying the boyfriend was drunk and/or stoned, or are you saying cinder was? :p
 
DuchessAimee

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Forever_Saved said:
Oh sorry, as the title is “Christian singles” I thought it was the forum for singles and relationship topics.
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You can talk about relationships here. We talk about them all the time from a singles perspective. You’re doing just fine.
 
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