What are your relationship dealbreakers?

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Jennann83

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they....
can't be married, can't be same-gender as me, have to have an income, must be active enough to handle six children on a full time basis, must love me, preferably have no addictions (drinking, smoking, etc.), and can't be abusive in any form. I think that's about it :)
overall, I need to have a good feeling/vibe/discernment about them :)
 

Lynx

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they....
can't be married, can't be same-gender as me, have to have an income, must be active enough to handle six children on a full time basis, must love me, preferably have no addictions (drinking, smoking, etc.), and can't be abusive in any form. I think that's about it :)
overall, I need to have a good feeling/vibe/discernment about them :)
Howdy Jennann and welcome to the forum. Is that two names, Jenn and Ann?

Man, six kids... No way I'd have the energy for that.
 

Jennann83

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Howdy Jennann and welcome to the forum. Is that two names, Jenn and Ann?

Man, six kids... No way I'd have the energy for that.
Oh goodness at least you are honest and know your limits!!
Thank you yes, it's Jenn for short. I needed a new username and this one seems to be unique enough to fit my needs .
Really, I have been a good single mom for the last 16 months and I'm more than ready for a partner in this walk. Journey. Abundant Life!
I'm trying to find out how to make my own page on this site.
Thanks for reaching out
 

Lynx

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I'm trying to find out how to make my own page on this site.
Thanks for reaching out
This isn't really a place for making personal pages. It's more of a traditional forum, for having conversation.

There's a blog section. That might be close to what you want.

https://christianchat.com/blogs/
 

Lanolin

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must be able to have six children or must be able to handle six children. How about 30 children? I dont want no child abusers. I think thats why people now ask for Police vetting.

I have heard of the phenomenon of some ladies actually WANTING to be crimwives. They think its exciting to be with a convicted felon or thief or rapist. Im like no thanks! I am not your rehab!
 

Subhumanoidal

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Oh goodness at least you are honest and know your limits!!
Thank you yes, it's Jenn for short. I needed a new username and this one seems to be unique enough to fit my needs .
Really, I have been a good single mom for the last 16 months and I'm more than ready for a partner in this walk. Journey. Abundant Life!
I'm trying to find out how to make my own page on this site.
Thanks for reaching out
Do you mean make a new thread with a topic of your own choosing? If so go to the subforum fitting to your topic (Singles, Family, Misc, etc...) and at the top is a blue button that you click to start one.
Being a new user your new thread has to be approved by mods first before it gets shown to the rest of the site. Since mods are volunteers with no schedule he time you may have to wait could be minutes or many hours, perhaps even a day. And of course they have the option to refuse the post, but that's only an issue if you break any rules.
There is a five minute limit to edit your thread, after that it's locked in for good. On very rare occasions mods may alter it for things, but I'd not bother asking unless it's serious.

If you mean a personal page, there are none to create. Your profile is the closest you get and there's not much to do to create it. Mostly it's handled when you sign up and fill in the answers to the questions they gave you. And there are some preferences you can choose that mostly about what info you do or do not want shared on your profile, or behind the scenes behavior, such as if you want to see people's signatures or not or how you want notified of things.

There are blogs, as another suggested. They are nothing more than regular threads, just without subforum topics, and instead listed under blogs. I find them to get less traffic, less read and less responded to.
 

I_am_Canadian

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Lanolin

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I dont want no scrub, but I also dont want a white collar criminal neither.
 

Gojira

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I agree with you

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/

Leviticus 19:28

“Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD.”

I think God would agree with you on tattoos being evil.
Well, those tattoos had spiritual significance, that's why they were condemned. Just like the fact that statues of angels would break the commandment to not make any graven image of anything in Heaven or on earth... yet there were two cherubim over the ark. Depends on the purpose and reason for them.
 

I_am_Canadian

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Well, those tattoos had spiritual significance, that's why they were condemned. Just like the fact that statues of angels would break the commandment to not make any graven image of anything in Heaven or on earth... yet there were two cherubim over the ark. Depends on the purpose and reason for them.
true,
 

Noel25

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I don't want to be with a guy who smokes neither tobacco or pot. I also would prefer if he doesn't drink. All those things cost so much money and it would really annoy me if he's spending on that stuff.
A glass of wine once or twice a year is okay...like on New Years or Christmas. But again, would prefer no alcohol at all.

If he's divorced with kids...I don't think could handle that. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I would want to start fresh with someone, you know? I feel like I would be at a different point in life compared to him. I imagine being a second wife and stepmom is super hard. I'm the jealous type. I can't deal with that. lol

If he's dirty. I need my house to be clean. I get really anxious around unorganized places. I need him to help me keep the house clean. I'm talking can't lay on the bed until showered type guy.

I can't stand those stupid shows that mock God. Family Guy and South Park are a few. If he likes to watch those or other series/movies that mock God, I am out of there! He has to put God first and respect Him completely.

I know that I am pretty picky...but I would much rather be alone than to accept a guy that doesn't fit the above.
 

Lynx

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I don't want to be with a guy who smokes neither tobacco or pot. I also would prefer if he doesn't drink. All those things cost so much money and it would really annoy me if he's spending on that stuff.
A glass of wine once or twice a year is okay...like on New Years or Christmas. But again, would prefer no alcohol at all.

If he's divorced with kids...I don't think could handle that. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I would want to start fresh with someone, you know? I feel like I would be at a different point in life compared to him. I imagine being a second wife and stepmom is super hard. I'm the jealous type. I can't deal with that. lol

If he's dirty. I need my house to be clean. I get really anxious around unorganized places. I need him to help me keep the house clean. I'm talking can't lay on the bed until showered type guy.

I can't stand those stupid shows that mock God. Family Guy and South Park are a few. If he likes to watch those or other series/movies that mock God, I am out of there! He has to put God first and respect Him completely.

I know that I am pretty picky...but I would much rather be alone than to accept a guy that doesn't fit the above.
Howdy Noel and welcome to the forum.

Man, I come REALLY close on this... In fact the only thing I fall short on is lying on the bed. I shower in the morning. I count on a washing machine and dryer to take care of any sweat I leave on the bed sheets.
 

mailmandan

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I know a guy who went on his first and last date with a woman who he took to dinner and there were two deal breakers for him.
1. He said she ate too much. He even referred to her as a "chow hound." :LOL:
2. He said she had ugly feet. :ROFL:
 

Lynx

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Sounds like the lady dodged a bullet there.
 

Ruby123

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Sometimes you can change your mind. Before I disliked beards, now I dont mind them but certainly not a messy long beard. I also dont like guys who wear foundation which is worn here by non gay guys. I dont even wear the stuff unless going out somewhere fancy.