How can you talk to someone about issues between you, like a parent or a spouse, who you know has no issue lying to you?

There was a lot of abuse in my family when I was growing up. After I became an adult I confronted my parents on some of it and they just denied it ever happened, unbelievable. I was there, I'd know if it happened or not. lol Nearly impossible to have any kind of meaningful relationship with someone who can't be honest.

I wonder how this biblically works with a christian married to a professing christian spouse who is dishonest, of you don't feel you have biblical grounds to separate/divorce.

I wondered how people cope with this, say a child whose parent\s, or a man or woman whose spouse, lie to them all the time, and only admit it or say sorry on the occasions you can prove you caught them out. Like the repentance is at that level, oh sorry, I wont do it again. So you have to forgive them every time you confront them, even if there is no evidence of repentance or change in behaviour after. They profess to be a believer, and other behaviours would back them up, except this area. And, you cant go to a minister and say they dont "repent", and you cant take another witness and confront them etc. because they will admit it and will appear remorseful and repentant when confronted each and every time.

How can you even maintain any sort of relationship with such a person, when you know that in any conversation or discussion, the chances are that they will be making things up, just agreeing with you even if they don't agree really, and wont do what they said they would etc., and they will just say what they think you want to hear, or what make them look good, or will get them out of trouble, regardless of the truth.

I personally would not hang around people like that as friends, but consider them as lost souls and pray for them. But if its your parent that you live with and have to converse with, or a spouse you have to "be one" with, what do you do? You can't walk out on a parent unless y ou are an adult with someplace to go, and you can't divorce or separate someone for lying, unless its about committing adultery. But you can't stand to talk to them, respond to them, or ask them anything, because they are so fake and false in your eyes, its a total disrespect to you and a waste of time because you have no assurance what comes out of their mouth is the truth at any given time.[/QUOTE

The Word tells us to be unequally yoked with an unbelievers.

The Word tells us NOT to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.

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I deal with it everyday. The Word tells us to be unequally yoked with an unbelievers. It’s apparent they have been given over to a reprobate mind set. Christ tells us to pick up your cross and follow Him...to lay our burdens down at His feet. God is not the author of confusion.
I would definitely find council in The Lord and pray for discernment. Pray that God turns them to righteousness. I have said many times....wether it be a very close friend, spouse, grown children....I thought I knew them...but decades later find I don’t! You can only confront them so many times until you realize they are of a reprobate mind set. You can ask God to humble them as love and forgiveness but you are not in control. You can’t change them...only The Will of God.
My father is of this nature....and many prayer...trial and error has directed me to love and honor...a commandment...not a suggestion...but knowing that he may never change.... I have to except the fact that I love them, I care for their wellbeing....and for their eternal salvation...but know that the relationship will be limited as long as they continue this behavior. Impress on them to find Jesus....tell them you love and care for the...that you will pray for them. But understand you must lay down limitations on the depth of that relationship. We all fall short but as believers we must have compassion.
It’s tough when it’s a spouse as God hates divorce....so you may resort to separation and not divorce. And it may be that way till the end...but God knows your heart and your true intentions...that you won’t give up on love and prayer for them.
This world is facing a decision...of good and evil and you have been directed in your heart to make the right choice. God, not you will refine that person by his grace to either walk the narrow path or the wide path. God bless you!!!

Tararose....it’s been brought to my attention of a typing error in my first post....The Word tells us NOT to be unequally yoked.....my apologies. For what it’s worth my RA makes it difficult to type...so sorry and thank you Magenta!

I wondered how people cope with this, say a child whose parent\s, or a man or woman whose spouse, lie to them all the time, and only admit it or say sorry on the occasions you can prove you caught them out. Like the repentance is at that level, oh sorry, I wont do it again. So you have to forgive them every time you confront them, even if there is no evidence of repentance or change in behaviour after. They profess to be a believer, and other behaviours would back them up, except this area. And, you cant go to a minister and say they dont "repent", and you cant take another witness and confront them etc. because they will admit it and will appear remorseful and repentant when confronted each and every time.

How can you even maintain any sort of relationship with such a person, when you know that in any conversation or discussion, the chances are that they will be making things up, just agreeing with you even if they don't agree really, and wont do what they said they would etc., and they will just say what they think you want to hear, or what make them look good, or will get them out of trouble, regardless of the truth.

I personally would not hang around people like that as friends, but consider them as lost souls and pray for them. But if its your parent that you live with and have to converse with, or a spouse you have to "be one" with, what do you do? You can't walk out on a parent unless y ou are an adult with someplace to go, and you can't divorce or separate someone for lying, unless its about committing adultery. But you can't stand to talk to them, respond to them, or ask them anything, because they are so fake and false in your eyes, its a total disrespect to you and a waste of time because you have no assurance what comes out of their mouth is the truth at any given time.

Tararose....it’s been brought to my attention of a typing error in my first post....The Word tells us NOT to be unequally yoked.....my apologies. For what it’s worth my RA makes it difficult to type...so sorry and thank you Magenta!

From your OP:

"So you have to forgive them every time you confront them, even if there is no evidence of repentance or change in behaviour after."

Yes, you do need to forgive those who sin against you but this does NOT require you to allow them to revictimize you. Forgiveness does not mean forgetfulness. The question is, are you willing to allow them to experience the consequences of their lies? One of the consequences of lying isolation. You may not be able to change your parent or divorce your spouse, but you can protect yourself by isolating them and their lies.

Shikina said it best:

"I have to except the fact that I love them, I care for their wellbeing....and for their eternal salvation...but know that the relationship will be limited as long as they continue this behavior."

A liar as you describe doesn't just lie to you, they lie to everyone. There will be earthly consequences and eternal consequences if they persist. Pray for them but ultimately they alone are responsible for their sin.

I wondered how people cope with this, say a child whose parent\s, or a man or woman whose spouse, lie to them all the time, and only admit it or say sorry on the occasions you can prove you caught them out. Like the repentance is at that level, oh sorry, I wont do it again. So you have to forgive them every time you confront them, even if there is no evidence of repentance or change in behaviour after. They profess to be a believer, and other behaviours would back them up, except this area. And, you cant go to a minister and say they dont "repent", and you cant take another witness and confront them etc. because they will admit it and will appear remorseful and repentant when confronted each and every time.

How can you even maintain any sort of relationship with such a person, when you know that in any conversation or discussion, the chances are that they will be making things up, just agreeing with you even if they don't agree really, and wont do what they said they would etc., and they will just say what they think you want to hear, or what make them look good, or will get them out of trouble, regardless of the truth.

I personally would not hang around people like that as friends, but consider them as lost souls and pray for them. But if its your parent that you live with and have to converse with, or a spouse you have to "be one" with, what do you do? You can't walk out on a parent unless y ou are an adult with someplace to go, and you can't divorce or separate someone for lying, unless its about committing adultery. But you can't stand to talk to them, respond to them, or ask them anything, because they are so fake and false in your eyes, its a total disrespect to you and a waste of time because you have no assurance what comes out of their mouth is the truth at any given time.

After I became an adult I confronted my parents on some of it and they just denied it ever happened, unbelievable.