Questioning my beliefs

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Magenta

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In fairness to you, that seems like a reasonable suggestion. Admittedly, I am a bit in the dark. In
any case, it is always best to try to understand people and help them where they are presently at.
What should we do if we’ve already fallin into sexual sin many times? Is there any hope for us? We haven’t had sex yet
and i dont know if i would if we met in person cuz im a bit of a coward. But all i can say is that he’s seen some stuff.
I'd call that "playing along."

The red flag isn’t necessarily that he likes someone else and me, he told me that he is uncertain that we will date
in the future cuz he’s still tryna get over someone and be wants to see how busy he is once school starts again
^ Red flag.
 
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Your problem is obvious; it's your belief in your mother. Question your belief in your mother, not God. The mother doesn't determine who the daughter marries, God forbid, for she will cause you to repeat her history if you follow her ways. It's your father's approval and counsel that you need to go to if you want a husband. Go form a tighter relationship with your father and ask him to marry you off and select your husband, and you will know that there is a God and he is good and faithful to those that follow his ways, PRAISE JESUS.
 

Magenta

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Okay.

Your comments make more sense to me now, so I am sorry if I was out of line earlier.

Still, I always try to help people where they are at.

Anyhow, thanks for the insight.
No worries. Thank you, and you are welcome also .:)

People come here seeking advice and then ignore it.


They gonna do what they gonna do and suffer the consequences.
 

seekingthemindofChrist

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I'm thinking (despite having no brain) that I should get in the habit of reading more of people's posts before commenting.

First lesson learned here.
 

seekingthemindofChrist

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I'm thinking (despite having no brain) that I should get in the habit of reading more of people's posts before commenting.

First lesson learned here.
Btw, I bought myself this inexpensive ring recently:

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Seeing how owls are often equated with being wise or with wisdom, I bought it as a reminder to myself to behave myself wisely. Apparently, I have not fully gotten there yet. It is hard to jump into conversations with people that you basically know nothing about, but I will adjust accordingly going forward.
 

Genipher

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Honestly I don’t feel like the Christian community is really loving anyways. I always feel like there’s ppl always judging me somehow
You came asking for advice. Which involves judging the situation.
 

Genipher

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Btw, I bought myself this inexpensive ring recently:

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Seeing how owls are often equated with being wise or with wisdom, I bought it as a reminder to myself to behave myself wisely. Apparently, I have not fully gotten there yet. It is hard to jump into conversations with people that you basically know nothing about, but I will adjust accordingly going forward.
Pretty!
 

seekingthemindofChrist

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I love animals, so there is that, too. Owls are actually pretty scary. I was about one foot away from one once several years ago, and it was pretty scary looking. When they start to turn their heads, they look like something out of the Exorcist.

Of course, flying monkeys are much worse.

 

Magenta

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You came asking for advice. Which involves judging the situation.
Kind of cracks me up when people complain about being judged. I mean, there they are, sitting
in judgment of others, complaining about other people being judgmental! Oh, the irony...
 

Eli1

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Every time I see someone in genuine need of help in this forum or any other internet platform, I am very cautious because I don't know their situation. My first advice is to tell them 'Leave the internet and get in touch with someone in real life'.
But, sometimes people don't feel comfortable talking about their problems with other people in real life. Sometimes, they just want to vent anonymously online and want to release their frustrations so others can listen or maybe get into a debate too, which may not be healthy for them if they really need help. This is why it's best to stay off the internet when you're dealing with some sort of hardship, but venting anonymously is a form of therapy too.
I mean i have seen a few regular users here in this forum who have been venting for years in their blogs or other sections of the forum. So, that's their form of therapy and not a lot of other users engage them either.
This is why i consider giving advice over the internet, a bit difficult because i don't know their situation and the last thing i want to do is give health related advice when they're dealing with some difficult disease like cancer for example.

Just my 2 cents.
 
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Kind of cracks me up when people complain about being judged. I mean, there they are, sitting
in judgment of others, complaining about other people being judgmental! Oh, the irony...
Thats not judging…thats called anxiety. But u never refuted the fact that Christians are very judgmental at least in my experiences. I’ve been judged because of the fact that im a black woman in a church.
 
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You came asking for advice. Which involves judging the situation.
Im not talking about the situation, im talking about the Christian “community” as a whole. I’ve never felt welcomed. You have to look and act like everyone else around u and if u dont then people judge you
 
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Kind of cracks me up when people complain about being judged. I mean, there they are, sitting
in judgment of others, complaining about other people being judgmental! Oh, the irony...
Judging is when you look down on someone. Me talking about how judgmental Christians are of other people is not being judgmental. Im simply pointing it out
 
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Every time I see someone in genuine need of help in this forum or any other internet platform, I am very cautious because I don't know their situation. My first advice is to tell them 'Leave the internet and get in touch with someone in real life'.
But, sometimes people don't feel comfortable talking about their problems with other people in real life. Sometimes, they just want to vent anonymously online and want to release their frustrations so others can listen or maybe get into a debate too, which may not be healthy for them if they really need help. This is why it's best to stay off the internet when you're dealing with some sort of hardship, but venting anonymously is a form of therapy too.
I mean i have seen a few regular users here in this forum who have been venting for years in their blogs or other sections of the forum. So, that's their form of therapy and not a lot of other users engage them either.
This is why i consider giving advice over the internet, a bit difficult because i don't know their situation and the last thing i want to do is give health related advice when they're dealing with some difficult disease like cancer for example.

Just my 2 cents.
I think i just need some time away from the Christian community. Its too much for me.
 
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