Divorce

Dear sister, hearing this regretful news, I can understand your feelings at this time, sad, sad, angry, ashamed, and even run to despair, heartbreak! Yes, I have experienced the same experience as you, and it was a long ordeal! I have chosen to forgive, tolerate, tolerate, and break my heart alone, just to give him a chance to repent, but again and again he does not repent. I once prayed to God to save my ex-husband to repent, and I will forgive his faults. But unfortunately, he is still depraved, unwilling to repent, unwilling to believe in God! Even mocked me for believing in God! We finally got divorced! Put an end to this pointless and painful marriage! I believe that God is also aware of my difficult situation, if I do not leave him, I may eventually die of depression! Thank and praise God! God has mercy on me, God comforts my broken heart, God gives me tender love! I want to say ten thousand times to thank and praise God! Maybe God listened to my prayer, God saw my situation, God acquiesced in me to leave this miserable marriage! Sister, in the situation you encounter now, you need to pray to God earnestly, ask God for help, ask God to comfort your heart, and ask God to give you confidence and courage to face your situation! No matter what the outcome, I believe that God will help you, love you and guide you to make the right decision! May the God of grace and peace bless you! Pray in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen! Sister, I will pray for you, too! May you be safe and happy!

Im sorry to this happened to you. I moved away from narcissist in 2018. Several years of psychological abuse and emotional abuse. By persistent prayer's and repentance. Jesus got me out of that toxic environment. Reprobates are following Satan. It's written in 2 Timothy chapter 3, to stay away from this group.
It's written in Proverbs, Don't be envious of evil doers, don't seek their friend ship. Divcorce him, and don't look back. Christian people are not walking mat for the world. Jesus loves you. Don't allow this to effect your faith. You have few Christian people who do care.
Peace.

As much as it hurts, I’m glad to hear that he’s a Christian. If you were not a Christian, I would say to be unyolked.

As a Christian, your duty is to forgive as Christ forgive us. Easier said than done I know. You may not be able to change him or his actions but you can change how you feel and how you act.. let these words sink in your heart.

4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.


Keeps no record of wrongs, always persevere..

My husband cheated on me and now is divorcing me I’m struggling please pray for me

Praying.

Thank God in your prayers. He has shown you this is not the man he sent for your health and happiness in marriage.

Now that the adulterer has set you free you are there for the one God sends to find you. Because that man would never be attracted to a married woman. And now,there you are for him to see.

(Hugs) It hurts,the betrayal. However,remember this one truth. A man that shall cheat with the other woman shall cheat on the other woman.

God knows,you always deserved better. And now,you are free to find it.

You never want a man who shows you even once he doesn't want you. Which is what the dishonor he demonstrated, adultery , is.

He showed you who he is and is not. He is a cheat,coward, and a liar. (Monogamy vows). He is not a man of honor or he would talk to you about his unhappiness. Not cheat and then bring her home on his person and lay in your marriage bed beside you.

He showed you his real side. Believe him.

I know what you are saying is true it’s just hard cuz we have been together for 30 years.

I've been with my husband for 37.
It's hard because it's what you know. It's comfortable. And often times we settle for what we have because we've been there so long.

Ask yourself,before this revelation of his betrayal.

Were you not as in the plural of relationship,we. In the singularity of self,you. Your self. Were you happy?

Did you know joy,trust,security,not monetary but personal? Did he respect you? Did he show that? Did he trust you? Did he like you? Did you truly know love because he showed you love?

Now,it's your turn. Did you show him....

Because all those things in you or absent because it was not a healthy relationship and how you felt is the you that you brought to him, and joined as a couple are qualities that share in your life together.


No one makes you happy. You must be happy within to bring happiness with you. If we depend on others to make us feel happy,joy,security,trust, we are then needing them to provide that to us because we don't have it in ourselves. Yet,we know we need it. And thus seek it from others. Which makes us needy.

And that then has us being co- dependents in relationship to one another.
And eventually that will wear is down. Because we are not strong and secure in ourselves,husband or wife, so to bring an asset into the life we share. Rather than a chronic deficit.

Do you love you? Who you know yourself to be?[/
thanks for the post