I need some advice

I am a teenage christian and so Ive started being invited to go to parties with one coming up. Inside, I kinda want to go but i always say no, but I dont know if its for the right reasons. I dont know if I do it because I shouldnt be focused on that, or because I am afraid of punishment from my parents. Is going to parties even sinful? Should I go to this one and try it out? Im just torn and would really appreciate some advice. Thanks in advance.

another teen here, people talk about parties, but what does that mean?

if you "just try" something wrong, you will Just try it again and again. take it from someone who knows.

if parents say no, trust them. they are here to protect you. I am sure others will give better advice than me but here is my bit.

Honest, I started going to parties when I was 15. It was a very dark decade of sex, drugs and alcohol, winding me up ina mental institution. I highly recommend you pray about it.

"Life is full of uncertainties and knowing what is not known, is simply not knowing-until
something is experienced, it is not wise to go against parents' objections.
I commend you for being a Christian at a young age."

Pray on it first… peer pressure is a real thing specially if you’re a teenager.

Yes, if your parents already said no, you should respect your parents because that’s one of God’s commandment is to honor your mother and father.

As an 82-year-old Christian, I say that you would do well to follow the guidelines of Scripture, (1 Corinthians 10:31) "So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God" and (Exodus 20:12) "Honor your father and your mother." If you can get their permission and give that event to witness to other teenagers about what God is doing in your life, for example, and resist in God's power other temptations, then God would approve of your decision. Otherwise, invite some of your Christian friends over for some good clean fun for God's honor.

1 Timothy 4:4-5 plus 1 Corinthians 10:31b

Who is inviting you to these parties? What do you know of their character, reputation, and activities?
A lot of parties I went to as a teen were gatherings to drink, do drugs, and engage in other
activities away from the prying eyes of parents. Wholesome activities were not on the agenda.


Welcome!

I'd say don't go. I was a Christian teen as well, and went to a party. I was uncomfortable the entire time, which wasn't long. I left within a half hour or so.
Mostly teen parties are, as mentioned above, full of sex, drugs and alcohol. Which means you'll either be like I was, and constantly uncomfortable, or you'll be the only one there not doing any of that and it will make you feel pressured to join in. And, depending on how you get there, you may be stuck in that environment for hours.
If you do go you'll likely experience a lot of guilt afterwards, especially so if you participate in any of it. And that can stay with you a long time.
Or as mentioned above, you'll enjoy it and continue doing it, which will then ruin your walk with God.

Also that your parents said no, if you do go, that alone is essentially a sin.
The Bible tells us to run from temptation, and appearances of evil. By disobeying your parents, to go to a place to be tempted and where others may see you or hear of you there and assume you party and do the things everyone else is, how do you think that will reflect you as a Christian to others?

Not to mention most people there will be breaking the law. And possibly you if you join in.

Now imagine you don't go. Don't sin disobeying your parents, don't place yourself to be tempted. Don't ruin your witness. Don't deal with guilt. Don't risk seeing things you don't want to. Don't have the chance to engage in any of the sin going on there.
Now ask yourself, which decision has a better outcome in the long run?

You're free to make your own choice. I'm just showing you the kinds of real life affects that can happen by going or not going, so you have a better understanding to make a more informed decision.

Also.. how old are you 13 and 19 are different

He is Gen Z....he ain't gonna be like us or know people who did the things we did.

Just saying...mullet haircut, beer in one hand and joint in the other and all at the age of 13....not his group.

That is why I asked, who are the people inviting him to these parties?

Are they nerds wanting to brainstorm coding ideas over gimbap?

Or are they the ones looking for trouble?

I think most parties have drugs alcohol and wild sex, if I were you I would avoid, instead plan a small manageable party at home with known friends, ask your parents, music a bit of snacks and board games are a good call. you do not have to go to these wild parties.

Blessings.

Welcome to CC qwermdsdfj so glad the Lord led you here and that you're wise in seeking advise! My answer, 'all of the above', the above members said it rightly. God bless & give you the grace to stay in the light and in truth🙏✝🔯

Okay,

The big thing is to NOT BE ANTISOCIAL.

Sure, as Christians we are to be Holy which means "set apart for special use by God"
BUT
That doesn't mean we are to try and isolate ourselves either. We are God's witnesses for what He has done in our lives. People only know of God through you.

So...
If the party is not just for the sake of having a party. It's a Birthday Party or some other such gathering....by all means you should go. If it's an excuse to engage in sinful activities...then no.

However, if it's just a group of friends hanging out to play video games, eat junk food, and talk about girls and teachers. It very much is the place you should be.

Just don't let their derogatory talk be an influence. You need to be an influence upon them. Stand up for the morality you own. KWIM? If they claim a girl is a dog (ugly) but you can find the good things about her, interject that into a conversation. Even if they make fun...it's perfectly fine. They will remember that you don't downgrade others even when its licensed. And it's important. They will admire you more even though they tease you at that moment.

If they use salty language...don't sweat that either. Just don't you start. Again same result. Salty language is a hard habit to break especially when you don't even hear yourself using it.

Play games, talk trash, and have a fun time.

If your parents say no, then just don't go, simple. In God's Word He tells us to honor and obey our parents. But if you're not sure if your parents would allow it, then you should ask your parents before making a decision. There are a lot of things done by my church for the teens to get together (I'm 17, a teen also) and grow together in community in Christ. If your church has a youth group, you probably could go to that. If you already go and the other teens are inviting you to these parties, you should try to figure out what these parties are for. Are they run by strong Christians in the faith? Are the ones running it seemingly strong Christians? You could try and figure these things out and ultimately if your parents say no, then no and just don't go. Your parents were given to you by God and God has given your parents authority over you and you have to respect that. But if they say yes, feel free to go! They might have questions about the parties, (who's it run by, what's it for, are the people there strong Christians, etc) and you should be ready to answer any questions your parents might have when you ask if you can go. You can also start by telling them about the party first. If your parents know the people running the party and like them, it'll probably be more likely you can go. I'm praying for you that God will fulfill His will through you and that no matter what you'll give the glory to God! God is good in all He allows, even when it's something we don't like. But everything good thing that does happen to us is given from God! Praise the Lord! Proverbs 3:5-6, Collosians 3:16-20, Ephesians 6:1, Romans 8:28-39 (or just read the whole thing), 1 Corinthians 10:31, James 1:17, Psalm 34:8, Psalm 145:9, Psalm 107:1, Psalm 119:68.

It's understandable that when you're a teenager, you'd be curious about secular parties. That's what you're talking about, right?

I think the most important thing is to ask God to help you make the right decision and then trust and honor His advice. I got saved when I was 17, but i wish I had known God sooner to be honest.

The parties I went to when I was 15 really were all about the bad stuff other people have already mentioned. I look back at all that and I don't see them as good memories.

God did use them to turn me to Himself, but you don't need to go through bad stuff just to learn good lessons out of them. It would be much better if you trust God and just obey Him outright. It will save you a lot of time and heartache and you will have very good memories later on when you look back at your past.

Is it possible for you to have Christian parties with Christian friends? If not, please pray for God to lead you to godly Christian friends who aren't just Christian in name only. And then you can throw fun godly get-togethers with them.

I'm really glad for the church that the Lord led me to when I got saved. The social life I had for my age group at that church was so much fun and wholesome. I did not miss secular parties at all being part of the church!

I will pray for you that you find such a church and godly Christian friends!


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