Is marriage worth it?

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I have noticed how many Christians say and suggest it is shameful for a Christian man not to be married. This certainly goes agianst Biblical teachings

"8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do"-Paul

"So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better."-Paul

Paul warns us about having "worldly sorrow' in another book "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

I think the sorrow from being single is very worldly. Can you not let everything go and devote your life to God?


personally I dont really care if I marry or not, id rather not though, but the damn world seems to be trying to set me up. She has a gross period, and I say that for one reason, women rag on my male anatomy, it is just shameful, just like her period. It will make me worldly if i marry, having to worry about worldly things, ill have to change my life style, and I do not want to live like those people who boast in the families.

Is marriage worth it? Maybe for sex, and that is my only selling point
 

seantspence

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I have noticed how many Christians say and suggest it is shameful for a Christian man not to be married. This certainly goes agianst Biblical teachings

"8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do"-Paul

"So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better."-Paul

Paul warns us about having "worldly sorrow' in another book "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

I think the sorrow from being single is very worldly. Can you not let everything go and devote your life to God?


personally I dont really care if I marry or not, id rather not though, but the damn world seems to be trying to set me up. She has a gross period, and I say that for one reason, women rag on my male anatomy, it is just shameful, just like her period. It will make me worldly if i marry, having to worry about worldly things, ill have to change my life style, and I do not want to live like those people who boast in the families.

Is marriage worth it? Maybe for sex, and that is my only selling point
Like Paul says, “So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better.” Right or better?
 

Karlon

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holyheavens! you are terrible to talk about women's menstrual periods like that. marriage for sex? you have a huge amount to learn before you even date. what do you think women are going to think of you when they read your post? start reading the Bible now, Proverbs 31: verses 10 thru 31!
 
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I have noticed how many Christians say and suggest it is shameful for a Christian man not to be married. This certainly goes agianst Biblical teachings

"8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do"-Paul

"So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better."-Paul

Paul warns us about having "worldly sorrow' in another book "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

I think the sorrow from being single is very worldly. Can you not let everything go and devote your life to God?


personally I dont really care if I marry or not, id rather not though, but the damn world seems to be trying to set me up. She has a gross period, and I say that for one reason, women rag on my male anatomy, it is just shameful, just like her period. It will make me worldly if i marry, having to worry about worldly things, ill have to change my life style, and I do not want to live like those people who boast in the families.

Is marriage worth it? Maybe for sex, and that is my only selling point
Both are 100% okay in God's eyes. Both come with their own types of sin to avoid as well.

Marriage was ordained by God in Genesis 2. God created male and female, including our anatomy and bodily functions. There is nothing gross about a period just as no one should rag on your anatomy. It's normal.

There is much more to marriage than just sex. Marriage gives men a helper, a woman a protector, children will have parents and that together will build healthy societies.

Marriage spiritually is to reflect Jesus and the church. United as one mind. All covenants involve the shedding of blood. Just as Jesus shed His blood for the New Covenant, a marriage covenant was traditionally for the Jews consecrated in blood by the virginity of the wife. Once they would become one flesh, she would hang the bloody cloth outside the window so all would know she was faithful and pure. A marriage will also reflect the relationship of the Trinity as Man, woman, and God are of one mind and working together as one.

There is a lot to this subject especially when you take the spiritual image of Jesus and the church how the church (bride) submits to Christ (groom), the wife in a marriage submits to the husband, as the husband submits to Christ, both husband and wife submit to each other, etc.
 
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You've gone and done it now. You're just been blacklisted by the entire female population oooh snap! :cool:

Joking aside that comment is uncalled for and its unbiblical.
 

blueluna5

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I have noticed how many Christians say and suggest it is shameful for a Christian man not to be married. This certainly goes agianst Biblical teachings

"8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do"-Paul

"So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better."-Paul

Paul warns us about having "worldly sorrow' in another book "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

I think the sorrow from being single is very worldly. Can you not let everything go and devote your life to God?


personally I dont really care if I marry or not, id rather not though, but the damn world seems to be trying to set me up. She has a gross period, and I say that for one reason, women rag on my male anatomy, it is just shameful, just like her period. It will make me worldly if i marry, having to worry about worldly things, ill have to change my life style, and I do not want to live like those people who boast in the families.

Is marriage worth it? Maybe for sex, and that is my only selling point
Well this is what God says....
“It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
so.... there is that.


I personally think it's unnatural. Now if someone hasn't yet found their partner that's completely different. But if someone says I don't want anyone or I don't want someone bothering me, etc. I don't think that's healthy at all.

Paul had a mission from God and so he was alone. I don't think that applies to most people.

Even being successful, the more people come together the bigger the change.

We are called to be the body of Christ. Again opposite of being alone.

I'm married and we're different, but the same. We share the same soul, finish each other's sentences. We even dream the same thing at times. Both of us have our roles and we accomplish way more together, it's not double the work but more somehow. Everything works better.
 
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Is marriage worth it? Maybe for sex, and that is my only selling point

I sat beside my husband of ten years today as the doctor talked about a genetic issue he has with his heart. It's serious and may require major surgery. Before the doctor came in I took his hand and prayed over him. He still has more tests to go through. And as scary as it all is, I wish with all my heart I could take this burden for him and be the one to have the surgery in his place.

I said that to say this, please grow up. Your POV is extremely immature and I'm going to chalk it up to you possibly just being young and not understanding what's coming out of your own mouth. Marriage in no way is worth for just for the sex. You pay those type of women and send them home, that's called a prostitute. God honors marriage, He has blessed marriage. I thank God every day for my husband and now I pray He will grant me more time with him, the best thing that happened in my life aside from accepting the Lord into my heart.
 

Subhumanoidal

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I have noticed how many Christians say and suggest it is shameful for a Christian man not to be married. This certainly goes agianst Biblical teachings

"8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do"-Paul

"So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better."-Paul

Paul warns us about having "worldly sorrow' in another book "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

I think the sorrow from being single is very worldly. Can you not let everything go and devote your life to God?


personally I dont really care if I marry or not, id rather not though, but the damn world seems to be trying to set me up. She has a gross period, and I say that for one reason, women rag on my male anatomy, it is just shameful, just like her period. It will make me worldly if i marry, having to worry about worldly things, ill have to change my life style, and I do not want to live like those people who boast in the families.

Is marriage worth it? Maybe for sex, and that is my only selling point
Ephesians 5:25
"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her".
Only good for sex you say? Make you worldly you say?
The bible stating a husband should love his wife the same as Christ loved the church? But yet you say marriage is only good for sex and will "make" you worldly.
"Make" you worldly. The only thing that "makes" you worldly is You. If you believe marriage makes you worldly then that sounds like a You problem, not a marriage problem.

Like to read more passages referencing marriage? Here you go:
https://www.openbible.info/topics/the_bride_of_christ
 

TabinRivCA

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I have noticed how many Christians say and suggest it is shameful for a Christian man not to be married. This certainly goes agianst Biblical teachings

"8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do"-Paul

"So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better."-Paul

Paul warns us about having "worldly sorrow' in another book "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

I think the sorrow from being single is very worldly. Can you not let everything go and devote your life to God?


personally I dont really care if I marry or not, id rather not though, but the damn world seems to be trying to set me up. She has a gross period, and I say that for one reason, women rag on my male anatomy, it is just shameful, just like her period. It will make me worldly if i marry, having to worry about worldly things, ill have to change my life style, and I do not want to live like those people who boast in the families.

Is marriage worth it? Maybe for sex, and that is my only selling point
FYI if you survive the monthly cycles for yrs, brace yourself for the 'men o pause' cycle