My family is crumbling and so am I. My husband and I have been married for 34 years and I discovered that he was using porn for the entire marriage. I am not healing after 3 years. I am an emotional wreck and my husband refuses to help me heal. I have stayed for the kids but I can’t take the pain anymore. I have a broken spirit. Please give me advice.
Sadly Pron is indeed an addiction much like drugs and alcohol. It is also a point at which the enemy can use to divide families and separate them. "The thief comes but to kill, steal, and destroy.". One thing comes to mind is that your husband is not truly your enemy. Your enemy is operating in and on your husband to undermine and separate your marriage. I see this more as he is trapped. Held captive by your fiercest enemy. Satan Himself. The very real problem is that he may not even be aware of this fact. Kind of like a man addicted to drinking and he feels he is ok. He doesn't understand nor see it himself.
I once heard a story from an evangelist of a woman who asked him to pray for her husband who was physically abusing her. He warned her that IF he started praying the problem would actually get worse before it got any better. She cried out all the more for prayer. So he agreed. "OK mam but when we start we will not stop.", Not 2 weeks later she ran back into that church and said; "Please stop praying! He's gotten worse and I can't survive much more of this!".
That evangelist looked at her and said; "Mam, I warned you it would get worse before it gets better because the enemy fights tooth and nail to keep from being evicted. We're seeing this through for your sake and his."
A couple more weeks later the husband shows up in church and the revival meetings. He walks forward and rededicates his life. The wife was not present. Come to find out, the prayers worked and the husband got delivered. However, the wife who begged for prayer became very bitter and deeply angry because of what she had endured and she began to fall away from her faith while the husband came back to Christ. You see, the enemy got off of him and got onto her.
I said all of that to say, we will contend for your marriage but please be aware of the enemy and do not allow yourself to become bitter or unforgiving. Allow God to do what He does in restoring your marriage. You need to also pray through. We call it praying through. That means praying non stop until the entire situation is over and God has fully restored your marriage. Kick the Devil and His cohorts out of your marriage and home! You as a daughter of Zion have that authority over your marriage and home. Watch and see what God does. Amen!
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