Wanting to be single for the rest of my life

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Kafziel

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I agree, stay single.

To be honest, this trend seems to be gaining traction.

"So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. "
I say ok to the non-married life but personally I find it immoral. It is the faith that makes life that shall reign supreme, and it is good if the good side of the world is powerful. I do not breed because I consider myself schizophrenic and not worthy of such power as my descendants wouldn't be worthy of that power. Just remember though it is moral to make life, so many hands can defend Christianity in the future, for good must have power.
 

Lynx

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*Lynx crams a paw in his mouth and walks away quickly.
 
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Hi Rebecca89 I’m 47 been single 47 years I’m used to being alone but at the same time I’m not!! God is with me like everyone he calls, I also have a dog who I love
 
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Hi Rebecca89 I’m 47 been single 47 years I’m used to being alone but at the same time I’m not!! God is with me like everyone he calls, I also have a dog who I love
I was never alone or able to be alone, extreme codependency. Now that I have actually experienced being "alone" I absolutely love it. It's so weird to say that I'm enjoying something that I once was afraid of. Plus, I know I'm never truly alone because the Holy Spirit is with me. My life is beautiful and peaceful now because of the Lord.
 

Magenta

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I was never alone or able to be alone, extreme codependency. Now that I have actually experienced being "alone" I absolutely love it. It's so weird to say that I'm enjoying something that I once was afraid of. Plus, I know I'm never truly alone because the Holy Spirit is with me. My life is beautiful and peaceful now because of the Lord.
We had all our electrical and fuse boxes upgraded at some point in the last five years close to all the Covid craziness... and being off work and at home recovering from one surgery or another, I was present when the young man came in to my suite to do that for me. We chatted pretty much the whole time he was there doing his thang, and I will never forget him telling me how many of the people he knew, being forced into isolation, found out how little they liked themselves. I found that very interesting! When I was younger, I was always surrounded by people, first in my family of origin being one of eleven children, and then throughout my young adult years always having friends hanging around, hanging out, and doing things together. It was not until I was delivered from the snare of addiction at the age of 39 (after crying out to God for help, not with my addiction to drugs or alcohol, but to people) that I discovered that my co-dependency was at the root of many, if not all, of my problems. I had been attending AA for many years by then (haha go to a meeting and then go have a beer, but I did love hearing the things people shared), and then also started attending NA faithfully, where I felt more at home even though I could recognize there was better recovery in AA, and it was from there that I immediately went into CoDA... and that was where I first worked the steps in earnest, after having kind of scratched at them before... I remember too, the impact of coming to understand the proper order of making amends, though I was not near that point yet, for the steps lay these things out in great detail and quite precisely. The correct order of events is to make amends to God, to ourselves, and then to others. I had always had others first.
 

utoo

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I understand a little bit. I've dated enough and I've gotten my heart broke enough that it makes me REALLY cautious...

But I still desire marriage and a family of my own! So I haven't given up I guess...but I want it to be totally God's leading.

I think it's so important to come to the place where you're satisfied in the Lord as a single before seeking a relationship. So definitely make Jesus your focus right now. I mean, He should always be of course, but Paul makes it clear it's easier to keep our focus on Him if we're single,

You are right. Being single enables you to have full concentration on your life purpose or goal. But when you get caught up with your purpose and desiring to achieve more as a single person is where it becomes possible for you to give up on dating or searching for a partner. However when you are destined to have someone of your own in marriage, God has a way of orchestrating circumstances or events to bring you closer to each other which might eventually lead you into a serious relationship or marriage.

So the way our sister feels now is normal and there is nothing wrong about it.