Im struggling to stay alive.

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Magenta

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Hello Asha, I am sorry to hear of your self-destructive thoughts and wonder if you have a reliable and
strong support group network around you? People and places you can go to listen to the solution and
hear others share about their struggles, their challenges, and triumphs in life, which can be really inspiring.
 
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It says you're 34, are you not able to move out?
I did move out at 20. When Covid strikes, I moved back in because she's sickly and she stays by herself. Also I'm her financial support. I hired a nurse, but because my mother is bad, the nurse revenged by starving her most of the time.
 
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I'm keeping my devotion time, I'm praying hard hoping that my abusive mother would find Christ, sucidal thoughts keep coming back.
I would hire a different nurse. If the nurse cannot do their job while handling difficult patients then they should be fired. As for mental health, do what you can to find any time to intentionally take a break. Most often mental illness is at its worst when exhausted.
 
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I did. I always hired different nurses. Their lives were at stake every single minute, she would do things that even I would be worried for their lives. I can't actually say the things, but shes actually not difficult shes evil I hoped that professionals could deal with her but so far, not really. I'd rather she dies of natural causes than have people talking that I starved her to death. Out of town, shes known as the preacher of the Word, so shes known for her hospitality and humble soul. So I never won. I can not say shes evil cause they don't stay with her. They've never believed me and they won't start now. I'm just tired of waiting for her life to end so that mine can start. Why can't we both co-exist. And it's wrong for me to start praying that I die first so I won't be around to watch her die. Or for her to die first so I can finally start living.
 
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Thank you 🙏. I pray that God gives me strength to go through this life, keep the lamp of my life burning so that one day when it goes out, I'll finally be home.

.. Like the right way, when He calls me home, not me taking it out.
 
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I'm keeping my devotion time, I'm praying hard hoping that my abusive mother would find Christ, sucidal thoughts keep coming back.
In the mighty name of Jesus, I pray that Ashaimunique, cast all her anxieties on the Lord, for He cares for her. Amen - 1 Peter 5:7
 
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I did move out at 20. When Covid strikes, I moved back in be cause she's sickly and she stays by herself. Also I'm her financial support. I hired a nurse, but because my mother is bad, the nurse revenged by starving her most of the time.
I'm sorry to hear about your challenges. Sometimes they can be overwhelming, especially without local encouragement. I don't have the answers, but we know Who does. 📖🙏

Hang in there. With God's help, you can get through this.

"I can do all things through Christ, which strengthens me."

I would add Bible memory to your daily routine of morning and evening reading. This is not a fix it quick/ easy solution, but your body, soul and spirit all need adequate support for these trials. God can provide His children their needs as we seek Him and follow His will. I know it's easier said than done. Each part, body, soul and the spirit are connected, but have many individual needs. That means that there's no quick and easy solution, but the main thing is that you follow God's will each step of the way as you make progress. As you heal, you will be able to help your mother better too. She sounds like she is dependent upon you, so I know the challenge is great.
Remember that God is greater and will help.

Death is Not a solution for you or your Mother. That is not an option. I understand your stress because I've worked with difficult people who are not in their right minds.
Just remember that the thought of you and your mother's demise is not from God.

In any problem, the simplest and most common is often the place to start.
This might sound funny, but my personal opinion as a Nutritionist is that most grumpy people have This problem.<

They are chronically unable to rid their bodies of toxins. The toxins poison every part of their body and they are unable to feel normal.
They feel miserable and it affects those around them as they act out on those who may love them.

They tend to be very dehydrated and especially if they require a caregiver.
When unable to go to the bathroom without assistance, caregivers in general don't like the extra work.
As a result, the patients become malnourished and dehydrated because the nurse has to clean up after them or assist with bathroom duties. The less they eat and drink, the less work necessary.

I'd focus on making certain she drinks the proper amount of good pure water.
Then she needs essential good nutrition. Get her out of bed and mobile. Walk her as much as possible and as often as possible.
This is where I'd start once you find another family member or someone who cares enough to not end your mother's life. I feel your pain, but I hate psychopathic nurses who attempt crimes like murder. I don't care how tough their patients make their job. They are not supposed to be hit men that kill for money. Those nurses need to be marked, avoided, prosecuted and Judged by Jesus.

I will pray for you and your mother right now.
I'm glad that you sought out others at a time like This. May this beginning of better days for you both. ❤️
 
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I'm sorry to hear about your challenges. Sometimes they can be overwhelming, especially without local encouragement. I don't have the answers, but we know Who does. 📖🙏

Hang in there. With God's help, you can get through this.

"I can do all things through Christ, which strengthens me."

I would add Bible memory to your daily routine of morning and evening reading. This is not a fix it quick/ easy solution, but your body, soul and spirit all need adequate support for these trials. God can provide His children their needs as we seek Him and follow His will. I know it's easier said than done. Each part, body, soul and the spirit are connected, but have many individual needs. That means that there's no quick and easy solution, but the main thing is that you follow God's will each step of the way as you make progress. As you heal, you will be able to help your mother better too. She sounds like she is dependent upon you, so I know the challenge is great.
Remember that God is greater and will help.

Death is Not a solution for you or your Mother. That is not an option. I understand your stress because I've worked with difficult people who are not in their right minds.
Just remember that the thought of you and your mother's demise is not from God.

In any problem, the simplest and most common is often the place to start.
This might sound funny, but my personal opinion as a Nutritionist is that most grumpy people have This problem.<

They are chronically unable to rid their bodies of toxins. The toxins poison every part of their body and they are unable to feel normal.
They feel miserable and it affects those around them as they act out on those who may love them.

They tend to be very dehydrated and especially if they require a caregiver.
When unable to go to the bathroom without assistance, caregivers in general don't like the extra work.
As a result, the patients become malnourished and dehydrated because the nurse has to clean up after them or assist with bathroom duties. The less they eat and drink, the less work necessary.

I'd focus on making certain she drinks the proper amount of good pure water.
Then she needs essential good nutrition. Get her out of bed and mobile. Walk her as much as possible and as often as possible.
This is where I'd start once you find another family member or someone who cares enough to not end your mother's life. I feel your pain, but I hate psychopathic nurses who attempt crimes like murder. I don't care how tough their patients make their job. They are not supposed to be hit men that kill for money. Those nurses need to be marked, avoided, prosecuted and Judged by Jesus.

I will pray for you and your mother right now.
I'm glad that you sought out others at a time like This. May this beginning of better days for you both. ❤️
Thank you. Thanks for the advice, counsel, encouragement. Thank you for the prayer, I appreciate 🙏
 
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Billyd

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Just a thought. Have you considered residential care? I pray that God will guide you to find an appropriate care arrangement.