My life story is complex and I am seeking biblical counsel in the hardest time in my experience.
Need a friend for christian counsel.
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Precious friend @JH4556, I will pray for you:
Please Be Very Richly Encouraged And Edified And
Comforted In Christ, and In His In His Precious Word Of Truth:
God's Grace Word for our infirmities!
Amen.
Please Be Very Richly Encouraged And Edified And
Comforted In Christ, and In His In His Precious Word Of Truth:
God's Grace Word for our infirmities!
Amen.
I understand. As a man I wouldn't feel comfortable advising you in the way you seem to need. That would involve intimate details that someone who isn't a pastor or relation should delve into. I will be praying for you.
Not sure what is happening, but here are some suggestions for counseling yourself:
1. What is happening? (I am getting… upset, angry, sad, bored, etc.)
2. Why am I feeling this way? (Because of what someone said or did, because of inactivity, because of being tired or hungry, etc.)
3. How can I cope with my feelings or resolve this situation in a good way? (By taking a nap, by exercising, by eating, by talking with a caring person, etc.)
4. How can I take responsibility for my happiness? (By thinking of fun things to do, by listening to pleasant music, by watching clean shows, by going to a church with a nice youth group, by reading an interesting book, by seeking new friendships, etc.).
5. How can I cope with negative thoughts, events and people? (By doing the following 12 steps
a. Accentuate the positive while eliminating the negative (cf. Bing Crosby song).
b. Make a reasonable effort, so you have no reason to be ashamed of not trying, but do not try to be perfect or to work miracles.
c. Live one day at a time, letting painful memories fade while making good memories today and not worrying about what might happen tomorrow (cf. Joe Walsh song).
d. Pray the Serenity Prayer: “Lord grant me the courage to change the things I can, the patience and strength to endure the things I cannot change, and the wisdom to discern the difference.”
e. Work on what seems to be a big forest of problems by cutting down one tree at a time.
f. Count your blessings, compared with poor kids starving around the world, who would love to be in your shoes.
g. Realize that many people (and God) care about you and are willing to help, if you ask them.
h. Listen to music that makes you happy and supports positive thoughts and moral values.
i. Learn from mistakes, preferably made by others (including parents), so you will not repeat them and thus will have a happier life.
j. When negative events occur, counsel yourself as above.
k. When people mistreat you, consider counseling them by saying, “I know I do not deserve this, so would you like to share what is really bothering you?
l. Adopt as a motto: “Love to learn, and learn to love.” (God, others and you per Matt. 22:37-40)
Hope these ideas help!