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Sounds like good advice. But I don’t really see how I could leave. I promised them that in one way or another I would stick with them no matter what, whatever form of relationship it would be. Plus we both have abandonment issues and walking away from them would trigger their mental issues...

I’d also like to mention that this person and I were very close friends before romantic feelings came around and we platonically loved each other very much. Which is another thing that makes this situation difficult.

And that’s what I’m afraid of. I felt this part. Yeah, I’m definitely concerned about misinterpreting feelings as truth, especially since I’m a very emotional person and feel things quite deeply. Oh yes, I enjoyed the read. I can tell that you really do have a heart for God and it’s inspiring...

Oh yeah I don’t do casual dating (iow I wouldn’t date someone if I didn’t think I had a potential at a future with them), which is why I can’t allow myself to date this person when they’re unsaved. Because we’re at different places of belief right now, that’s why I said “if God wants this...

You did a really good job explaining why it wouldn’t work well.

Yeah true.

Yeah, I feel better keeping my gender private online. However, I’m not in any rush to marry or have children, regardless of my gender. I wasn’t even looking for a relationship when all this happened. Also, I’ve been in a bad relationship before and have no interest in getting into another bad...

It is really hard. A bunch of people around me including ourselves think that it has the makings of a good relationship, and I said it somewhere else that we are literally exactly each other’s type and we have a lot of similar interests and issues, so we’re able to relate and help each other in...

Yeah, that’s kinda what I’ve been holding to as well. If God wants this relationship to be, then it will be. Yeah, that’s also what makes this a bit tricky. Guess we’ll just have to see what happens. Eh...I don’t know. Yes and no I guess. And yeah, I don’t believe in missionary dating...

Aaand it did, essentially🙃 I’ve honestly been trying to think about this really hard cause honestly I’ve been having trouble explaining to them why Christians and nonChristians can’t date. Like it makes sense when you’re talking to another believer, but trying to explain it to someone outside...

Yeah, basically. They said that they wouldn’t mind my faith and wouldn’t try to change it or anything, but it’s one thing to say it and another to do it. I’ve tried explaining that Christians and nonChristians have different priorities and that’s why the relationships tend not to work, but...

I definitely see what you’re saying, and I’m tempted to enter into a relationship with them to help point the way, but at the same time, “missionary dating” is a risky business and one I’d rather not get involved in. That’s because the relationship could get more serious without them ever coming...

I sure hope that I didn’t affect their interest in salvation negatively. But what you’re saying about it still being their choice and such does make a lot of sense. I feel like I probably could’ve been a better witness if I had been more upfront or just handled things a bit differently, but I...

Also to whoever’s messages I haven’t answered yet, I am still planning on replying. Work just eats up my time, unfortunately😅🙃

Thanks so much for all this. It’s been a real struggle for me because we have very strong feelings for each other and they haven’t faded at all. And about the second guessing thing, yeah, I’m still struggling with it and have come close to just dating this person many times. And for their own...

I’ve already...gone a bit past friend a few times, in spite of myself. This is really solid advice though. I appreciate it very much.

Considering that the deed has already been done, this may be the way to go.

Completely agree.

I’m not disagreeing with you or “trying to get the answer I want,” I’m expressing that I feel like now that I’ve both confessed my feelings but also tried to explain why I can’t date an unbeliever, I’ve made a mistake and now I’m scared that I’ve given Christianity a bad taste in their mouth.

Thank you for that advice, I appreciate it.