I've been feeling very depressed lately but I'm not comfortable and scared to talk to anyone . which is why I've come here to ask for help , prayer, anything . I've lost sight of God and strayed away from Him and I don't know how to get back into His word while feeling like this . I'm so lost , scared , angry , at everyone and everything .... I've had a rough childhood from the start , I've been working and taking care of others since I was a kid . I'm so worn out psychically and mentally , I just want to give up . my dad doesn't care for me , my mom's always working I have no friends, no guidance , I'm alone . I Can't feel emotion anymore, all I do is lay in bed . I can't sleep , talk , eat. I feel Dead ........ I'm sorry if my post is hard to read or understand I'm a mess right now and just searching for some prayer/advice .
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Ariel82
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Dear Lord touch Gena's heart and life. Give her peace and rest and wisdom to walk with You Lord. Send people to encourage her and help her to grow in Your word. In Jesus,name we beseech You, amen.
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Txroads
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Hi Gena, welcome to CC.. I hope you can find a smile here, glad to have you.. You know, a lot of times when I read about someone having trouble I'll get to the end and say " ok Lord! Tell me what to say!".... I wish all the right answers came easy, but they dont.. Getting back into God's word is easy, you just take a little at a time.. First you make sure you know "why" your reading, and believe it or not its gonna be the same reason everybody else reads it... We want to be closer to him.. See, us folks down here, we ain't got all the answers, not even close.. And as much as people sound like they do, don't let them get to you cause they dont.. But God does.. And darlin you gotta know that he loves you, he does. It's like this, he gives us blessings everyday, we just have to see them.. Cause when you see the little blessings, guess what you see him... And we start thanking him for the little things you start talking to him more and then you get excited cause you wonder what he's gonna do for you tomorrow.. If you have your eyes on the storm you wonder if God loves you, if you have your eyes on the cross, you'll never ever doubt it....im sorry you've had such a hard time, but God ain't forgotten you, and it ain't nothing but a sit down, close your eyes, let the rest of the world go away for a while and you talk to Him, and just... Like... That.... Your back with Him again..
Lord, I thank you for this day.. It's a blessed day because it's a day only you could have made and you made it for us all, your children.. It's a wonderful day cause you brought me a new friend here.. She's going through a little bit right now and could sure use a little grace.. Thank you Lord that its on the way... Bless her, bless her family, bless the love you have for us all.... Amen
Lord, I thank you for this day.. It's a blessed day because it's a day only you could have made and you made it for us all, your children.. It's a wonderful day cause you brought me a new friend here.. She's going through a little bit right now and could sure use a little grace.. Thank you Lord that its on the way... Bless her, bless her family, bless the love you have for us all.... Amen
Read my depression thread in my signature. Check out my CC faith book in Miscellaneous. Feel free to pm me anytime.
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Txroads
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Read my depression thread in my signature. Check out my CC faith book in Miscellaneous. Feel free to pm me anytime.
You never told me to PM you any time..........
Grumble....
You say you've lost sight of God, but the important thing is that he hasn't lost sight of you. Keep looking for him. You'll see him. He's right there with you guiding you. Don't stop trusting him.
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Sure you do. What you're really saying is "I don't feel like it." I get that. I really do. That feeling sweeps over me more often then it isn't there. But it's like saying, "I'm hungry but don't feel like making something to eat." Get hungry enough and you'll feel like eating. Keep waiting around for that and you'll eventually die of starvation. You are hungry! You're post is all about your hunger. You're tired, feeling particularly overwhelmed, feeling like no one cares, and all the while the one who can help all that is the very one you don't feel like going to -- God. He's the bread! He's our energy. He's the one who carries us when it really is overwhelming. He's the carer. He's Dad way better than any of our earthly Dad's could ever be, even if you had a Dad that utterly adores you. And that's the one you can't figure out how to get to? He's already giving you a massive hug right now. Talk to him. And when you want him to talk back, open up his book and read it. That is him talking back to you! Don't believe me? Try Psalms to learn you aren't the only one who feels overwhelmed, and yet there is an answer after each overwhelmed.
When I was 16 I was exactly where you are now -- different circumstances, but exactly where you are right now. Eight years later, Dad told the same story from his viewpoint and said, "Here I was, a single father with two kids still in the house." It floored me, because until that moment, I thought he only had one kid in the house. My little brother. I thought I was the other adult in the house running the show -- taking care of little brother and being a good little housekeeper. I completely missed the obvious, so let me fill that in for you now -- you ARE still a kid. Just because you've taken on too much responsibilities doesn't cancel out your age. You still ARE a kid. Enjoy it more. The world doesn't crash if you unload your shoulders. You have two parents, so let them take care of the income issue. Let them take on as much of the responsibility as possible. They know how to better than you simply because they made it past your age and are now old enough to have a daughter your age.
You sound like you think you're the breadwinner. You're not. And, if you are, then become emancipated so at least you get to use that money to help you. No 16 year old should be responsible for bringing in money, unless both parents can't scrap up enough money to provide. You're using a phone to post here, so that's not your situation. If you can afford a phone, you're family isn't just scraping by even if that's the story you're being fed.
And if you're working to afford the phone, then it's up to you if that precious time you could be using to have fun is worth a phone. Sure, that may make you the only kid in the neighborhood without one, but you're the one who says you have no friends, so who cares? I can tell you it is possible to live life without a cellphone. The only reason I have one is in case of emergency. If you ever snoop and check out who I am (which you can on this site, if you're bored enough lol), it will amuse you to know, despite emergency after emergency coming my way in the last six months, I've never used it. And yes, surgeons and nurses truly did expect me to have one by my bed because they thought they'd be calling me that night to tell me, "We did all we could, but he died." I figured if they were going to make that call, they could call me on my landline that isn't right next to my bed and I could find out after I woke up. Most people say they need a cellphone by them at all times "in case of emergencies." Bupkis! I haven't used one in six months and my husband has been close to nonstop emergency. (He is just coming out of the woods now, happy to tell.) So, no, your phone isn't all that important and there is a life outside your door for you to enjoy even at 16. 16 is old enough to start figuring out the difference between need and want. Stop aiming for all your want and you still have time to enjoy your life without your family making unneeded demands on you.
And, if you think you're doing all this for a college education -- rethink that too. Unles you become the next teenage millionaire inventor you're not making enough to go to college when you're 18. Start looking at scholarships and start working for them. Much easier than trying to raise the money at minimum wage -- which is roughly what most businesses pay a 16 year old, if that much. And if you can't get a scholarship, then raise the money to go to school when you live on your own and can take night classes. Who knows? Maybe you don't need a college degree. People in the trades went to a different kind of school to learn what they know.
Any which way, you have two parents and at least one of them is working, so you are NOT responsible for your family's income. Nor should you think you are. THAT is too much to lay on any 16 year old's shoulders.
Part of what you'd be learning from God, if you open up his book is how to love parents, even if they aren't easy to love. You might be right. Maybe your dad really doesn't care for you. But that doesn't automatically dismiss he love you. There are six kids in my family. Our dad is a royal mess. There is no denying who he likes the most and who he likes the least. I'm 60 years old (and the third oldest, whereas the youngest just turned 30 last month.) The one he likes the most is also the one who he argued with, disowned more than once, and was forever blathering on about how much he drove him nuts! (And for Dad, that's saying something, since Dad has always been literally OCD, so he has always been nuts, but functional.) We can all tell you where we stack up in Dad's like-o-meter, and funny thing. Even the one he cares the least for he still loves. (I'm second to the least, if you're wondering. lol) You don't have to like someone to love them. I know. I've got four brothers and a sister, and don't like two of them. I'd die for them though, because I love them. I'm pretty sure Dad wouldn't die for any of us, but that's on Dad not me.
So, your dad doesn't care for you. I know it hurts from experience, but you'll be surprised how much God can teach you about loving him anyway. You cannot control how someone else is. You are still responsible for how you are toward him. The only way you can learn to love him right is to seek that God you don't feel like seeking.
As for your Mom? Hey! That's on you. You know she's busy. She likes you. (I can tell since the worse thing you said about her is she's always working.) So, figure out what you want to say to her. And make sure it includes you're feeling overwhelmed and need help. Then set up a good time to talk to her. (Schedule it with her, so she knows it's coming and won't be too tired.) She's not "always" working. She just works a lot and gets tired from working. I bet she even gets a day off once in a while. Use that time to let her know what you need. (Again -- need, not want.) Once she helps you with your needs, then it's time to deal with wants.
You're 16. You're still a kid. You're 16. You're becoming an adult. It's time to act 16, and yes, I'm fully aware that 16 straddles both worlds. It's an annoying age to be, but when you look back at it, it will be with some fondness.
It also helps to notice how many have survived being 16.
Love is NOT conditional. Nothing can change the FACT that your Heavenly Father loves you. Embrace that. Read or re-read John's Gospel to see the lengths He went to redeem you so you can experience His love.
DON'T believe the lies of the enemy. He wants to steal your joy in the Lord.
Father I ask You to give this young daughter of Yours a deep peace in the knowledge of You. In Jesus Name I pray.
Sounds like your talking yourself into a mental funk.. Find some aspirations beyond your current circumstances, you sound bored and lack direction. Your fear is just imaginary, propagated by a negative outlook. At 16, I doubt your physically worn out, that's just the depression talking. And usually a person who's angry at everyone and everything is going to be alone, that attribute is not a magnet for friends.
Try to break your mental cycle, laying in bed and feeling dead just amplifies self-pity and exasperates depression. Dwelling on all the bad aspects of your situation will only make you perceive life negatively. Your just going through a phase (growing up), everyone wants to give-up and quit at times, but don't let those emotions overwhelm you, persevere and keep plugging along one day at a time.
As John Mellencamp said; "Life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone". Sometimes our own outlook and attitude can depress us, and we inevitably become our own worse enemy. Learning how to endure those low periods boils down to overcoming ourselves. Always put your complete trust in someone else, who's the only real source of peace of mind.. jmo
I love this outlook , thank you so much for your advice . hope you're doing well , God bless.
amen ! i'm sorry for a late reply. i'm doing much better now from where I was . I added some changes to my life these past couple of months, been focusing more on God and doing what I can to shape my self into the woman i'm set out to be . putting everything in Gods hand and seeing things come together, Praise god ! and thank you for your words and taking your time to write to me I hope you're doing great , God bless !
Do you know the greatest prayer of faith you could ever pray? G-D HEPL!!!!
I have a hard, honest truth for you, life will keep sucking and get worse unless you run to Him. The great thing is that is all He needs and He will come in like whoosh…. He said those that seek Me will find Me, Knock and the door will be open. Y-shua is Life and Life more abundantly!!!!!
Life will only get worse on its own without Him.
I have a hard, honest truth for you, life will keep sucking and get worse unless you run to Him. The great thing is that is all He needs and He will come in like whoosh…. He said those that seek Me will find Me, Knock and the door will be open. Y-shua is Life and Life more abundantly!!!!!
Life will only get worse on its own without Him.
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