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Hello, this is my first time ever in one of these forums, but i feel i need to talk to someone. I have definitely been praying, but need some advice.
I am 7 months pregnant on bedrest, i have had a very difficult pregnancy. My past 3 pregnancies were miscarriages. The Lord answered our prayer and gave us this child. MY husband and i are both believers and prayed fervently for a child together. He has one child from another relationship and I have 2 children. Both my children, i had difficult pregnancies as well. My husband and I joined our familes together in marriage in 2008. We have had many trials since our marriage began, but this year, 2012 has been the most trials ever. My husband lost his, dog, she was a longtime faithful dog. My son, was sexually molested by another child a year older than him. My son is 11 years old and also has cerebral palsy, and ADHD. (this alone was enough stress in my pregnancy). My husband lost his aunt, who he loved very much.
And now, since the beginning of Feb 2012, my husband has been talking to and meeting a woman that lives here in the area. I found out, because i went to check the time on his cell phone, and she had text him. This was in the middle of the night, when i go to the my routine bathroom breaks. I scrolled thru the text messages, and was sick. They talked about meeting places, and he let her borrow money, and the talk was bordering on sexual. She sent pics of herself and her lips.
I woke him up and confronted him. He grabbed the phone and deleted all his text messages. He said he had a feeling i would find it. He said he didnt realize the teasing went so deep and he was sorry. He said what was started is finished and that he loves me very much. He said he was trying to witness to her and thought that God called him to give her the money to borrow. I am so angry. I have mostly cried, not sure how to tell him how i feel. Being that i am pregnant on bedrest, means no intimacy, which i just want to show him how much i love him. He has always told me he is different and that he would be faithful no matter what. I trusted him. I feel so unattractive and unwanted right now. I feel desserted and lonely and helpless. I checked his phone records today, he said he had not talked to her, and he lied. They spoke for 6 minutes on the phone, when he was supposed to be in a meeting. When he got out of the meeting, he said he was going for a drink with a male friend, and would be home after that. Was he with her the whole time?
He is frustated, because i cannot let it go. He wants to forget about...i cant. All these questions go thru my head, he said they did not get intimate at all. But then how come he keeps talking to her. They do business together too, which makes it even more difficult. I told him he needs to let his partner deal with the business side, and to cut off all communications. That is the best to do. I want to tell him, i know he lied, tonite, but i am afraid i will be very angry and yell at him. I have prayed, and i am asking God for guidance, i am so frustrated and know that i need to care for this baby inside me. It's tough when you have to force yourself to eat, because you are sick. I feel he hurt me at the most vulnerable time, and am i supposed to forgive, what if he continues, i think maybe he could be withholding stuff because i told him it would be over if he cheated on me. I love him sooo much and dont want our marriage to be over, and how would i begin to even be able to be on my own with a newborn baby?
I am desperate for some resolution, these are things that way too difficult to be patient for. I just want my life back the way it was. How can he read his bible and devotions every day and be active in church when he is being this way? He does not want me telling anyone, because he says he is ashamed. I dont want my family to know, because they have learned to look up to him and love him. God, please help me.................
I am 7 months pregnant on bedrest, i have had a very difficult pregnancy. My past 3 pregnancies were miscarriages. The Lord answered our prayer and gave us this child. MY husband and i are both believers and prayed fervently for a child together. He has one child from another relationship and I have 2 children. Both my children, i had difficult pregnancies as well. My husband and I joined our familes together in marriage in 2008. We have had many trials since our marriage began, but this year, 2012 has been the most trials ever. My husband lost his, dog, she was a longtime faithful dog. My son, was sexually molested by another child a year older than him. My son is 11 years old and also has cerebral palsy, and ADHD. (this alone was enough stress in my pregnancy). My husband lost his aunt, who he loved very much.
And now, since the beginning of Feb 2012, my husband has been talking to and meeting a woman that lives here in the area. I found out, because i went to check the time on his cell phone, and she had text him. This was in the middle of the night, when i go to the my routine bathroom breaks. I scrolled thru the text messages, and was sick. They talked about meeting places, and he let her borrow money, and the talk was bordering on sexual. She sent pics of herself and her lips.
I woke him up and confronted him. He grabbed the phone and deleted all his text messages. He said he had a feeling i would find it. He said he didnt realize the teasing went so deep and he was sorry. He said what was started is finished and that he loves me very much. He said he was trying to witness to her and thought that God called him to give her the money to borrow. I am so angry. I have mostly cried, not sure how to tell him how i feel. Being that i am pregnant on bedrest, means no intimacy, which i just want to show him how much i love him. He has always told me he is different and that he would be faithful no matter what. I trusted him. I feel so unattractive and unwanted right now. I feel desserted and lonely and helpless. I checked his phone records today, he said he had not talked to her, and he lied. They spoke for 6 minutes on the phone, when he was supposed to be in a meeting. When he got out of the meeting, he said he was going for a drink with a male friend, and would be home after that. Was he with her the whole time?
He is frustated, because i cannot let it go. He wants to forget about...i cant. All these questions go thru my head, he said they did not get intimate at all. But then how come he keeps talking to her. They do business together too, which makes it even more difficult. I told him he needs to let his partner deal with the business side, and to cut off all communications. That is the best to do. I want to tell him, i know he lied, tonite, but i am afraid i will be very angry and yell at him. I have prayed, and i am asking God for guidance, i am so frustrated and know that i need to care for this baby inside me. It's tough when you have to force yourself to eat, because you are sick. I feel he hurt me at the most vulnerable time, and am i supposed to forgive, what if he continues, i think maybe he could be withholding stuff because i told him it would be over if he cheated on me. I love him sooo much and dont want our marriage to be over, and how would i begin to even be able to be on my own with a newborn baby?
I am desperate for some resolution, these are things that way too difficult to be patient for. I just want my life back the way it was. How can he read his bible and devotions every day and be active in church when he is being this way? He does not want me telling anyone, because he says he is ashamed. I dont want my family to know, because they have learned to look up to him and love him. God, please help me.................
