A few thoughts

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andrew22

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I wrote this about a year ago, just wanted to put it out there.

First off let me apologize if anyone finds my writing hard to understand i type my thoughts as they come to mind so at times it can appear a little jumbled.
This thought is about how people need relations and companionship. The past year or so of my life i didn't think i really needed any of those after a few failed relationships and no really true friends i decided i would just work. The people i became somewhat friends with were the people i worked with and it was nice but it was just work friends never anything outside of work. the more i went on the more i became a loner of types. but having just moved to a new state and having no friends here yet i have come to realize how much the human soul need relationships and friendships. there is no way we were meant to go through life by ourselves with no other human interaction. I feel myself longing for a deep interaction with other people, someone i can pour my soul out to and not worry about if they will use it against me or spread around my thoughts, fears and dreams. i mean i have friends but no on i can really open myself too and we need that so much. we can't go through life holding everything inside with no one to confide in. i know some people can make that argument but 99% of the time they want the same thing but would never admit it. without interaction, we forget how to be social, forget how to interact with other people in different groups or places. so we become scared and shut ourselves out more from those situations. right now its so hard to describe what im really want to say i feel stuck with something that words would not do justice. being alone with no friends or human interactions will destroy you slowly from the inside, its like a virus that continues to get worse over time. you feel it aching in your heart but are at a loss for what to do about it, i think the most depression comes from low levels of human interaction, true interaction where you express ever single thought in your mind, let everything spill out. in this day and age that is looked down upon, we are supposed to keep everything inside, and most of the time no one wants to listen to other peoples problems because it makes them uncomfortable. you can not keep everything inside, let it all out, find someone and spill out everything, find someone to really connect with. you have to feed your soul. and the soul feeds on interactions with other people. there are people out there who will listen who will help, you don't have to be alone in this world.
 
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Raeshelle

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Wow I couldn't have written this better. This is exactly how I feel . I just want that someone I can conect with. Someone to be my best friend.. I have my family, But we all need that soemone special.. Thanks for sharing with Us. GOd Bless you.
 
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minnesotablu

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whoa! i concur! i'm going through that whole thing... only having work friends who are more of aquaintences really... and then the whole being in a new state... (two years now and still no friends... grr) but! i'm survivin... thanks to CC lol
 
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I hate sticking my feelings out there ....but I do it anyways =(
and it always bites me in the butt hah
 
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andrew22

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yeah, just a little baring of the soul
 
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andrew22

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no problem...
 
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Yes. As an expert in this particular field i certainly know what you mean. I am a loner, having only had 1 friend in my life, and that not even one that i can really talk to. Its terribly depressing not to be able to connect with anyone. I expect not to connect with the world, but I should be able to with Christians. Unfortunately, there aren't many Christians that I can really talk to either. It often makes me feel that God left something out when he made me, but I know that isnt true. Still, thats how it feels...which brings up something else: Why must emotions be so deceiving?
 
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andrew22

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emotions are emotions, they are so hard to explain and can be deceiving, i just try not to let my life get run by them. I know what your talking about with the other christians thing, it should be very easy to open up to another believer, but like i said in my post, its looked down upon in socity, christian and non christian. I think thats why were reading about the pastors in mega churches and leaders in the christian community getting caught having affairs, doing drugs, caught with pornography and prostitutes, even at the high levels there is still no accountability because no one wants to hear another persons problems or open up to one another. Its something that really needs to change, otherwise it just gets worse and we'll all end up living in a superficial world
 
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Ahhhhhhhhhh! i feel that longing. pretty much 24/7. I haven't found any kindred spirits in my neck of the woods though. The ones I have found have friends that i don't feel comfortable around...or are just kinda shy themselves. That's why I whole-heartedly hope to find another part of myself or something when I take this roadtrip this summer with Laura. I'm ready to change places again...I want another start. And someone to push me out of the house and into the world. Thanks for writing this for us!
 
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dovey

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You guys are going to make me cry!!! I sometimes think it must be much lonlier to be a boy. We girls have complete freedom to express anything we want in our frienships..no worrie..or at least I have always had that.. I cant even imagine not...I have moments where i definatly withdrawl from hurt feelings or whatever...but God always puts someone right there when I need them. I am going to pray He does the same for all of you!! Loners are usually the most interesting when you get to know them....love the stories..if anyone needs to talk love to listen....all my love!!
 
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dovey

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The tenderhearted tend to withdrawl...Im an artist and a girl so I have to fight those tendencies...but tenderhearts are pretty and should be known! and appreciated! dont be scared to open up...if people dont like it...try another...pray..and keep becoming who God made you to be. Unique. Beautiul. And packed with purpose....Give God the longing though..humans suck at satisfing that! and one thing I have learned with people...is it always works to ask them questions, and care...remember not very many people go around feeling perfectly loved! So if you are a good friend God has some people for you to meet!