A fork in the road

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Princessweetie

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Hi I'm new to this site but I need some advice. I feel like I am in a fork in the road and I don't know which way to go. Here's what happend: I have a guy friend that I have had now for 4 years. We have a really great time together. The first time I met him I did like him but he had a girlfriend. Then a couple of months later they broke up. We continued being friends and then a few months later he told me that he wanted to be more than friends. I said that I just wanted to be friends because I wasn't sure if he was the one for me and I didn't want to go further and then it not work out and us not being friends anymore. This continued for a awhile longer and then a few months ago he told me again that he felt us getting closer and wanted to know if I still just wanted to be friends. At this point I was feeling the same thing and didn't really have a good answer to give him at the time, What I was really thinking since the beginning was that I was afraid of us dating and then it not work out. and our friendship would never be the same The a few months went by and I hadn't heard from him. Then he calls me to wish me Happy Birthday. I then go to visit my Best friend and I tell her this story then a couple of days later I was at a Bible study that talked about having courage and faith and not being afraid which was what I had been taling about earlier. Then other things came up through the week that touched on that same thing. I prayed about it and felt at peace with telling my guy friend that I wanted to become more. Then before I was to meet him the next day I had a family member tell me that she has felt in her spirit for a year that if I didn't look around (for example E-Harmony) that I would settle for this guy friend. She has been trying to get me to go on E-Harmony for several months now and I said I was going to this summer but it hadn't happend yet. So now I am really confused and don't know what to do. One of my friends told me not to go on E-Harmony that that is not what God would want a women to do and I kind of agree, it doesn't seem very romantice to me, I don't think I should have to go out there and find someone. Now I am not sure which way God wants me to go. Both avenue's involve risk. I could risk going further in my relationship with my Guy friend or I can risk loosing him and going on E-Harmony to find someone.
 
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princessdeb4111962

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Princessweetie said:
Hi I'm new to this site but I need some advice. I feel like I am in a fork in the road and I don't know which way to go. Here's what happend: I have a guy friend that I have had now for 4 years. We have a really great time together. The first time I met him I did like him but he had a girlfriend. Then a couple of months later they broke up. We continued being friends and then a few months later he told me that he wanted to be more than friends. I said that I just wanted to be friends because I wasn't sure if he was the one for me and I didn't want to go further and then it not work out and us not being friends anymore. This continued for a awhile longer and then a few months ago he told me again that he felt us getting closer and wanted to know if I still just wanted to be friends. At this point I was feeling the same thing and didn't really have a good answer to give him at the time, What I was really thinking since the beginning was that I was afraid of us dating and then it not work out. and our friendship would never be the same The a few months went by and I hadn't heard from him. Then he calls me to wish me Happy Birthday. I then go to visit my Best friend and I tell her this story then a couple of days later I was at a Bible study that talked about having courage and faith and not being afraid which was what I had been taling about earlier. Then other things came up through the week that touched on that same thing. I prayed about it and felt at peace with telling my guy friend that I wanted to become more. Then before I was to meet him the next day I had a family member tell me that she has felt in her spirit for a year that if I didn't look around (for example E-Harmony) that I would settle for this guy friend. She has been trying to get me to go on E-Harmony for several months now and I said I was going to this summer but it hadn't happend yet. So now I am really confused and don't know what to do. One of my friends told me not to go on E-Harmony that that is not what God would want a women to do and I kind of agree, it doesn't seem very romantice to me, I don't think I should have to go out there and find someone. Now I am not sure which way God wants me to go. Both avenue's involve risk. I could risk going further in my relationship with my Guy friend or I can risk loosing him and going on E-Harmony to find someone.
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E-harmony,takes money right ,ok God gives u the money,Do u think He wants u to spend His money on line NO.Go for the guy u have,thats what I think
 
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Meridoc

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thats a hard question, I know I have been that Guy friend. With some guys it might work it so hard to say. I guess the question is do you feel its worth the risk, it sounds like you have a great guy friend, but yea you want to make sure you are just not settling. If you get along great, and there is an attraction there it is probably worth the risk. Just go SLOW!!! That way you should be able to find out early enough if he is not the one and be more likely to salvage the friendship.
 
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