BEFORE READING: i know this is long you may skip over my bully story if your pressed for time or think my message is to long you can always go back to my story main thing i want out is my group.
OK i had this idea i told my pastor about it and hes on board. before i continue my idea was start a small group for kids to just hang out talk about school or family. basicly is for children affected by bulling or abuse. the reason for starting this group is im speaking from experience most similar groups are run by youth pastor or therapist.
(group) the group is a definate i want to participate or be a leader. my pastor is looking around to see if one exist already in our area if not i will start one through my church.my age range is still unclear because abuse can affect anyone. the crowd im leaning towards is 8-16 maybe two separate groups 8-11 12-16. the reason being, one a big difference between 8 and 16, two teens have puberty and emotional thing the younger one don't have to deal with, maybe the teens want to talk about relationships or sex (they shouldn't be talking about sex theyre kids) teens are kids who think they are adults (sorry teens who are reading this its true and its part of growing up) so if i do start this group i need to figure out what are the major topics i need to cover?
(bully story) the reason i say i speak from experience is because i was bullied. mostly between ages 11-14 i was verbally and physically, i was called names like ugly and stupid dalmatian spotty, kids would kick me for no reason throw rocks at me push me into the mud. i would go home to a grandmother who payed more attention to my younger brother and sister. my grandma had custody of my siblings and i, i was edist of 5 at the time. i was mentally challenged, i still am i have neurofibromatosis , there is somethings i couldn't comprehend when i got a bad grad i got a scolding if i didn't understand something and said so i got slapped. she didn't know of my disabilities at the time because the social worker didnt take the time to ask my mom. i would have accidents in the day because i wasn't able to control my bladder. she beat me with a belt when i was 12 because i refused to wear a diaper. my grandmas boyfriend was constantly calling me stupid and slut idiot useless bum, he still is verbally abusive. i had bullies at school at home i thought about suicide many times attempted a few times and stopped myself. i lost faith lost trust had no friends felt unloved didn't believe in God. halfway through my 8th grade year, i was 14, i was hit pretty hard i passed out woke up in the nurses office. the following day a random girl asked me to sit with her at lunch, she became my best friend. not everyone will stumble upon one of these people but she rescued me my guardian angel. we remained friends throughout high school our senior year i was 18 we had a deep conversation. we ended up talking about middle school and she told me she walked me to the nurses office when i was passed out. she also told me the things i didn't hear that the kids used to say. that moment we hugged because i had told her that she save my life i held a knife to my wrist a few days before the incident in middle school. today she is still my best friend. GOD sent her to me he truly does work in mysterious ways.
(group) if it wasn't for my experience i probably wouldn't be starting this group. it was a test of my love and faith i almost failed. i trusted a girl i didn't know and had lunch with her and her friends. now its my turn to help those who are struggling. what do i need to do now? i put the idea out, how do i spread the word? get the attention of the children and young adults who need me? what should the main topics be? should we have weekly topics? should there be a lesson plan? or a book we base our group on like a bible study? should it be just an open group discussion? any suggestions anyone? teens especially what would you like to see from a young adult group or kids group? btw although its through the church it will be open to the community.
OK i had this idea i told my pastor about it and hes on board. before i continue my idea was start a small group for kids to just hang out talk about school or family. basicly is for children affected by bulling or abuse. the reason for starting this group is im speaking from experience most similar groups are run by youth pastor or therapist.
(group) the group is a definate i want to participate or be a leader. my pastor is looking around to see if one exist already in our area if not i will start one through my church.my age range is still unclear because abuse can affect anyone. the crowd im leaning towards is 8-16 maybe two separate groups 8-11 12-16. the reason being, one a big difference between 8 and 16, two teens have puberty and emotional thing the younger one don't have to deal with, maybe the teens want to talk about relationships or sex (they shouldn't be talking about sex theyre kids) teens are kids who think they are adults (sorry teens who are reading this its true and its part of growing up) so if i do start this group i need to figure out what are the major topics i need to cover?
(bully story) the reason i say i speak from experience is because i was bullied. mostly between ages 11-14 i was verbally and physically, i was called names like ugly and stupid dalmatian spotty, kids would kick me for no reason throw rocks at me push me into the mud. i would go home to a grandmother who payed more attention to my younger brother and sister. my grandma had custody of my siblings and i, i was edist of 5 at the time. i was mentally challenged, i still am i have neurofibromatosis , there is somethings i couldn't comprehend when i got a bad grad i got a scolding if i didn't understand something and said so i got slapped. she didn't know of my disabilities at the time because the social worker didnt take the time to ask my mom. i would have accidents in the day because i wasn't able to control my bladder. she beat me with a belt when i was 12 because i refused to wear a diaper. my grandmas boyfriend was constantly calling me stupid and slut idiot useless bum, he still is verbally abusive. i had bullies at school at home i thought about suicide many times attempted a few times and stopped myself. i lost faith lost trust had no friends felt unloved didn't believe in God. halfway through my 8th grade year, i was 14, i was hit pretty hard i passed out woke up in the nurses office. the following day a random girl asked me to sit with her at lunch, she became my best friend. not everyone will stumble upon one of these people but she rescued me my guardian angel. we remained friends throughout high school our senior year i was 18 we had a deep conversation. we ended up talking about middle school and she told me she walked me to the nurses office when i was passed out. she also told me the things i didn't hear that the kids used to say. that moment we hugged because i had told her that she save my life i held a knife to my wrist a few days before the incident in middle school. today she is still my best friend. GOD sent her to me he truly does work in mysterious ways.
(group) if it wasn't for my experience i probably wouldn't be starting this group. it was a test of my love and faith i almost failed. i trusted a girl i didn't know and had lunch with her and her friends. now its my turn to help those who are struggling. what do i need to do now? i put the idea out, how do i spread the word? get the attention of the children and young adults who need me? what should the main topics be? should we have weekly topics? should there be a lesson plan? or a book we base our group on like a bible study? should it be just an open group discussion? any suggestions anyone? teens especially what would you like to see from a young adult group or kids group? btw although its through the church it will be open to the community.
