"Arguing"?

[Karlon]

Married couples & dating couples: how many arguments do you have in 1 year's time? I mean a full fledged argument, not a minor discussion. My wife & I have been married for over 8 years & we've had 8 arguments. so that is 1 per year. Not too bad but could be better. 1 reason I'm asking this question is because as of mid June, this year, we have really learned to pay attention to each other more willfully, cheerfully & meaningfully. she condones my silliness with more patience, she looks me in the eye more when i'm talking, we hug more, we smile more at each other, i think about her more, we are more interested to be with each other. it's not usual that down the road in marriage you actually have a resurgence of interest & recognition to harmonize to a higher level. i feel like God is pouring out His Spirit at an increased level in the whole world in the past week. thoughts & comments, i thank you for.

 

[Cameron143]

Arguments? Or extreme fellowship?

 

[Lynx]

"Mom, do you and dad still love each other?"

"Good heavens, yes! What kind of question is that?"

"Well I always hear you arguing a lot with each other..."

"Shoot if you don't have anything to argue about, that just means one of you is no longer necessary."

 

[Lynx]

From what I have observed, it is a discussion if two people are talking about something and using the skills and knowledge of both of them to arrive at a decision. It is an argument if one or the other always believes he is right and the other is wrong.

From when I have seen it all seems to depend on how personal you take it when you don't get what you think is right.

 

[JohnDB]

Arguments between spouses arise out of fears and wants. Pure and simple. Some of those fears and wants stem from past history....not getting needs met.

Talking openly and honestly about fears and wants you each individually have and being loved anyway....that's marriage.

It's called intimacy. True emotional intimacy. Making physical intimacy pale by comparison.
Physical intimacy is video recorded and played so much on the internet it's a nothing anymore. Emotional intimacy is much much more personal. However I'm not posting pics of myself or my wife online. (Nobody wants to see that anyway)
Nor am I going to disclose our emotionally intimate content online for people to judge or comment upon. I, and my wife, would be mortified to see anything of that published anywhere. So it's not happening.

A spouse knows your secrets....always. a girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't. And poking fun at emotionally intimate details? Uhhhh....death of a relationship.

 

[Lynx]

Arguments between spouses arise out of fears and wants. Pure and simple. Some of those fears and wants stem from past history....not getting needs met.

Talking openly and honestly about fears and wants you each individually have and being loved anyway....that's marriage.

It's called intimacy. True emotional intimacy. Making physical intimacy pale by comparison.
Physical intimacy is video recorded and played so much on the internet it's a nothing anymore. Emotional intimacy is much much more personal. However I'm not posting pics of myself or my wife online. (Nobody wants to see that anyway)
Nor am I going to disclose our emotionally intimate content online for people to judge or comment upon. I, and my wife, would be mortified to see anything of that published anywhere. So it's not happening.

A spouse knows your secrets....always. a girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't. And poking fun at emotionally intimate details? Uhhhh....death of a relationship.

We have no secrets
We tell each other most everything
About the lovers in our past
And why they didn't last
We share a cast
Of characters
From A to Z
We know each other's fantasies
And though we know each other
Better than we explore

Sometimes I wish
Sometimes I wish
That I never never knew
Some of the secrets of yours

In the name of honesty
In the name of what is fair
You always answer my questions
But they don't always
Answer my prayers