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As a christian would you mind dating a non-believer or you'll stick and find a Single Christian to date with? What are the positive side and negative side of dating a Christian? and dating a non-believer? :confused:
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For me, I wont' discount someone because they are of a different faith. I will only draw the line if they try to convert me. If that happens I will make sure they know I have boundaries. I find that most people have a fairly open mind when it comes to religion. You may even get a chance to convert that someone to the christian faith, you never know.
 
There is a reason that Paul said we should not be unequally yoked. How can you build a life together if you don't have the same faith? I mean how do you decide how to live your life together if you have different beliefs and values. Jesus said "I am THE way THE truth and THE life, NO ONE comes to the Father but by Me." If you go into a long term relationship with a non-christian, how can you live every day knowing that the person you supposedly love the most isn't going to heaven? and from my personal experience the "flirt to convert" method of dating is almost always unsuccessful and often leads to the falling away from God of the christian in the relationship.
 
I've seen people dating non-christians, and yes they can be good people, but its also a constant struggle for the christian in faith since the person they love is an easy way for the devil to get at them, also its hard seeing as Meridoc said above seeing the person you love not accepting Jesus and going to hell. But I do think its a decesision you can make you just have to know your boundries and you have to be willin gto stop the relationship if it does become to much.

With dating christians well, every christian is different. But at least I have made the mistake of believing if they are a Christian they are going to treat me right. THis is not always the case, I had a christian guy pull me from my faith (because our relationship was built almost completely on the physical side) and then in the end he left me for another girl who was in our youth group as well and they almost moved in together (and yet still thought they were doing what God wanted).Dating a christian just has to involve building each other up and following Jesus together you cant assume because they are christian it will all be good.
 
I guess its easier for me to be accepting of non-christians because I was a non-christian for most of my life. In fact, at one time I dated a girl who was christian and I tried to argue with her that christianity is flawed.

I guess it depends on how secure u are in your faith. I know that now nothing anyone can say or do will change my mind about Jesus or God. Ive had many things happen to me that I cant explain or take credit for except to say that God answered my prayers.
 
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I dated a non-believer for a while, (actually we broke up about a month ago). We dated for five months but it was hard cause he never understood why i prayed, wore a cross on a necklace, or had crosses around my house. Well, he knew why but he complained about it a while. Of course, I tried to convert him in small, tiny ways and he didn't seem to mind too much. Then, his parents (who are REALLY against God), found out about it and started 'tormenting' me to say the least. I could put up with a little bit of it, but they were all over me! They chewed him out a lot too and we finally decided enough was enough and to just remain friends. So, it's hard dating a non-believer and i don't think i will again...
 
paul says that we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. believe me: I know how it feels. how? because I finally found a girl who was very attractive, cool, kind of geeky like myself (she likes anime, lol). the perfect combo! i asked her out and she said yes, and i was like WOOOT! then before even the first date i was feeling the pressure of knowing that God's word says not to be yoked with them. and so I gave her up. we talked about it and agreed that we should just be friends. at first I was like nooooo nooo noo she's awesome and then I was like oh wait lol this is God's word here. of course I should follow what he says. it may seem like the best option is to just do what we think will go best. then we realize that God's way is the best way.
 
Date a christian and youll be stuck with self pride and hipocrisy, and most likly a fake, go for a non believer you may actually find a virgin thats not lying about it, and find some1 who wont think they have to pretend to fit in to get with you
 
Soggy said:
Date a christian and youll be stuck with self pride and hipocrisy, and most likly a fake, go for a non believer you may actually find a virgin thats not lying about it, and find some1 who wont think they have to pretend to fit in to get with you
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Ouch, this opinion is likely speaking from experience as horrible as that idea is. It is sad to see, but so many people claiming to be christians are not living it out. You have to remember as well that when Paul said do not be unequally yoked this also pertains to two christians dating, as we are all at different levels of maturity and we need to find someone that is near or at our level, but can also inspire us to be better. Trust me i have had both and having a christian woman who supports you in what you believe, wants to read the bible and pray with you and on her own is a very very very wonderful thing. You just have to look carefully at someone's life, observe how they are around others, friends, family, etc. An be brutally honest about what you want, and ask questions about her beliefs/values, without giving her your opinion first, this will be more likely an honest answer not just a parroting of what you think/believe.
 
I think it would be difficult to keep from getting dry spiritually if your partner wasn't there to help build you up (and you build them up). It's SO important to me when my boyfriend encourages me or prays with me. I couldn't see myself having a happy relationship without that kind of support and the love that God can give. How can they love me if they don't know what true love is?
 
Soggy said:
Date a christian and youll be stuck with self pride and hipocrisy, and most likly a fake, go for a non believer you may actually find a virgin thats not lying about it, and find some1 who wont think they have to pretend to fit in to get with you
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Wow thats intense, and although I do know some christians are like that, where they enjoy the title but dont live the life. But I also know that not all christians are like that and just like saying all non-christians are bad or something of the like putting all christians into one category isnt fair either. Personally as a christian ill be honest with you about my past know I'm not perfect and know i still struggle, and wont conform to stereotypes I'm me, I believe in Jesus with all my heart thats all there is to it.
 
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Ouch, this opinion is likely speaking from experience as horrible as that idea is. It is sad to see, but so many people claiming to be christians are not living it out. You have to remember as well that when Paul said do not be unequally yoked this also pertains to two christians dating, as we are all at different levels of maturity and we need to find someone that is near or at our level, but can also inspire us to be better. Trust me i have had both and having a christian woman who supports you in what you believe, wants to read the bible and pray with you and on her own is a very very very wonderful thing. You just have to look carefully at someone's life, observe how they are around others, friends, family, etc. An be brutally honest about what you want, and ask questions about her beliefs/values, without giving her your opinion first, this will be more likely an honest answer not just a parroting of what you think/believe.
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Hehehehe I love you - you are awesome :D
 
A person’s faith is a big issue in their lives. If a man and women do not have similar views regarding faith, I think eventually they will have big problems.
 
hi there im a 29 year old single christian who is new to this site just today and your question interests me id say its better to be yoked evenly with a fellow christian beliver ther your on the same path in your faith spiritual path and your fellowship with god and eachother god bless
 
some Christians says.. they are no available Christian for me o date all of them are taken... usually you will get an answer like this
 
Lol, surprised this hasn't come up yet-

You're a Christian and your partner is some other religion, or atheist. What do you teach your children? ~_o MAJOR conflicts will undoubtedly start there. It's best to just avoid this whole mess and stick to a partner of the same faith =D
 
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