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i am not into what people would typically call dating. i have had men in my life but dating has never been the focus. now i have met a guy who at first appears to have a character, personality and faith that i like and could mesh with me, but i am nervous about meeting a "standard" or not being exciting to him because i am usually a homely type girl. and i have been through alot of traumatic changes in the last 2-3 years.

we met under very unusual circumstances that i wish not to mention here, and it just captured my heart and i think God's heart.

what do i do to see my hope in this fulfilled?
 
asamanthinketh said:
i am not into what people would typically call dating. i have had men in my life but dating has never been the focus. now i have met a guy who at first appears to have a character, personality and faith that i like and could mesh with me, but i am nervous about meeting a "standard" or not being exciting to him because i am usually a homely type girl. and i have been through alot of traumatic changes in the last 2-3 years.

we met under very unusual circumstances that i wish not to mention here, and it just captured my heart and i think God's heart.

what do i do to see my hope in this fulfilled?
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asamanthinketh: your name says it all, as a man thinketh, so is he. If you focus on what you are not, for example not being exciting, etc, etc it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy because when you focus on all of the problems, they only get bigger in your brain. You will always create the environment that is in you, around you.

The best advice I can give you, is be yourself regardless of how he acts or what he says. You need to plan out what you will do and who you are going to be if it doesn't work out for some reason. You also need to plan what you want and what your expectations are if it does work out. What someone else does or says should never dictate how you react. When you allow yourself to automatically react to someone they are in control of you and can easily manipulate you. Always decide ahead of time what you will do and that you will be ok regardless of what happens.

Also pay attention to whether or not he honors your boundaries. If he is constantly trying to find ways around your boundaries then this is a red flag to not continue in the romantic side of your relationship with them.

Hope this helps.

Blessings!
 
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