So this is for difficult discussions. Any topic is fine.
So here’s my difficult topic…
I’m autistic. Not bad enough to where I need help but decent enough to be recognized as weird. My parents have always said I should never have kids due to that factor…but it hurts my heart a lot at the thought of if I might not be able to have kids. And I get it I don’t want to curse my kids with severe autism and they not be able to have a good life but I’m also torn like I just want little kids ya know. What do you think?
Hi Sunshine , I don't have autism in my biological family but I do have it in my extended family . My step sisters husband had quite severe Asperger's . He is a very nice young man , however , he is extremely hard work to b around for any length of time . I hate to say this about him because I do like him , I am a bit of a straight talker and I always say what is the truth to me . He also knows that he's hard work and this makes him depressed . He has struggled so much in just about every area of his life . He struggles in every single kind of relationship from family to friends to colleagues . I'm not really able to put across in a typed message just how difficult life is for him . If I'm totally honest , I do worry that one day he might kill himself .
My family has different issues , alcoholism , anorexia and personality disorders . Both my mum and dad were / r narcissistic psycopaths . That's one of the reasons I decided many years ago to not have children .
My dad has two other children to his second wife and they r both ok but like me , because of what they went through with our dad , they have decided not to have children . Sometimes in life we face very big decisions , do I just go for it and hope for the best because it's what I want ? Or do I decide to b cautious and maybe save someone ( and maybe others too , those who might suffer at the hands of my child ) from a potentially awful life ? I chose the later and don't regret it . I married a man who already had five daughters , so I'm a step mum and a step grandma
at least one of my step daughter's has a personality disorder , just like her dad has , and one of my step grandchildren is badly autistic , from his father's side .
These things r everywhere now and it's good that we r all becoming more aware and tolerant towards people who r not exactly like ourselves . However , I did not want to b responsible for bringing another psycopath into this world and I do know that my step daughter and her husband were / r heartbroken that their little boy is do severally autistic . They worry what his life will b like , especially when they r no longer around to support him . Lots to think about
lots to pray about .
