do I have a problem???

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doubleedge

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I consider myself to be a follower of Christ, but people who disagree think I'm either gay or perverted. The reason for this is that I often look at females, but rarely talk (unsure/ shy). As a small boy, peer pressure & poor self esteem didn't really help. Ever since I was baptised, I've known that God wants me in the church, but I never lost interest in the ladies. I would be married today, but I was young & foolish. Before I met the girl who broke my heart, I never had any sexual interest in girls. Now I'm a total nymph (sex addict). 1 Corinthians 7 says that a man in my shoes should be married, but with no outlet, a man in my shoes may never get that far! Can a man of God be married, have lots of sex, & still live by the spirit, or am I totally screwed???
 
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SamIam

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If your a sex addict being married isnt gonna help that............
 
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doubleedge

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I understand that love & lust are two different things. I guess maybe the world doesn't have room for all the children I would want! Wasn't David a man with a taste for women? What about The Songs of Solomon? Is nothing sacred anymore? No wonder single parent & divorce rates climb. If I AM addicted to sex, is there NOT a balance I can achieve (through Christ) in this area? For as long as I can remember, people have condemned, & tried to curse me with their "own" words. As of late, I've taken to The Word of God which is my support in the destruction of the will of the flesh. Now... NOBODY wants to hear what I have to say. My first two names mean that my judgement is fulfilled, & only mercy awaites. The Spirit tells me that I will find what I seek, If I fulfill The Will of God in my life. The devil tried to confuse & blur my objectives in life. Only Christ can guide me, so I guess the real purpose of this post is to find more pillars of truth. I believe Christ can help ANYONE!
 
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SamIam

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Look if you have a sexual addiction.. It aint just gonna go away by reading scriptures and trying to find a ''balance'' now im not saying that reading scriptures wont help, but if you truly have an addiction, your gonna actually need to get help for that. When you look at pornography over long periods of time, or have sex it actually rewires your brain. Having any sort of sexual addiction has been proven to be more powerful than having a chemical addiction. You could even have a sexual addiction without ever actually having sex. If there is anything that involves anything sexual that you haven't been able to stop doing no matter how hard you try or no matter how hard you've prayed about it, chances are thats an addiction, also if you find yourself doing those things even though you know they have negative consequences or could possibly be destructive to yourself, but you do them anyways, you have an addiction. The longer you let this go, the worse its gonna get. www.soughtout.org or www.settingcaptivesfree.com check these out.
 
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doubleedge

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I think U misunderstand! I speak "through" lack of better words, even unto God. I don't have any actual addictions... but what U say suggests that my priorities may be mixed up.
 
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SamIam

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when you say something like.... if i AM addicted to sex.......... that leads me to believe that you could be, then reading everything else you wrote... sorry if i missunderstood, but your words suggest something different
 
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