Do you still have someone pending to forgive?

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Liz01

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I was talking with a friend the other day about forgivness and then i realized that i still needed to forgive someone of my family, so i did it, but i was thinking in the amount of ppl that are into our lives and a lot of things happens to us that maybe we forget to forgive someone and then one day whe have again the opportunity to do it.

Do you still have someone pending to forgive too?
 
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princessbella

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i think my dad ive not seen him for nearly a year, i stopped seeing him for my own reasons , my mom says ive not fogiven him cos i wont go see him, but im not ready to go see him..
 
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kayem77

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I sometimes wondered if I really forgave someone in my family...but I guess forgiveness is different to have a relationship. If the other person is not willing to, you can't force them. I would want to re-establish a relationship with that person, just as God forgave us and is willing to re-establish our relationship with Him, but if the person doesn't want to do it...I don't know what to do. Sometimes this bothers me actually...
 
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persecuted

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No. But I do carry a baseball bat everywhere I go just in case I have the opportunity to run into certain people from back when. I'm just hoping to get the chance to tell them to turn the other cheek.
 
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VikkiKate89

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The only person I really struggle to forgive, aside from my parents, is myself. I have yet to forgive myself for all the binge drinking I did a few years ago which lead to some really stupid choices and burned a lot of bridges, for being weak and unable to suck it up when I need to, for letting my ex abuse and use me even long after I knew that was all he was going to do and I just didn't care about myself anymore to put a stop to it, for never saying goodbye to my uncle or telling him I loved him before he died of AIDS and for mocking him and acting like he was a mistake while he was alive just because he was gay, for not paying attention and being there for one of my friends when he was showing blatant signs of being suicidal, for cheating on 3 boyfriends just because they were long distance relationships and I thought I could get away with it, for getting involved with a friend who was already dating someone else causing turmoil for him and the other people involved who knew about it, and above all for having to build a wall between myself and my family because I don't have it in me to deal with them anymore. There's probably no one in the world I constantly berate more than myself, and I really am my own worst enemy sometimes. But I keep getting up every morning, and I keep moving on with my life. I can't undo my past, but I can learn from it and grow from it. If I don't, then I have failed.
 
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GreenNnice

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Amen, liztheone, that you did that. God give us strength to do it. Matthew 5:22, 23 talks about forgiving too.
 
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Ellys

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Forgiving is not the "big deal" here but for me its "Forgetting". How does one Forget?
 
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Jullianna

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Ellys said:
Forgiving is not the "big deal" here but for me its "Forgetting". How does one Forget?
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Forgiving is the important part. Maybe forgetting is not as important as learning. If we learn from a thing, we can turn it into a positive.
 
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iraasuup

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Forgiveness is a hard thing to understand.

If you get the chance you should watch the movie 'Amish Grace' (based on the true story of the Amish schoolgirls who were shot by a gunman at their school).

If you've ever struggled with forgiving someone, or understanding forgiveness - this movie will really open your eyes.

The main message is that forgiveness is a CHOICE we make. It comes from the heart and it comes unconditionally- or it does not come at all. (ie: 'I'll forgive you IF you...') is NOT real forgiveness. If we hold onto the pain and the hurt and we end up suffocating our hearts with bitterness and anger- leaving no room for love to grow. In the end, the only person we're hurting is ourselves! How stupid is that?!

When we choose to forgive we make a concious choice to leave the pain behind and move on. We can't be responsible for how the other involved parties respond (they may not respond at all) but that's not our job. Our job is to love and forgive and leave the rest to God!
 
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Liz01

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iraasuup said:
Forgiveness is a hard thing to understand.

If you get the chance you should watch the movie 'Amish Grace' (based on the true story of the Amish schoolgirls who were shot by a gunman at their school).

If you've ever struggled with forgiving someone, or understanding forgiveness - this movie will really open your eyes.

The main message is that forgiveness is a CHOICE we make. It comes from the heart and it comes unconditionally- or it does not come at all. (ie: 'I'll forgive you IF you...') is NOT real forgiveness. If we hold onto the pain and the hurt and we end up suffocating our hearts with bitterness and anger- leaving no room for love to grow. In the end, the only person we're hurting is ourselves! How stupid is that?!

When we choose to forgive we make a concious choice to leave the pain behind and move on. We can't be responsible for how the other involved parties respond (they may not respond at all) but that's not our job. Our job is to love and forgive and leave the rest to God!
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I agree with you in that forgiveness is a choice, sometimes is very hard, but let us heal us and have a better life.
 
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princessbella

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iraasuup said:
Forgiveness is a hard thing to understand.

If you get the chance you should watch the movie 'Amish Grace' (based on the true story of the Amish schoolgirls who were shot by a gunman at their school).

If you've ever struggled with forgiving someone, or understanding forgiveness - this movie will really open your eyes.

The main message is that forgiveness is a CHOICE we make. It comes from the heart and it comes unconditionally- or it does not come at all. (ie: 'I'll forgive you IF you...') is NOT real forgiveness. If we hold onto the pain and the hurt and we end up suffocating our hearts with bitterness and anger- leaving no room for love to grow. In the end, the only person we're hurting is ourselves! How stupid is that?!

When we choose to forgive we make a concious choice to leave the pain behind and move on. We can't be responsible for how the other involved parties respond (they may not respond at all) but that's not our job. Our job is to love and forgive and leave the rest to God!
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You know ive held onto it for years, and its suffocated me, today i choose to leave the pain behind and move on,
 
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babarainbowsheep

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I have many to forgive.

Thing is they have no remorse nor regret or insight to what they have done.
they do not know how to have empathy, compassion that they hurt someone.
Instead they watched someone curled up in agony for years and it made them feel good to give me pain.Sadists and not in a loving way at all but conciously.
As they are educated and etc they cover t up as if it never happened or lay things on me that are not with me.
I stand for my sins but not those layed upon me by others when so is not truth (God my witness)

If it is a apolagy that is not genuine and true I know and feel that.

There are those who forgive torture and murder and years of serious abuse but what if they dont mean it or have remorse for what they did.
What if they are sociopaths, pshycopaths (what you call it) and truly took pleasure and sexual lust out of torturing some one innocent or murder etc....

What if they are not even put to law or punished.
God will one day if society does not.

Forgiving does not mean accepting or saying "thats ok" or "ok, no jail for you you get away with it cause you said "sorry" even if you mean it genuinly or not...

I do not hate and I do not do evil to conciously hurt anyone not even in selfdefence and I do forgive but I dont feel I want anything to do with them if their behaviours are truly so bad .

To 4give someone who bullied you or molested you sexually or torture or rape or....The list goes on.
But should one have to socialise with them or let them get away with crimes or "brush it off like nothing"...

Truly insighted, humbled, understand, "get it" and true genuin apolagy and remorse is different but if they dont have that then....
If someone says 4give me in a mocking rideculing tone while smiling inorder to manipulate court or something then that is not genuine.
If they find jesus and truly understand how bad it was what they did and how badly it hurt (thing is that is what they wanted..they wanted to hurt, they conciously wanted to hurt)
If they saw someone curled up in agony, locked up, had sex, sadistic sexual sm , soul rape, the list goes on ...

I am very forgiving but it depends on what and how easily I can 4give but if its not genuine I may want a restrainingorder and them to go to jail and hope they find Jesus and enlightenment, learn etc and ..........
 
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