Does he like me as more than just a friend?

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Emoore

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Ok the other day my guy friend took my seat when I got up for a second and so when I got back and he wouldn't get up I hit him with the notebook I was holding (we are just friends and I never considered anything more but do you think I came across as flirting by doing that?). Anyways he just kind of looked at me smiling and then like tickled my thigh. Then a couple days later I was sitting on a table and he sat on the table too and sat right behind me and ended up tickling my side and goes "Ohh she's ticklish there" as if that was like good to know. The thing is I've only seen him tickling one girl before and he kind of liked her at the time but it ended up not working out between them. We haven't been friends for more than six months but do you think he likes me? I'm confused with my own feelings right now too, whenever he first tickled me I started thinking about him
as more than a friend and I never have before. I can't get him out of my head now ever since he touched me, it's like the touch sparked something in me that I never noticed. Idk does this make sense?
 
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Emoore said:
Ok the other day my guy friend took my seat when I got up for a second and so when I got back and he wouldn't get up I hit him with the notebook I was holding (we are just friends and I never considered anything more but do you think I came across as flirting by doing that?). Anyways he just kind of looked at me smiling and then like tickled my thigh. Then a couple days later I was sitting on a table and he sat on the table too and sat right behind me and ended up tickling my side and goes "Ohh she's ticklish there" as if that was like good to know. The thing is I've only seen him tickling one girl before and he kind of liked her at the time but it ended up not working out between them. We haven't been friends for more than six months but do you think he likes me? I'm confused with my own feelings right now too, whenever he first tickled me I started thinking about him
as more than a friend and I never have before. I can't get him out of my head now ever since he touched me, it's like the touch sparked something in me that I never noticed. Idk does this make sense?
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it sounds to me like HE is being the flirtatious one, but what concerns me is the way he's flirting. I think it's inappropriate of him to be touching your thigh and tickling your stomach. To me it sounds like he's trying to entice you into bed. Your statement of "oh she's ticklish there, like it was good to know" also worries me. He's learning what turns you on, so to speak. Which would be of good advantage to him if he ever DOES get you in bed. I had a guy who I was good friends with, he asked me out, and cheated on me from day one. He dumped me and I haven't spoken to him since. Ask yourself this question: is going to bed with him/ going out with him worth the risk that the relationship might not work out and your friendship with him will be ruined? Also ask yourself if he's only acting this way because he just wants a romp in the hay a time or two? I don't know how old you are, but I hope if something DOES happen and you end up in bed, absolutely use protection because you don't know who he's been with or what disease(s) he might have.. Be careful and be smart..
 
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it sounds to me like HE is being the flirtatious one, but what concerns me is the way he's flirting. I think it's inappropriate of him to be touching your thigh and tickling your stomach. To me it sounds like he's trying to entice you into bed. Your statement of "oh she's ticklish there, like it was good to know" also worries me. He's learning what turns you on, so to speak. Which would be of good advantage to him if he ever DOES get you in bed. I had a guy who I was good friends with, he asked me out, and cheated on me from day one. He dumped me and I haven't spoken to him since. Ask yourself this question: is going to bed with him/ going out with him worth the risk that the relationship might not work out and your friendship with him will be ruined? Also ask yourself if he's only acting this way because he just wants a romp in the hay a time or two? I don't know how old you are, but I hope if something DOES happen and you end up in bed, absolutely use protection because you don't know who he's been with or what disease(s) he might have.. Be careful and be smart..
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Yeah I would even maybe tell someone about it. He seems to be trying to get her into doing something. There shouldn't be a reason for anyone to be touching people like that. I'd pray to remain pure and continue focusing on God.
 
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If it were me, I'd tell him to stop feeling me up or I'm gonna break his fingers..but that's just what I personally would do..lol..

*I am not condoning the use of violence in this situation..lol.. :p
 
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Of course your feelings make sense. Pray about it, talk to him, pray some more, and come what may.

Blessings either way.
 
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If it were me, I'd tell him to stop feeling me up or I'm gonna break his fingers..but that's just what I personally would do..lol..

*I am not condoning the use of violence in this situation..lol.. :p
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I'm scared to just approach a girl and say hi. Let alone touching her anywhere :p
 
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I'm scared to just approach a girl and say hi. Let alone touching her anywhere :p
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just remember I'm a ninja..I know a thousand ways to hurt you and make it look accidental..lol jk.. ;)
 
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just remember I'm a ninja..I know a thousand ways to hurt you and make it look accidental..lol jk.. ;)
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Your avatar says it all. In my Liam Neeson voice. "I will find you."
 
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lol.. ninja's are experts at remaining invisible.. :p
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Blue's ninja vanishing skills involve prolonged bed rest with Tequila until you least suspect her chronic back pain to ebb. :p (I hope you're feeling better by the way.)

@OP: Of course he likes you, and you like him. He probably fell out of like with the other girl because she wasn't ticklish enough. Now smack him again with that lovebook and make it happen! ;)
 
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Switch out the notebook for a heavy KJV Bible, then see if he's still interested.
 
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Call him on it. You don't want to get involvdd with this guy. If anything hes trying to sleep with you. You haven't really know him long enough to know you can trust him as a friend. He probably been planning this for awhile. Always keep boundries when your in this situation. Ive seen too many of my female friends end up in situations like this where it goes too far. You need have him back off and set some boundries in your friendship.
 
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Call him on it. You don't want to get involvdd with this guy. If anything hes trying to sleep with you. You haven't really know him long enough to know you can trust him as a friend. He probably been planning this for awhile. Always keep boundries when your in this situation. Ive seen too many of my female friends end up in situations like this where it goes too far. You need have him back off and set some boundries in your friendship.
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amen and ditto.. this guy is bad news. He's violating your physical space by basically groping you. It makes you uncomfortable and it's inappropriate of him to do it. As I said in a previous post, he's doing it to gauge your reaction to it. If you just smile and tolerate it, he figures you like it. Make it clear to him that you DON'T like it and it needs to stop. Otherwise he'll keep doing it and escalate it to something more, possibly forcing himself on you. Have someone with you when you tell him to leave you alone, that way you have a witness so he can't say that you never told him that, and also having someone there with you will deter him from trying anything with you. Remember this, even friends betray us. I'd hate to see you become a victim of his sexual advances, because I've been a victim of it myself, by a so-called "friend" of mine..
 
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Emoore

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Thank you all for the advice...

A little edit to my original post:

Okay well I suppose there was a time when I had started thinking about him, but it freaked me out whenever it popped into my head so I forced those thoughts out, and then they resurfaced through all of this. Is it possible he's just being a friend? I have also noticed that he posts pictures of his other friend, whom I know but not personally, and says how pretty she is, however she has a boyfriend and he doesn't talk about her ever. But she's you know average pretty like me I suppose. So I guess it makes me doubt myself... I've always done that though because I don't feel like people could like me in that way. But seeing these posts make me jealous for some reason even though I'm still confused about these feelings I'm having again. I hadn't realized it but yes, I think feelings were starting to develop quite a while ago but I refused to let myself dwell on it further. Now they are back and as much as I try I can't get them to go away this time.
 
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Emoore said:
Thank you all for the advice...

A little edit to my original post:

Okay well I suppose there was a time when I had started thinking about him, but it freaked me out whenever it popped into my head so I forced those thoughts out, and then they resurfaced through all of this. Is it possible he's just being a friend? I have also noticed that he posts pictures of his other friend, whom I know but not personally, and says how pretty she is, however she has a boyfriend and he doesn't talk about her ever. But she's you know average pretty like me I suppose. So I guess it makes me doubt myself... I've always done that though because I don't feel like people could like me in that way. But seeing these posts make me jealous for some reason even though I'm still confused about these feelings I'm having again. I hadn't realized it but yes, I think feelings were starting to develop quite a while ago but I refused to let myself dwell on it further. Now they are back and as much as I try I can't get them to go away this time.
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Someone who is just a good friend to you, does NOT try to feel you up the way this guy has.. He has dubious intentions toward you, in my opinion.. take this issue to God and ask him to help you get over these feelings.. This guy wants ONE thing from you: SEX. That's why he keeps tickling you and touching your thigh. Put a stop to his behavior now before his hand moves a little higher up your thigh next time. His behavior is inappropriate, and you need to tell him that.
 
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Don't you feel you deserve the best? Because that is what God has in store for you. He always has your best interests at heart. Why do you feel the best you deserve is someone that violates your space and is disrespectful to you?
 
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blue_ladybug said:
it sounds to me like HE is being the flirtatious one, but what concerns me is the way he's flirting. I think it's inappropriate of him to be touching your thigh and tickling your stomach. To me it sounds like he's trying to entice you into bed. Your statement of "oh she's ticklish there, like it was good to know" also worries me. He's learning what turns you on, so to speak. Which would be of good advantage to him if he ever DOES get you in bed. I had a guy who I was good friends with, he asked me out, and cheated on me from day one. He dumped me and I haven't spoken to him since. Ask yourself this question: is going to bed with him/ going out with him worth the risk that the relationship might not work out and your friendship with him will be ruined? Also ask yourself if he's only acting this way because he just wants a romp in the hay a time or two? I don't know how old you are, but I hope if something DOES happen and you end up in bed, absolutely use protection because you don't know who he's been with or what disease(s) he might have.. Be careful and be smart..
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Wow. That just escalated! And here's me thinking tickling friends was just innocent fun, I'm more often than not on the receiving end (although tickling thighs is inappropriate for someone not in a committed relationship).
 
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Wow. That just escalated! And here's me thinking tickling friends was just innocent fun...
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Yeah, I had the same impression. :p
 
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Lets look at this in a spiritual way: CONFUSION only comes from ONE source. That source is NOT Godly. He sounds like he is 'more secure' than you are in the 'feeling' department. Whether his motives are simple, complicated, wildly provocative, or just silly immature teenage actions without thinking, you owe him NOTHING. Defend your body, defent your emotions by being a friend but be stern and mature instead of what appears here as a bowl of mush when he touches and tickles you. Would you go up to a guy and tickle him? Hopefully not!
 
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Lets look at this in a spiritual way: CONFUSION only comes from ONE source. That source is NOT Godly. He sounds like he is 'more secure' than you are in the 'feeling' department. Whether his motives are simple, complicated, wildly provocative, or just silly immature teenage actions without thinking, you owe him NOTHING. Defend your body, defent your emotions by being a friend but be stern and mature instead of what appears here as a bowl of mush when he touches and tickles you. Would you go up to a guy and tickle him? Hopefully not!
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yepp.. what he said.. :)
 
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