Effects of pornography on a Christian marriage

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LadyC

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I married a man who struggled with pornography addiction off and on throughout our 19 year marriage. The temptation seemed to rear it's ugly head every 3 or 4 years. Each time he confessed or I found out about it he was very broken and repentant. He tried accountability partners and very brief counseling but each time he gave in again it seemed to be worse. What started out as a brief look at a magazine grew into movies, then an emotional affair, then he left. He left because he said I wasn't his 'soulmate' and there was no intimate connection to me. He says that he prayed unceasingly for God to change his heart but got no response. I have a theory about his lack of connection to me but I'm wondering if anyone has had experience with this type of situation and maybe you can shed some light on why he couldn't connect with me no matter how hard he tried.
 
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I was not married to this person....but was in a relationship where he confessed to me that it has corrupted his mind so much that he is guilt ridden.
He almost can't forgive himself for *not* being able to get over the porn and masturbation.
I had told him that I would not and could not compete with it...and I think men realize this as well.

Even though you know it is not you...it can be very exhausting always wondering why your not enough. Its a visious cycle for everyone involved. Leaves many broken and empty hearts.
 
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