I've read some of the threads and am moved by the attempts to reach out. I'm new here, preparing to bury my beautiful wife in a few short hours and want to share a few thoughts on "family." I have never appreciated my wife as fully in life as I have in her untimely deaf. We had a wonderful life together, but when that relationship moves from the present to the past you realize that you don't have forever to get it right, to be better or try harder. My youngest daughter was angry with my wife on the morning of the day my wife passed. Before leaving for school her last words were "leave me alone." The words were prophetic. Today she is devastated. Others, including me, wonder if our last moments with her were sufficient to be counted as what we wanted her to know about what she meant to us. My recommendation to those who have issues that they don't know how to address to family members is this; don't wait. Do it in love, be prepared to be patient and forgiving, and no matter what keep your words to something that you would be proud to remember if it was your last opportunity. You may not resolve the problem or issue right there and then, but you'll be blessed and in the fullness of time you'll come to know that.