Hey all... I really need advice....
I love my father, but we dont really have any relationship, and I dont know how to change that. It's always awkward talking to my dad. How do I build a relationship with him? I only moved in with him 4 years ago, and its just... difficult. My stepmom says its because I haven't forgiven him for the past things... but I dont know what to forgive him for..(?)
If anyone has a bit of advice, please share.....
Trying to talk about little things is a good idea. But also pay attention to his responses. They might give
you more things that interest him. Also, if you can find a hobby that interest both of you, it will provide
a distraction to focus on as your relationship grows simply because you are spending time together.
Maybe he likes bowling or riding bikes. Some the best times I had with my daughter were just the two
of us goofing off riding around town on bikes.
Once you have tried for a while, if things aren't going well, you might hit it head on. Talk to him. Tell
him how you want to get to know him. You want him to be an active part of your life instead of just
existing in it. These are guy statements. They may not mean much to a woman but these statements
are high profile, red alert statements to a guy. He will understand them and see there is a problem
he needs to deal with.
But be patient and help as you can. Let him know you don't care if he makes some mistakes trying to
figure it out. Let him know its the effort that makes you happy and together the two of you will reach
the results together. Help him to not get discouraged if something doesn't work. You would amazed
how if something failed and you just gave him a big hug and said thanks, the positive impact it will
have. He won't see it as a failure. He'll see it as something that made his daughter proud.